I think so, as long as we are well fed and poorly buried. As long as children are filial to their parents in their lifetime, that is filial piety. Why should they care about how their parents will be buried after a hundred years? Those behaviors of "being born unfilial and screaming when you die" are shameful and even despicable. ...
My idea is that when I can't do anything, my children just don't dislike it, even if I can have three meals a day and have a shelter from the wind and rain. After death, ashes were scattered everywhere, and people died. why ...
I think it should be possible. My father died last year, and his parents agreed to bury him at sea after he left. My father left us on July 3rd, last year. In August, our brother, sister and relatives followed the sea burial ceremony organized by the government and went to Liaohekou for sea burial. I personally put the special urn containing my father's ashes on the surface of Liaohe River at the mouth of the sea through a rope. At this moment, tears have blurred my vision, and I clearly know what the result is when my hand is released. So I didn't want to let go for a long time, and finally I said, "Dad, I love you forever!" " "Then I let go of my hand. Standing on the boat, watching my father's special urn (made of cardboard) float away in the direction of the sea, my heart ached, so I called my father. ...
My father started a sea burial in my home, and I admire his choice after his death.
In fact, people are cremated at high temperature after death, and there is no pollution. No matter what kind of funeral is a way, there is no private land in China, and the cemetery has a limited number of years. Our generation are all children. In the words of the old man, we don't know if anyone will come to the cemetery to sweep the grave in the future. When the time comes, people will clean up directly. It is better to have an eternal foothold. Therefore, choosing the sea as the final destination is not necessarily the best.
Honor your parents and wish the elderly a long and healthy life!
Written in tears!
I only believe in science, not superstition. My mother died two years earlier, and my father died two years after the ashes were stored in the funeral home. We rented a boat and bought flowers according to the old man's will, and scattered ashes and flowers in the Songhua River. I thought the shipowner kept it a secret and planned to spread it secretly. But the shipowner understood at a glance and was very enlightened. He also sailed the boat to the middle of the river and swam around the island. He said that many charterers scatter ashes every year, which has become a boatman's business. It can be seen that more and more people have got rid of superstition, which is a kind of progress of mankind. In fact, from burial to cremation, this is a leap of human civilization. From the initial incomprehension and conflict to the present, this process has also experienced the game between tradition and innovation. The emergence of anything new is accompanied by the end of something old. Think about it, only a small part of the cremated ashes were collected, and the rest were thrown away as garbage. Buying a cemetery to store ashes is just a psychological comfort for people. But it is also an eternal concern. If all the family members come out to work and there is no one in their hometown, will they go back to worship every year? Those who go abroad will never come back. Who will take care of you when the grandchildren come? Therefore, in order not to increase the burden on children, we should also leave no ashes.
My parents died last year. They told our three daughters before they died; If you are seriously ill, don't buy a cemetery and bury it in a tree after death. When they were alive, we all respected the wishes of the two old people and didn't think much. Because I don't want to think that they will leave us, thinking that this is something in the future. Last March, my mother was seriously ill and died ten days later. We deposited her ashes in the funeral home. 1On October 20th, my healthy father lay down to sleep after lunch and suddenly left.
My parents left us a year later. I found it hard to accept and my heart ached to the extreme. Recalling that our parents raised us all our lives, we scrimped and saved, and we could not bear to eat or wear. Father has been eating leftovers for many years, and we are reluctant to wear the good clothes we bought him. Save part of your salary every month for your brother's children to go to college and for your grandson to go to college. I want to leave the last bit of money to my three daughters, and I am afraid of spending money to buy a cemetery. The old man has been worried about his children all his life, afraid to spend money on serious illness relief and buying a cemetery. When parents are alive, sometimes they feel that they are too much in charge, stubborn, nagging and sometimes contradictory. When I leave, I always think about their good, and feel that they are busy all day and don't care enough about them. So when they left, our three sisters didn't do what they wanted and decided to buy them a cemetery to be buried together. So whenever I miss them, I will go to the cemetery to sweep the grave and talk to them. Although yin and yang are separated, talking about what happened around us is still the same as when I was alive. I feel that they are still with us, sharing weal and woe with us. So I think burying my parents well is also a spiritual sustenance for myself. It is said that your parents are one layer away from death, and you will face death when your parents leave. I miss the days when someone cared about me, and I really want to hear their nagging again. Everyone should cherish the days when their parents are alive, otherwise it will hurt when they think about it.
Whether it is possible or not is just a matter of concept.
