Parents' experience in educating their children. How to make children obedient and sensible
When communicating with children, we must listen to him carefully and let him feel the concern and respect of parents, so that children's small self-esteem will be established, and they will seriously think about what they think and do and express their views in conversation with adults, which will also help children's rational thinking habits. Of course, adults should also pay attention to some details when communicating with children, so as to communicate with children quickly.
Parents' experience in educating their children
The first trick is to praise the child through the mouth of a third party.
The second trick is to communicate feelings with children through letters or diaries.
The third trick is to speak in a gentle tone.
The fourth measure is to let the children know what is wrong in time.
The fifth measure is to subtly divert the child's attention.
The sixth measure is to integrate into children.
The seventh trick is to talk about one thing at a time.
The eighth trick is to always express your trust in your child.
The ninth trick is only to make constructive suggestions.
The tenth trick, don't blame the frustrated children.
The eleventh measure is to correct the child's bad life details in time.
The twelfth trick is to praise the children more.
Second, let the children do their homework on their own initiative.
Your child is obedient and a tame horse, but people often say that? You can take horses to the river, but you can't make them drink water. . Indeed, unless the horse is thirsty, even if it can be brought to the water, it should not be allowed to drink water on its own initiative.
Parents' experience in educating their children
The first trick is not to do homework for too long.
The second measure is to enlarge the advantages of children.
The third measure, learning should not be rushed.
The fourth trick is to let him bring the girl he likes home.
Fifth, let the children have fun first.
The sixth trick is to stimulate her and let him go all out.
The seventh move, on the other hand.
The eighth measure is to change the learning environment frequently.
Ninth, make a homework schedule.
The tenth trick is to let the children do their homework first.
The eleventh trick is to let the children draw lots by themselves.
Twelfth, don't judge teachers in front of children.
Third, how to guide children to be conscious?
There is a saturation principle, that is, children are usually bored. Although I strongly hope to have a goal, I can also appreciate the fun of finishing things. But I can't continue to take the initiative because I have many courses in my heart. If I lower my requirements and reduce the weight of my homework, I will continue to cultivate children's vitality at low tide, so they will improve their sense of responsibility and do their homework more actively after low tide.
Parents' experience in educating their children is the first move, and the requirements for children are appropriately reduced.
The second trick is to let children do subjects they don't like first.
The third measure is to enhance the initiative at the same pace.
The fourth measure is to let the children suffer first.
Fifth, interest is the best teacher.
Sixth, the mother's motivation is the most important.
The seventh measure is to change the child's attitude first.
The eighth trick is to occasionally talk to your child with pleading evidence.
The ninth trick is not to scold children when they are frustrated.
Tenth, it is also effective to give children proper remuneration.
The eleventh trick is to make children closer to nature.
Twelfth, success is not as difficult as you think.
The thirteenth trick is to cultivate children's initiative and self-motivation.
Fourteenth move, turn anger into motivation for learning.
Parents' experience in educating their children (1) encourages students to take the initiative to get in touch with society and understand it.
Establish a correct outlook on life and values, get rid of low-level interests and cultivate high-pressure interests. The society should strengthen the guidance of public opinion in some aspects, such as: how should middle school students treat pop culture correctly? How should middle school students choose in today's era of diversified values? Obviously, it is unwise to emphasize the importance of classroom knowledge and advocate that classroom knowledge should be actively extended to extracurricular activities. When students go out of campus, they deepen their understanding of theoretical knowledge and, more importantly, understand the society. At the same time, cultivate their competitive consciousness and firm will, learn to communicate with others, experience successes and setbacks, and cultivate their psychological endurance. Gradually grow up from setbacks and difficulties and form a positive attitude towards life.
(2) Pay attention to every student's all-round physical and mental development, especially the healthy psychological growth, and strengthen legal education.
