How to solve the contradiction between husband and wife

1. Cold treatment: In the event of a quarrel, both parties should follow the principle of "cold treatment", and don't always try to get the upper hand, and don't force the other party to obey their own views. Because in the case that both sides are not calm, some problems are suddenly unclear. After cooling for a period of time and letting off the gas, it will be easy to solve. Second, listen to each other's opinions: neither side should only emphasize its own truth and ignore the other's opinions. 3. Restrain impulsiveness: When expounding your point of view, you should explain the truth calmly, not too impulsively, not too loudly and not rationally, so that the other party will not think that you are bullying others by force. 4. Don't expose weaknesses: In a quarrel, don't attack the weaknesses of the other party, or expose the shortcomings of the other party, and don't expand the scope of the argument and settle old scores, otherwise it will only intensify contradictions and even lead to emotional breakdown. 5. Don't beat and scold: you can't use insults instead of reasoning, and you can't do it, so as not to cause irreparable mental trauma. What are the reasons for the contradiction between husband and wife? 1, quarreling over economic issues. When it comes to money, it is the most distressing thing for many people. When many people are young, they always despise the power and importance of bread and blindly pursue their feelings. At this stage of marriage, I found that the cost of living for two people is so high. This question is very realistic and cruel. Without a certain economic foundation, the quality of life is not high all the year round. 2. Quarrel about children's problems. In educating children, two people may have different ideas and ways. Some mothers want to be strict, but dad doesn't think it is necessary. Some mothers want to give their children better food, clothing, housing and transportation, and dad confirms that it is too expensive. Because the quarrel between man and mother is also the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law as the saying goes. Some girls are lucky to meet a reasonable mother-in-law, while some mothers-in-law are very strong, not only like to be in charge, but also very confident, and even force their sons to make the choice of taking sides, which makes the atmosphere at home very tense. It is suggested that couples should communicate in time if there are any problems, and don't hold back, otherwise the contradiction will become bigger and bigger. In addition, couples should be more considerate and consider problems from each other's perspective. Of course, if the contradiction can't be solved, I suggest we get together and leave. How to solve the contradiction between husband and wife 2 how to solve the contradiction between husband and wife? 1, the so-called initial foundation of gourd is a kind of geomantic secret method, that is, people's nails, hair, skin, etc. are combined with their birthdays, made into two parts according to a certain method, and placed in the geomantic treasure house for wealth. In fact, we can put some hair and nails of both husband and wife together, wrap some hair and nails of both sides with yellow paper, write down their birthdays and names, and hang them in a gourd on the bedside, which can strengthen the feelings of both sides. 2. Clever use of seals to promote harmony. Choose a seal and ask someone to engrave the names of both parties on it, and write the word "Hehe". Then the colored thread is wound nine times and hung on the bedside, and the effect is also very obvious. 3, using bamboo flute to resolve disputes Bamboo flute is also one of the commonly used Feng Shui ornaments, with an ethereal and melodious voice, the biggest role is to reduce the dryness in the home and avoid right and wrong. Putting the bamboo flute in the south of the house and away from the square can effectively reduce oral disputes at home. 4. The use of harmony symbols is the most commonly used tool in Taoist geomantic omen. People with noble Taoism can achieve obvious urging effect in a certain period of time by injecting spiritual power through spells. Harmony between husband and wife is about promoting harmony between husband and wife. Asking an expert to write a signature, hanging it on the bed or putting it under the bed will have obvious effects. 5, powder crystal to promote feelings Powder crystal is a common feng shui decoration to promote the relationship between husband and wife. Pink crystal symbolizes sweet love. Placing pink crystals at peach blossom spots in the house can improve the happiness index and avoid quarreling over trifles.