Whenever you erect a monument to your elders, you should pay attention to it and have a "text" for reference. However, the customs of Shili Road are different, and there are various places that pay attention to harmony, but generally there can be no big difference. According to the past, dutiful sons and grandsons are indispensable as monument-setters, and other general situations do not make choices (except revolutionary martyrs, special contributors of collectives or units). The fact that the daughter got married belongs to the spilled water. Although related by blood, they belong to people with foreign surnames. The reason why the wife's husband can't go to the monument is because there are three wives and six concubines, and there is no reason not to go to the monument. As for the son-in-law, the dutiful son Sun Wuxiao. Of course, with the progress of the times, especially if a couple has only one child, both men and women are the same, then it is bound to change the previous customs. However, some people put their granddaughters on the tablet in order to create momentum, which is what the tablet carvers want, because they demand compensation according to the number of words. In my humble opinion, the inscription should be concise, decent and generous, that is, parents' surnames are taboo, birthday dies, and the person and year of the monument are below.
There were many exquisite monuments in ancient times, and the naming of monuments was also strict. Constrained by the patriarchal ideology of "men are superior to women" and "men are superior to women", the monument-setters only sign the names of their sons or grandchildren, and no one else can be a monument-setter. After thousands of years of inheritance, this tradition has entered a new era of new society and gradually evolved in an open way, which truly embodies the social progress and civilization of equality between men and women in the new society and new era. Today's monument-setters are all named after their summer daughters and daughters-in-law. They are completely open and not bound by stereotypes.
Don't write the child's name on the tablet, because the grave is full of yin, which is easy to make future generations full of disease and pain. Just write your children's grandchildren and write your names on the tablet, which can't show how filial you are. Old people are happier on earth, and gentleness and thoughtfulness are better than everything else. Don't live unfilial and teach in disorder. In fact, people will laugh at you.