In his view, a person who doesn't know right and wrong, but only knows how to be soft-hearted, looks very easy to get along with, especially has the spirit of sacrifice and dedication, and is willing to satisfy others. In fact, it is a manifestation of his cowardice and unprincipled, because this character will only lead to his ignorance and humiliation all his life.
As the saying goes:? People are good at being bullied and horses are good at being ridden? Once you become such a person in the eyes of others, you will not be respected by others because you know how to give in, but will attract others to make further efforts and push your luck.
And some people are inherently unreliable, and staying away is the best policy. Being too close to them, conniving and supporting their words and deeds may also bring you stupidity or disaster.
No matter how capable, kind and generous a person is, he should not be soft-hearted to the people below. The reason and reason have been made clear before!
A man who breaks his word.
Zuo Zhuan recorded such a story: Jin wanted to attack Guo, but it was not adjacent to it, so Zhangkou borrowed money from Guo's neighbor Yu.
Yu Guojun thought about it and promised that Jin could get rich gifts and considerable benefits, build good relations with the powerful Jin State, and eliminate a neighboring country that might pose a threat to him in the future. That's great! So he agreed without hesitation.
However, he did not consider in advance what kind of character the monarch of the State of Jin was, what kind of character this person was, and whether he was loyal or not, which was the reason why he was finally destroyed.
After Jin attacked and destroyed the country through the border of Yu, when it returned to Yu, which was open to itself, it was easy to destroy it together.
If Yu Guojun had refused, and Guo, which has always had a good relationship, had joined forces to fight against the State of Jin, or stood by, I'm afraid the State of Jin would not be so easy to kill two birds with one stone.
Therefore, people who believe in their promises are making things difficult for themselves, making them suffer, and even bringing unexpected stupid decisions.
You don't know what this kind of person will do, because the other person turns against him and denies others, and his conduct is extremely poor.
A person's words and deeds are inconsistent.
From the political and literary point of view, Zhu, the so-called Confucian sage, naturally deserves everyone's admiration and respect.
However, if we consider from the aspects of morality and personality, Zhu is actually a typical hypocrite who says one thing and does another. He's hitting someone? Defend justice and destroy human desire? Doing a lot of wicked things under the banner.
In order to deal with his political opponent Tang, he framed an innocent woman: Yan Rui, a famous prostitute.
He found that Tang admired Yan Rui very much, so he made up a charge to arrest and torture Yan Rui without authorization, hoping that she would provide perjury to help him deal with Tang.
Who would have thought that Yan Rui was a fierce woman, but she refused to give in after being tortured. Finally, it shocked the emperor. As a result, Zhu and Tang Dou were dismissed.
Moreover, he also has an unshirkable responsibility for ancient women's foot binding, and does not treat women as human beings at all. Besides, she is greedy for money and lustful. In addition to taking a nun as a concubine, after the death of the eldest son, the eldest daughter-in-law who stayed at his house became pregnant, and everyone can make up for the situation by themselves.
It is said that Zhu, who is superstitious about Feng Shui, dug other people's ancestral graves in order to choose a good grave for himself?
People who don't live up to their words and deeds like this are usually particularly insidious and unpredictable. Get close to them and be hurt by them, and one day you will face all kinds of unimaginable dangers.
selfish
Selfish and reckless people are extremely dangerous because they have no judgment on their words and deeds.
If such a person is in a high position, it is simply? A disaster for the country and the people? .
Everyone has heard of it? Playing the prince in the bonfire? Such an allusion: In order to win the favor and smile of his concubine, Zhou Youwang repeatedly asked his soldiers to light the beacon tower and send princes thousands of miles away? Rescue? .
As a result, after being cheated several times, when the real danger happened, the princes no longer believed it, so they died.
People who don't even know what to do and what not to do are quite short-sighted and extremely ignorant.
This kind of person only considers his own mood at the moment, regardless of any consequences, and dares to joke about everything, including the safety of the country and the lives of a country's people.
Such a person will never care about anyone or anything except himself. I'm afraid the consequences of being soft on them are not as simple as hurting yourself, and the consequences are often unimaginable.
Of course, the above examples are all based on the harm of these people's personality characteristics, but they also help everyone to see why being soft on them is an enemy of themselves.
It is because these people have a * * * nature: they will never consider anything from each other's point of view, and their starting point will always be self-interest rather than benefiting others.
Even sometimes this kind of egoism is the kind that only cares about the present, regardless of the future, and even hurts itself together.
Therefore, once you find these kinds of people around you, you must be vigilant and carefully keep a safe distance. Sometimes when you have suffered from them, you may even lose the chance to take precautions next time. This is by no means alarmist!