Whether it is lovers, relatives or friends, complaining about everything will inevitably lead to quarrels and estrangements. Even a strong relationship will break down a little.
"The Analects of Confucius" said: "Bowing to the knees and lightly blaming others is far from blaming others."
It means that more self-reflection and less blaming others can keep you away from disputes and resentment. If you always find fault with other people's shortcomings and mistakes, severe criticism will often arouse their antipathy.
How hard life is, making mistakes is the norm.
We should, as the ancients said, "blame ourselves with the heart of blaming others and forgive others with the heart of forgiving ourselves."
When dealing with people and things, when you encounter problems, always be tolerant and don't just blame.
When there are contradictions, you should think more about each other and don't complain endlessly.
Feelings are unreasonable and people are not close.
Between lovers, it is not easy to blame, in order to maintain long-term trust;
It is not easy for family members to blame each other, so that the family and everything can flourish;
Between friends, it is not easy to blame each other, and the tree of friendship can be evergreen.
The establishment of every relationship is hard-won, and everyone should know how to cherish and maintain it.
Therefore, no matter what happens, always remember that in interpersonal communication, respect is more valuable than care, and relief is more effective than complaining.
Not blaming something is the best medicine for a harmonious and long-term relationship.