Conditions that really affect emotional marriage
One, three views
In interpersonal communication, besides material communication, the most important thing is the exchange of ideas. Only when the three views are consistent can we communicate well and deeply, and we can get along well and get along for a long time. This is true for interpersonal relationships, especially for marriage. Men and women in marriage are always together, with different views and poor communication. It is easy to cause misunderstanding and contradictions will occur frequently. It's hard to imagine harmony and permanence. The three views are integrated, the language is interlinked, it is easy to communicate in depth, appreciate each other and coexist harmoniously for a long time. Generally, the love of couples is to grow old together, and they are all consistent and similar. Therefore, men and women who are going to get married should first consider whether the three views of both sides are compatible, and if they are compatible, they will continue, and if they are not, they will separate. The combination of the three views is the premise for men and women to continue to communicate. The three views are different, the process is tortuous, the ending is sad, and both sides lose. Why bother?
Second, personality.
Men and women have been together for a long time, and happiness is the main theme. When people communicate with each other, they should be careful with their temper. If you don't vote for each other and look at each other, communication will become superficial. How can you fall in love without going deep? If you don't fit in and torture each other, the marriage will be unsustainable. Falling in love should make you comfortable, and getting married should make you happy, provided that you have the same personality, eyes and temper. The lion roared, who can stand it? Grinding hawthorn can also make people angry and anxious. Without the theme of happiness, marriage is a painful nightmare. Personality determines the style of communication between men and women. Only by combining and complementing each other can harmony last forever.
Third, the quality level.
Knowledge, experience, family education and other humanistic factors are edified and internalized, forming people's comprehensive quality. People's quality is divided into high and low. Different quality levels have different pursuits, different lifestyles and different life centers. When people of different qualities are together, everything needs to be adapted again, not only to change others, but also to change themselves, which makes marriage and love become torture and lose sweetness. People from different worlds are novel at first, and then treat each other as monsters, fighting and conquering each other. Will there be a good result? Different levels, different worlds, crossing is just a daydream. With similar or identical qualities, it is easier and easier to get along with each other, and they don't dislike each other, and work together in harmony and happiness.