A letter to the pursuer 1
Dear friends:
I'm sorry, maybe I'll let you down. I know that in your hearts, you all want me to be happy! Your love and affection make me feel that I am not so lonely, and also make me deeply feel what it means to be held in the palm of my hand. Maybe I am really happy, because I have your company and care all the way. I know I hurt too many people. Although others say that love is selfish, I still want to say "sorry" to those who have been hurt by me.
I cried silently after getting up this morning. Maybe I can't count how many times I cried, and I don't know why I cried. All I know is that I'm so tired. Every time I force myself to laugh in front of everyone, I have to make up many reasons to make myself laugh. Kay ~ I don't regret breaking up with you, because I feel very happy and relaxed to get along with you as a friend now. I didn't feel this feeling before, so I'm glad that we are still such good friends after breaking up. I really like this feeling of talking and laughing.
Just this morning I made a decision for myself ~ ~ I don't want to choose any one as my boyfriend. . . . I want to give myself more space to stop thinking about my boyfriend for the time being. I should live my own life. If you want to ask me why, ask yourself first: Do you really love me? How important I am to you? Have you really cared about me? What have you given me? . . Your love has gone the wrong way. You can't give me anything I want, so I'll give myself what I want. My brain has exceeded the load I can bear. What you bring me is not happiness, but hurt, hurt again and again. So please put down your love for me ~ ~ ~ to find your own happiness, and I will really smile and bless you. In my heart, I will still treat you as a friend. If you choose not to be friends, I won't be forced. Don't blame me for being heartless. I just want to go back to who I was. Maybe my decision is really selfish, but I don't want to explain anything to myself. I think my family and friends also want me to make such a choice. . .
This is the first time I have been able to tell my true feelings so frankly. I feel that I am not the one who can say this, because I didn't have the courage before. I feel very relaxed now. I hope you can support me. Let me finish the next arrangement smoothly. Thank you! ! Thank you for your care over the years. I really appreciate it. I believe it will be my best memory in the future.
Letter to the pursuer 2
Hello;
Seriously, if you like me and then I let you know the existence of this diary, then I can tell you honestly, congratulations, you have successfully taken my heart away. However, before you formally pursue me and confess to me, please read this letter patiently; After reading it, perhaps, your good feeling for me will disappear with the passage of time.
I have to let you know that I am a girl who is eager to be loved by boys. As long as you are willing to pay for me and make me happy, it is only a matter of time before I am moved. If I say I love you, that means I really love you. I'm not just talking about those three emotional words.
Honey, I like you, but you must know:
The curse handed down from four generations in my family.
Dad was not superstitious before, but when he knew that I was in love (first love), he immediately opposed it and invited a Feng Shui master to see the fate of our family. My father, he believes in the curse handed down by our ancestors. This is the curse of my grandfather's grandfather. The history of my ancestors is really dark. In short, the curse is: in my family, whenever the first child of any generation is a woman, that girl will have a bad life and a bad fate, which will bring bad luck to her future husband and family. It's okay to pass it down from four generations, because they are all men, but by the fifth generation, my girl appeared. If your parents are superstitious, please give me up; Long pain is better than short pain. I hope you are happy. I don't want you to have an argument with your family because of me, because I am a so-called jinx. If you insist, if you believe that I will bring you happiness, then I will love you all my life. This is my promise. Unless, you choose to give up on me.
Sorry, you are not my first love.
My first love was given to a very special boy at the age of eighteen. Almost the whole bag was given to him. Do you mind? Of course, I am still a virgin. My virginity will only be dedicated to my husband. This is my promise to myself, and I must keep it.
I was in debt as soon as I graduated from college.
My father asked me to change my college tuition to wish me happiness. Do you mind?
My father is a very traditional and strict person.
Want to arrest me? Then you have to convince my dad that he is strict because he loves me. Besides, his life is really hard. If your parents will look down on him because of his extraordinary life, I'm sorry, I can't be with you. I can't stand my father or mother being looked down upon by anyone.
Most importantly, I can't fall in love until I'm 23.
If you still choose to continue to like me after reading this article, please prove yourself and come on.
I am an eighteen-year-old fallen leaf.
Letter to the pursuer 3
Dear true lover:
You must start with your personal definition of true love. Without it, your search is meaningless, just like a detour without an exit. Don't look it up in the dictionary, because this definition is in your life philosophy and experience.
Our happiness in adulthood is rooted in the soil of childhood. In order to survive, we instinctively get close to our mother, and then finally understand the protection of our father. As we all know, our love comes from these early interactions. Instead of spreading countless theories about "mommy" and "daddy", it is better to start with the idea that you have been able to get along with the past and are eager to move forward in your love relationship.
The best way to predict a person's future behavior is to look at his past behavior. Looking back on what you did, you can say that you fell in love with the most important person? Yourself? Throw away your arrogance. Do you love yourself now?
1. Love yourself
If there is no love in your heart, you can't love others deeply. Resentment cannot be buried for a long time; Its smell will destroy the love you find and send you back to a dead end.
Loving oneself means accepting one's lack of humanity and coexistence of achievements. So the pressure is gone! The person you are looking for will not have the burden to "save" you, because you have completely accepted yourself. With that kind of comfort, you can let go and accept others, and then emotional communication can begin.
Put yourself aside.
In order to better integrate into a relationship, changing yourself is a sacrifice that must be made. This certainly doesn't mean that you have to give up your personality, but if the love you are looking for is really limited, the fact is that "if you want more, you have to pay more."
Put your ego aside and explore what is best for two people, which will become the best daily choice for individuals. Every couple must find the best place, which will make them independent and healthy to a certain extent.
3. Clear expectations
You love yourself, you think you love another person, and your relationship has great potential. Do you both have clear expectations for this relationship?
If this is the true love you are looking for, it is not a problem to discuss the future development of the two of you. Love is fragile. If two people can't be honest with each other and support each other's concerns and expectations, are you looking for love?
4. Don't promise
Although it sounds cruel and runs counter to your expectations of true love, the pressure of commitment will eventually lead to a breakup. Instead, I try to express myself purposefully. Intention adds realism to love; When we make ourselves vulnerable, people become the most vulnerable. When we give ourselves the pressure of "I promise to love you forever", we are nourishing our inner fears.
Intellectually, we know that love will not be perfect because we are not perfect. Therefore, the roar of heartbroken lovers is as old as human beings. Don't be afraid of "promises are doomed to be broken", but accept the idea that you will "take your intentions to heart".
5. Confirm your chemical reaction
True love is based on chemical reaction. We should not be discouraged by this fact, but should celebrate it. The hormonal effect that triggers a chemical reaction between two people is like a miracle.
Take care of yourself and prepare yourself psychologically and emotionally. This will help you sort yourself out after the fog of love clears, and then you can enjoy the benefits of a mutually successful relationship. People who have celebrated countless happy anniversaries give the same advice? After the initial chemical reaction, true love begins. Take some time to learn how to keep your chemical reaction in the best condition.
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