I like Hou Dejian's song "I don't understand until I'm 30", which sings: "I don't understand until I'm 30, and I don't understand until I'm 30. Love those who want to love …" The lyrics of this song are very reasonable. I didn't realize until I was 30 years old that life would come sooner or later. This beautiful song is full of vicissitudes of life and the helplessness of vagrants when listening to new poems filled with anxiety. For people who have experienced vicissitudes of life, it sings the feeling that "life is a kind of enjoyment, not a burden", when they feel the imprint left by the traces of time in people's hearts.
Confucius said, forty is not confusing. It can be seen that after forty years of life, I have been on earth and my mind is clearer. Do people really have to be 40 years old to see through the rolling world of mortals and its troubles? Perhaps forty years old is a hurdle for people to mature, and only when they cross this hurdle will they become more mature. To be honest, people began to understand the world from the day they were born, and only at the age of forty did they gradually understand that life is like a cup of boiled water, which is plain and plain. In the endless trajectory of time and space, everything is relieved, what should come and what should go. Let everything be indifferent in Zhi Ming's artistic conception, let everything be indifferent in the quiet and far-reaching artistic conception, light and light, light and light, light and silent. ...
When a man is forty years old, he is like a vibrant old clock hanging in an ancient temple, experiencing repeated shocks. Confucius said, "forty is not confusing, and fifty knows destiny." Bai Juyi said, "At the age of thirty-nine, the sun sets." Du Fu said: "Forty years after the Ming Dynasty, the scenery is infinite." Only my mind, my spirit, my body and my knowledge belong to me. Reading the vicissitudes of time, I also enjoy the joy of harvest, picking up the memories left by fragments, and the days are wandering in casual time. I can't bear the years, but I can't stop the passing time.
Youth is enviable, but maturity lasts longer. Look at women no longer just like youth and beauty, but also value maturity, serenity, nature and clarity; Pay more attention to women's mind, generosity, wisdom and kindness; Pay more attention to the connotation behind sedate maturity and occasional femininity.
Men don't like being controlled by women, especially by calculating women, which not only makes them lose their self-esteem, but also distorts their souls. They need to communicate with each other peacefully. Feelings are not high or low, and they don't need to be controlled and mastered. Feelings flow naturally, and deliberate control and pursuit will not have true feelings. Sincere feelings for the world need tacit understanding of the soul, even natural spiritual communication.
A wife or husband has long seemed bland and even unbearable. But the years have already merged with each other. No matter how hard it is, it is also a part of life. When we are together, we may not cherish it. If we are apart, we will find it difficult to leave.
At the beginning, meticulous care and doting on children not only made us a burden, but also made children unable to stand the backbone of life. When I was a child, I was afraid of their suffering, their suffering, their wind and rain, their … too much fear. When they grow up, we still have to bear deep sadness and pain for our initial fears. Who is to blame? It's true that you can't see the rainbow without experiencing wind and rain!
Family, friendship and even love, in fact, don't get much. Think quietly in your spare time. After living for decades, there are several truly reliable buddies and confidants. Don't treat and distinguish friends with the angle that your so-called position or your official position can influence. These so-called friends may be the most unreliable' friends'! In addition to work, people have a broader living space. Work and position are not the only things in life. As the saying goes, it is enough to have a bosom friend in life. I may have thought about it, but I don't even have a bosom friend. How desolate the soul is. We should always reflect on ourselves and be kind to others, is it really good? Tolerance, generosity and kindness, exchanging true feelings for true feelings, is the foundation of being a man.
Knowing that the estrangement of family ties is the pain of the skin, makes this feeling thicker than water more cordial and warm; Partners in love and marriage, seemingly inconspicuous, are inseparable in life and need more patience and care; Good friends in friendship appreciate each other, do not use each other, and be more tolerant and considerate of each other; Be more caring and less greedy for your favorite confidant. Life is short, happy, beautiful and fleeting; Bitter, bitter, wrapped in my heart. Understand, sober, and one more thing; Confused, confused, a lot, but always accompanied.
Some blessings can't be enjoyed by everyone, and this kind of enjoyment is to stay with your parents and enjoy the peach blossom garden and family happiness. After understanding this truth, I will go home more, spend more time with my father, and experience the loneliness in the hearts of the elderly, so as to deeply understand the meaning of the old saying that "filial piety is obedient" and feel the weight of the word "responsibility".
In the whole life, you don't have to worry about many friends of the opposite sex. This is the note and wonderful chapter of your life. However, we should be more caring for friends of the opposite sex, less greedy, more understanding and less demanding. Putting emotions in a free space and being lenient with others means being lenient with others; To be tolerant of feelings is to be tolerant of mind. Let each other not have to bear the emotional burden, let the sunshine and warmth shine forever, and comfort the mutual affection of life.
Friends are like fish in water, deep and shallow fish will never walk together; The poor and the rich, the officials and the people, the grassroots and the powerful can't be true friends, because they have different perceptions of life, and the most important thing is that they have different hearts about the world and nature. Even rich and rich, officials and officials, dignitaries and dignitaries will not become true friends, because there are interests, differences, trade-offs, weightiness, concerns and so on. However, the conflict of secular interests blinds the truth, so there will be no real friendship.