Mental health education and psychological consultation can be widely carried out according to the characteristics of grade two, focusing on adolescent sexual knowledge, interpersonal communication, learning adaptability, learning methods, how to correctly understand and evaluate yourself and so on. By providing a correct way to understand others and communicate with society, we can meet their psychological needs, enable them to better face the confusion in real life and help them solve all kinds of troubles in their growth.
At the same time, families, schools and society should strengthen the legal education of teenagers in this period.
(3) Relieve the tension with children.
Parents usually only care about their life and study, and they are used to doting at home. Once children's self-awareness begins to awaken and challenge their accustomed parents' authority, their response can only be at a loss. How to educate and guide children in this period? Parents can deal with the tension with their children from the following four aspects:
1, respect children and adopt encouragement-oriented education methods.
Treat children as adults, give them the right to speak and give them the right to choose and make decisions. Some important things at home involve children in discussion and decision-making. Affirm children's strengths and achievements in time, and encourage them more and criticize them less when they face difficulties and setbacks.
2. Change the fixed thinking mode.
Trying to understand children from the perspective of today's times. Parents can keep their opinions on some phenomena and concepts, but they don't have to resolutely oppose them in order to make their children obedient.
3. Prevent two extremes.
One is excessive connivance, and the other is blind repression. Neither will have a good educational effect. Therefore, when educating children, parents must adhere to the basic moral principles, so as to educate children to master a certain degree and prevent them from deviating from the correct life track.
4. Parents have a strong sense of self-discipline.
Ask your child to set an example first. Otherwise, it will cause children's extreme disgust and even strong resistance.
(4) Strengthen the contact between home and school, and communicate with the class teacher and students.
As the saying goes? Interlaced like a mountain? In order to integrate home-school resources and give full play to the role of family education and school education, it is very important to strengthen communication and contact with schools.
Family is the first classroom for children to receive education, and family education is the foundation of school education. Moreover, school education is for all students, and teachers' energy is limited. Therefore, the teacher's attention will be more or less concentrated, so it is easy to produce some neglect. Therefore, how to strengthen the contact and communication between parents and schools and do a good job in children's education is not only an important aspect of school moral education, but also an inevitable way for parents to cultivate healthy children. People nowadays are busy and eager at the same time? Son Jackie Chan, female Cheng Feng? But because of their busyness and their own conditions, they only have love for their children? Desire? But lack of love? Ability? As a result, there are all kinds of strange phenomena in children's education, or they let themselves go, regardless; Either, you are worried, but you can't control it. As an educator, I think attaching importance to home-school cooperation is one of the key links to comprehensively improve the quality of our education.
Practice has proved that the educational effect can only be added when the family and school form a joint force. Let's build a bridge between school and family, implement home-school contact and cooperate with each other to jointly promote the healthy growth of children!
(E) the appropriate division of family education
For children's education, both father and mother have unshirkable responsibilities, but there is a division of labor and differences in education. Educating boys, mothers can accomplish their tasks as long as they take care of their children's lives and give them enough care, while fathers are responsible for educating children to distinguish between good and evil, teaching them the correct way of thinking and cultivating their resolute and brave manly character. A boy's poor education is entirely the responsibility of his father, not his mother. If the child in the family is a girl, the mother's responsibility is basically all, and the father's task is to earn money to support the family.
Now the development of market economy is very cruel. A person may put more energy into making money to support his family, often ignoring the responsibility of educating his children, and even pushing the education of his children to his wife. This is particularly wrong. If you neglect your children's education in order to earn money, it is useless for you to earn more money. Therefore, those who neglect children's education in order to make money are advised: don't give up the basics, don't lose big because of small things, at any time, the future is the most important, and children are all our hopes in the future!
Parents should pay attention to their words and deeds? Being a man? Education.