The year before last, I went to Guide, Qinghai. I was attracted by the clear river water and the scenery of the Yellow River Bridge in Guide. When I stopped to get off the bridge, I found a lot of paper and ashes and burnt clothes on the shore. Not far away, there are several piles of people burning paper and crying. I feel that it doesn't match the beautiful scenery, which aroused my curiosity. Take the opportunity to ask the local people for advice when eating.
It is said that in recent years, a popular funeral method in the local area is that family members destroy the remains of the deceased at the bridgehead, scatter them into the Yellow River according to their wills, and then pay homage to relatives and friends at the riverside on holidays.
This stems from the fact that Guide is located in other areas where Han and Tibet meet. In the past, the phenomenon of Tibetan dead buried on rafts along the river has disappeared with the improvement of modern consciousness, but its concept of leaving no bones has influenced the Han nationality. Coupled with the example set by Premier Zhou in arranging the aftermath, it is enough for many people to follow suit!
At present, many local people are worried about their children and future generations or the environment, and more and more people make wills and bury their ashes in the Yellow River without leaving a cemetery or tombstone.
Filial piety is the first of all virtues, and obedience to the wishes of the elderly is also a manifestation of filial piety, and repairing thin burial is a symbol of the times. Driving the crane west, the sound is everywhere. As long as you don't forget the grace of parenting, remember to inculcate and pass on the traditional virtues of the elderly to future generations, this is the essence of grief. Tombstones are just a form.
First of all, in a word, just listen to the wishes of the elderly, there are not so many taboos. Anyway, let the old man get his wish.
Our respected Premier Zhou's last words were not to occupy an inch of the country's land, but to scatter the ashes on the great rivers and mountains of the motherland. His last wish was fulfilled by his wife Deng Ying Chao.
My father, also an old party member, has been in good health since his retirement. No one expected that cancer found him. We children were afraid that it would be hard for the elderly to accept it, so * * * agreed to hide the illness. I hurried to the hospital. Some people say that buying a cemetery can pray for the elderly, so they buy it privately. When I really can't hide, my father's last wish is not to buy a cemetery, but to bury it in a tree. I know I bought it, and I didn't say anything more, but we all did it one by one, asking me not to make a fuss, not to put a wreath, not to inform my relatives and friends, and not to accept gifts.
When I was chatting with my children, I also said that if I died, all I had to do was sprinkle my ashes on the Yellow River. Buying a cemetery is a waste. If I want to pay homage, I will take a trip to the Yellow River to show my filial piety.
It's not that we have any noble character and don't want to cause trouble to our children after death. To tell the truth, buying a cemetery means that two generations will pay homage, and whether the children in the future can remember it is another story. Now that the population is so mobile, it is uncertain which city the children will develop in. How can they have time and energy to pay homage? What is the difference between a long time and no owner?
Tens of thousands of dollars to buy a piece of land is not only a waste of resources, but also a waste of time and money. Just kidding, how affordable it is to buy a few pounds of meat and eat it in your stomach!
Obeying the old man's idea is the greatest filial piety!
Why not do this? Respecting the wishes of the elderly is the best arrangement. I wonder if your parents have any religious beliefs. People with religious beliefs, such as Buddhism and Christianity, believe that the human soul is immortal. It is useless to leave a body after death. Religious people don't care about this body. It doesn't matter what to do with the body. So don't worry so much, just do what parents want.
I find that your parents think similarly to me. I thought about it again. After I die, I want my children to pour my ashes into the sea.
Since I am in the same class as your parents, let me tell you why I have such an idea. Mainly because of my following reasons.
I never believed in the theory of ghosts and gods. I was superstitious when I was a child, because my parents were traditional rural people. Every time I get sick, I will find some strangers to do something for peace, but I find it useless. Later, when I grew up, I naturally understood everything. People are thinking about animals. The so-called going to heaven or going to hell after death is a means to deceive the weak, and it is nothing more than making you afraid to do something.
In addition, I have seen many unfair people in society. After being hurt, I found that those who hurt people are alive and well, and there is no ghost to avenge them. Therefore, ghosts and gods are just a spiritual sustenance for unfairness.
If you don't believe in ghosts and gods, of course you won't believe that you will go to heaven after death. After death, you will actually be a handful of dust.
