Women can be strong in marriage, but not strong. In a relatively stable and happy marriage, a strong woman often corresponds to a weak man, which is also a relatively stable and complementary combination. But in marriage, women are too strong and marriage is prone to problems. Therefore, if a woman can't be strong in marriage all her life, then don't be strong all the time. Because women are too strong, it is easy to cause many marriage problems.
The first problem easily leads to the confusion of the roles and status of men and women in marriage.
In our concept, the division of roles between men and women in traditional marriage, or the orientation of social roles, is often relatively fixed, that is, men are the masters outside and women are the masters inside. Although everyone in society now pursues equality between men and women, this equality is often only conceptual and it is difficult to achieve real equality. However, the equality between family members, especially the equality between husband and wife, should be more reflected. But more often, the status of men as the head of the family is acquiesced and accepted by most families. Therefore, once a woman becomes stronger and replaces a man psychologically and in life, and becomes the head of the family, she will take the place of a man intentionally or unintentionally, ignoring his feelings in many things, and the role orientation in this marriage acceptable to the public will be chaotic.
The second problem is that men tend to lose their male self-esteem, which leads to discord between husband and wife.
A woman's marriage is too strong. If it can be adjusted well, this marriage will flourish. If, just being strong, rather than being strong and capable, you can't manage a marriage, then the biggest direct victim of a woman's strength is a man. She will make a man develop Nuo Nuo's unique personality, afraid to make a decision on anything, and have no definite view, which will make him lose the self-esteem that a man should have. If this state is maintained for a period of time, it may give women a sense of superiority. After a long time, women will gradually feel that men are useless, losers and depressed. One day, women will start to hate this man they created, which will affect the relationship between husband and wife.
The third problem, easy to lead to men's rebellious mentality, bent on getting rid of the control of marriage.
In marriage, women are too strong, which is generally not the result that men expect. The reason why women are strong is often because some men deliberately please women because of love, and some men are really incompetent and helpless to be controlled. But as a man who has been strongly suppressed and reprimanded by women for a long time, he is very uncomfortable and will have rebellious psychology. If a man's repressed emotions are not released for a long time, it is easy to suppress a person. Once he is released, once it breaks out, this marriage will easily go wrong and go to the other extreme.
The fourth question, a woman who is too strong is most likely to get bored with herself and then be disappointed with her marriage.
A woman who is too strong often feels that she is the other person's problem when facing marriage problems. When I confide after an injury, I always feel that I am innocent. I have worked so hard, but I can't get the respect, understanding or even gratitude of men. On the contrary, I think men are too ungrateful. I would say that if men can take care of all this, they can stop asking themselves how happy these things are. Women who are too strong have a theory that my strength is forced out. In fact, most men are willing to take on family responsibilities. To put it bluntly, many women are asking for it. A woman who is too strong is most likely to get bored with herself and then be disappointed in her marriage. Of course, a large part of love rat did hurt innocent women.
Based on the above four points, we find that women can be strong, but not strong. It is not anyone's responsibility to maintain feelings, care for love and manage marriage. This requires men and women to live in harmony and work together.