Sincerely thank the person who has been waiting for you all your life, because he is the harbor of your life; Smile at the person you once hated, because he makes you stronger; Sincerely thank the person who once loved, because he let you know love; Thank those who betray you, and you won't understand the world; For the person you once secretly loved, because when you like him, you also want him to be happy; You should get along well with people you can trust. You won't meet many sincere friends or true confidants in your life.
Things in the world are complicated and simple. You are simple, and the world is simple. Live a natural and unrestrained life, live a wonderful life, and need to suffer hardships. Everything has two sides or many sides. It is sometimes difficult to tell right from wrong. What you like is probably hated and spurned by others. The world and nature will not develop or destroy according to your own wishes.
The happiness index depends entirely on the mentality. Years of delicious food and luxury goods may not bring comfort to the soul. Between coping and hypocrisy, the final result may be an increasingly empty mind. Full of ambition and despair is a tragedy of life, far less than plain and carefree.
None of us can win the race against time. "Life is short" is not empty talk. For people in their forties, there are many feelings. Face everything calmly and calmly, live high, live with confidence, think what you should think, do what you should do, love yourself and love others more. No matter when and where, cherish the fate, whether it is a passer-by in your life or a long-term confidant, it is a good memory of your life. There are few real friends in the sea of people, so please don't care! Don't wait until you can't do anything, then dig out the memories of lifelong regret and regret.
The hard pursuit of life is for the endless greed that "the human heart is not enough to swallow an elephant". Farmers want to go to cities, workers want to be cadres, and cadres want to be promoted and get rich. After being promoted and made a fortune, they made a fortune, and then they wanted to dominate the world. In the endless pursuit, we have forgotten the old adage that "greed is like fire, if we don't stop it, we will start a prairie fire" and "peace is bliss". Peace is a blessing, plain is true, no disaster is rich, no disease is immortal, go in peace and let nature take its course. Laozi said: "People should be everywhere, the land should follow the sky, the sky should follow the Tao, and the Tao is natural." Let nature take its course, and the Tao will be natural. It suddenly dawned on me that since everything is so simple, let it be.
The gains and losses in life are always balanced, the gains and losses are common, and the joys and sorrows are normal. The so-called no happiness, no pain, no joy, no joy, no joy, no joy, no joy, no joy, no joy, no joy, no joy, no joy, no joy, no joy. History can dim the sword shadow, stay away from the ancient corner, and life should also look down on fame and fortune. The desolate bonfire border town tells the rise and fall of history, forgets the life course of Huangchen Ancient Road, and interprets flower of life. Understanding at this time is a feeling of life, a free and easy attitude, an open-minded outlook on life and a transcendental state of the clock.
On the road of life, like this restless stream, I have passed the naive teenager who fantasizes about the future and has already arrived in blowing in the wind. After adolescence, the illusion of twenty years old no longer exists. After spending the spring in full swing, thirty years of struggle have yielded little. Now, with steady steps, we are advancing in the rings of an unquestionable period, and we have a solemn and stirring feeling. Stumbling years are drifting away from us, making people feel that time waits for no one. Only then did I understand how incisive the ancients said, "If the world is tired tomorrow, we will go to Qiu Lai in spring".
Think about life in just a few decades, just like a clear stream flowing with spring water every day, trickling through hills and cliffs, never to return. It melts gently into rivers, gently into lakes, and finally into the sea containing hundreds of rivers. In a blink of an eye, the road of life has already gone halfway. Looking back, the clouds blocked the way home. Life is like an arrow, there is no turning back. Life at the moment is like a climber halfway up. There is no attractive color of peony, no fragrant flowers of roses, only tasteless original wildflowers are blooming indifferently. At this time, enjoying the scenery along the way, whether it is a rotten grassland or a few rocks, is a seamless state of mind. Although there is no morning glow all over the sky, there are also pleasant winds and faint clouds. ...
There are icing on the cake in the world, and there is no such thing as a timely help. The quality of life depends entirely on one's mentality. Many times, delicacies and cups are intertwined, hiding exchange and even cheating. Far less quiet and carefree than "three or five confidants sit down and have a simple tea chat". A good friend is as simple as that, and a friendship between gentlemen is as light as water. At this time, no one asked the poor in front of the street, and the feeling that the rich had distant relatives in the mountains was deeper and more thorough. That's what real life is like. In Shajiabin, Mrs. A Qing has long sung: Laugh when you meet, and then forget about it. It gets cold as soon as people leave tea. ...
With the passage of time, peace has begun to erode my spirit and annihilate my soul. I am no longer as passionate and angry as when I was young, but more sensible and mature, more responsible and philosophical. Slowly learn to be tolerant, know how to take a step back, and know how to be content. Now there is no romance and impulse in my twenties and thirties. I used to be whimsical in the southeast and northwest. Now I close the door in spring, summer, autumn and winter, and some just look down at the clouds. ...