Many children are not around now. Even if a cemetery is built, at most, the first generation of children may come to worship you after your death. By the time the second or third generation comes, they will have forgotten who you are. What's more, many cemeteries will be pushed to nothing after many years. What I bought at the beginning was sold by others. Last time, they saw someone paving the floor with tombstones. This does not violate the original intention of erecting a monument.
Second, the cemetery is only the sustenance of the soul. For many people, when their parents die, a tombstone is set up, that is, when they miss them, they can go to that place to speak their minds. In fact, they are not talking to their parents, but solving their unhappiness. I think it's good to say it It does work for some people.
If you are such a person, you can completely go against your parents' wishes. After they die, you can erect a monument. Anyway, they left, and I didn't know at the time. When they left, there was nothing.
Thirdly, I want to send a message to my children. When I first had this idea, I wanted to tell him in this way that I must go out when I am alive. When I died, I had nothing. I got along well when my parents were alive. When I died, I was actually a pile of ashes, scattered into the sea and finally turned into dust.
Fourth, don't spend money on a cemetery. Now many cemeteries are hundreds of thousands. For those who make money, this is an opportunity to get rich, so I will tell you that you are unlucky. Maybe the ancestral grave is in the wrong place. I remember there was a family in our village. Because both sons are in their thirties and worried about their parents, they finally found a yin and yang teacher. As a result, they said that there was something wrong with the ancestral grave and finally moved it. Who knows that the result is still the same after moving the grave, and finally moved the grave many times. In fact, their children can't find a partner because their children are too timid to blush when talking to girls. This is not a serious problem at all.
Therefore, after death, let the children spend hundreds of thousands to buy a useless tombstone. It is better to let the children use this money to live every day and scatter themselves in the sea. When they are alive, they have no freedom. At least when they die, they can swim in the sea.
So I think, since your parents said that it is ok to raise the ashes in the Yellow River after death, look at the scenery of Qin Shihuang, Kangxi and Cixi in those days, and the graves have not been dug up after death. In this case, what do we do in those forms? It is useless to show filial piety when parents are alive, but it is better to be simple when we are dead, so I think it is the best comfort for people like your parents.
Do you think so?
When I was alive, I was naked. It is a wise choice to scatter the ashes in the Yellow River when you leave. For me, living in this world, I am tired, I am tired, I will return to nature in a hundred years, and I will wander around with the river without pain or trouble. Why not be free?
Life is alive, plants and trees fall in autumn, and people die like lights. We are all passers-by, the natural law of birth and death. As a child, as long as you are filial to your parents and accompany them before their death, it is always thinner than a thick burial …
When a person dies, it is one thing to see through it. Most of them are only children now, and their work and life are under great pressure. No matter when and where, don't give your children trouble. Even if someone burns paper for you in the future, who will know who you are in a few years?
So … be kind to yourself for the rest of your life and live happily! Don't think so much ...
Personally, I hope friends don't like it.
Parents who do things like this must be wise old people who read more books. I'm just a child. I just want my child to live well and don't want to give him any pressure. My husband and wife have long agreed that whoever dies first will put the ashes in a vase, scatter them in the river together after their death, and watch the rivers and mountains together with the river.
My grandfather had no son, and my mother and three sisters were looked down upon by the people in the town and scolded by my brothers for divorce.
Grandpa died of illness, and my mother and sisters bought a good cemetery and lived a good life. As a result, my nephew, who I haven't contacted for many years, came, pulling my dying grandfather and saying that he would take it home when he died. It's strange that I dragged my grandfather home overnight and died when I entered the town.
Great, the man is at his brother's house, and everything is handled by his nephew. 1990, my mother and three sisters gave his nephew 5000 yuan each. Eleven days later, the local grave keeper saw it ... not counting the 5000 yuan for the funeral, everyone was searched.
After going to the grave every year, money is money, gifts are gifts, weddings, funerals, houses, doors and kitchens are all invited. The team doesn't know. The first time I built a house, the third sister gave 5 thousand, and the second time I built a house to borrow money. By this time, my mother had passed away, and each of my two sisters gave 10 thousand yuan ... I couldn't let it out during the Spring Festival, but it was all money. Who let the ancestral grave be in his house?
My aunt has been ill for years and can't go back to her grave. She also said that her heart could only be like this, and there was no way to dig it out, burn it or chop it up.
Old people think they should go home when they are old, and they have to arrange an extravagant funeral, but they have left countless difficulties for their children.
Nowadays, many well-educated and prestigious old people have nothing to do when they die. They have no gifts, a portrait at home and incense sticks, and people turn to dust in the crematorium.