Parents want to put their children? Being a man? Education is placed in an important position. Parents all know that educating children is not only the cultivation of intelligence and the instillation of knowledge, but also the education of being a man, especially the education of being a modern healthy person. In order to mold a sound personality for children, we must never take the quality of grades as the only criterion to measure whether children are progressing. Being a man? Education is also an important topic in children's growth. In life, parents are children's first teachers, and their usual words and deeds will affect children more or less. This requires parents to set an example and set an example for their children. Through the questionnaire survey of outstanding young people in China, the conclusion is that their parents have the greatest influence on their lives, and their personality factors, especially their excellent qualities such as honesty, enterprising, diligence and hard work, have deeply influenced them and benefited them for life. On the contrary, if parents are too busy to guide their children, they will eventually regret it.
(7) Be good at listening to children's voices, and the growth of the mind needs catharsis.
In the work of the head teacher, I have come into contact with many such children, many of whom are unwilling to let their classmates know, unable to communicate with their parents, or impatient to listen. When they talk to me, they will say: Teacher, if I don't talk to people, I'm crazy (of course it's not that serious, but it shows that they really want to talk to others). After the lecture, watching the students look relaxed and lovely made me feel the great role of listening, which can bring happiness and strength to people. Therefore, in their spare time, parents will also listen to their children's voices. Parents always have one reason: busy. I have talked with parents many times at the parent-teacher conference: it is your duty to be a good child, but it is also your unshirkable responsibility and obligation to educate children. Don't we try to make our children happy? But if children can't grow up healthily, it's not worth the loss. Is it a responsibility to give children enough food? Therefore, for the healthy growth of children, parents should sit down and have heart-to-heart communication with their children, find out the problems they encounter in time, prevent problems before they happen, guide and solve them, and only in this way can children have a relaxed, happy and positive attitude to meet future challenges.
(8) Believe in children and give them confidence.
No one likes being called useless, and children are no exception. The traditional paternalistic style has not adapted to the needs of the times, and parents should learn to motivate their children. Appropriate incentives will ignite the passion of children's struggle. There is a student in my class, who is smart but playful, and his initial grades are just so-so. She likes chatting with me. She said to me, teacher, I can't communicate with my mother. When I speak, she satirizes me. Later, I learned about the conversation between mother and daughter from my conversation with my parents. The daughter said: Mom, I think I have potential. Mom said: Don't dig if you have the potential, and dig after the college entrance examination [Weibo]? . Knowing the truth, I didn't mention it to the student, but called her to the office and had a heart-to-heart talk. I told her: you are a very rare talent with good quality, intelligence, strong working ability and potential. Why don't you tap your potential? The teacher is still expecting your good grades. ! She listened silently with her head down. When she looked up, she burst into tears and said firmly, Teacher, believe me, I will definitely turn my potential into strength. Later, under my conscious guidance, she finally entered the ranks of key lines with a score of 598. When she heard her grades, she jumped up and smiled around my neck, and I laughed, too. Then, if parents also give their children affirmation, will she be better and make her mark earlier? Therefore, as parents, say to their children: Son, you are great, you can do it. It will have a good effect on enhancing children's self-confidence and fighting spirit.
Talk about it? How do parents educate their children? 1 Good family education environment
First of all, in today's comprehensive implementation of quality education, parents' awareness of the importance of family education has generally improved, family education conditions have improved significantly, parents' awareness of participating in education and their consciousness and enthusiasm for learning family education knowledge have been greatly improved, and parents' sense of responsibility for their children's education has been significantly enhanced. However, there are still problems to be solved urgently in the concept and method of family education. Therefore, to improve the level of family education, the most important thing is to change the concept of family education. Parents are advised to establish a correct concept of education and parent-child relationship, and create a family environment conducive to the healthy growth of children. Parents are models and role models in children's eyes. Parents' manners and attitudes have a subtle influence on their children's growth. Even the little things in life often affect a child's life. Therefore, creating a healthy family environment is the primary task of parents. But how to build a good family environment? Parents are advised to start with the following points: 1. Parents should constantly improve their own quality. Including their own culture, thinking, psychological quality, etc. Play a role in educating children by example. 2. Create a good learning atmosphere. Parents should first set an example and often read books and newspapers. Use this spirit of hard work to influence children instead of indulging in watching TV and playing mahjong. Proper study can recharge yourself, so that once the child asks you questions, parents will not be speechless. 3. Pay attention to your manners. As the saying goes? Near Zhu Zhechi, near Mexico. Is it black? . Parents' behavior directly affects their children. Parents are civilized and children are civilized. Of course, if parents swear and don't pay attention to their every move, children will imitate them. Therefore, parents should educate their children what to do and what not to do from an early age and set a good example for them.
2 Cultivate children's self-confidence and stimulate their enthusiasm for learning.
I will encourage and praise every achievement made by my children in time. Of course, what he didn't do well will also help him analyze problems, find out shortcomings, persuade education patiently, and avoid damage to his self-esteem. Every time a child gets her test paper back, her grades are not satisfactory. I always help her analyze the reasons for her failure in the exam first, and encourage her to study harder and get good grades next time. Maintain the child's self-esteem to the greatest extent, cultivate the child's self-confidence, and thus stimulate his enthusiasm for learning.
Communicate with children more and spend more time with them.
Now most families are only children, and children will feel particularly lonely. Therefore, parents should spend more time with their children and communicate with them often. Because the company of parents will make children feel that you care about him very much, and some of our parents are with their children all the year round, but they don't necessarily communicate often. There are still many parents who always neglect the education of their children on the grounds of being busy. This leads to the alienation between children and their parents. Children will not tell their parents what is on their minds, and parents will not know what their children are thinking. I usually solve problems by talking and discussing with my children, making them feel that he is an indispensable member of the family and that he is equal in this family. In addition, I will use the time to pick up my children every day to communicate with them, get to know their school situation in time, ask them what happened at school today, what doubts she has in her study and life, and which classmates she associates with. Through communication with children, we can grasp their ideological trends in time, so as to help them solve their doubts and guide them in time according to their current situation. Therefore, I suggest that parents should devote themselves to their children's education, communicate with their children more, spend more time with their children, keep learning and improve their teaching ability.
Learn to be good at understanding children.
With the increasing age of children, the relationship between many children and their parents has undergone subtle changes. When I was a child, that intimate relationship disappeared and was replaced by many contradictions and quarrels. I even think that children are getting more and more difficult and outrageous.
Parents often complain that their children are always against themselves. You said east, but he went west. You said no, but he just couldn't. In fact, children have their own opinions when they reach a certain age. They think they have grown up and act in their own way. When their opinions are different from those of their parents, they often refuse the opinions and suggestions given by adults and show unreasonable behavior.
The relationship between parents and children is equal. You should look at the problem from the child's point of view and treat him as a person like you! For example, in today's world where the Internet is flooding, children can't help surfing the Internet and playing games because of their instinct or curiosity. If parents don't correct and guide in time at this time, children will often play unrestrained. Obviously, his behavior is wrong, but parents can't solve the problem if they can't find the reasons behind their children's wrong behavior. Therefore, as a parent, you should sit down, talk to your child calmly, understand what your child is surfing the Internet for, and then help him analyze the advantages and disadvantages of surfing the Internet, so that your child can understand that everything is enough.
5 Appreciation education
Understanding is the foundation, but communication also needs a tool, that is, appreciation. Proper praise is a bridge between parents and children. Parents always understand, appreciate, praise and encourage their children, which will enhance their self-esteem and self-confidence.
? No one is perfect? Adults make mistakes from time to time, let alone children. Therefore, as parents, we should appreciate the advantages, tolerate the shortcomings and allow our children to be imperfect. Parents' trust and love for their children is an important basis for communication with their children.
6 correct criticism
Having said that, some parents may have questions: Can we only educate our children through understanding and appreciation? In fact, for a child, appropriate criticism is also an auxiliary tool for communication. Parents should not encourage blindly. If they are wrong, they will definitely let the children realize their mistakes. Without criticism, children have no concept of right and wrong.