How to appease the first child when having a second child?
"I don't want a little brother. I don't care. I just don't want it. " "Don't you dare have a little brother, I'll beat him every day!" "Mom and Dad, you don't love me anymore." If you tell Dabao that mom and dad want to have another child, the above words may have come from Dabao's mouth! Do you feel helpless? How to appease the first child when having a second child?
1. First of all, parents should talk to Dabao in an equal manner, telling their children that their parents will not reduce their love for him/her because they have a younger brother and sister, and he will also get the brotherhood of his younger brother and sister, so that children can give up their resistance to their younger brothers and sisters from the heart through such a dialogue;
2. Name your brother and sister with Dabao, so that Dabao feels that he is involved in the birth of his brother and sister;
3. Let Dabao buy clothes and daily necessities for Bao Xiao who is about to be born, and at the same time choose his favorite gift for Dabao;
4, you can take Dabao to see the newborn baby, so that Dabao likes the baby.
How to educate two children when having a second child?
A family with two children is always enviable, but it's not that the second-born parents don't understand the hardships of the second-born family, especially the education of the two children, which makes parents take great pains. So, how can a second child educate two children?
1. In the process of educating children, parents should pay attention to the cultivation of their behavior and morality, cultivate their modesty and love to share, and also train their communication skills;
2, don't compare them in front of children, it will hurt the feelings between the two children, and it will easily lead to competition and jealousy between them;
3. Pay attention to the learning problems of the two children, invite the two children to play together after the daily study is completed, and try to avoid disturbing each other;
Treat every child fairly, don't be partial to any child. Doing so will seriously hurt the feelings of other children, and even cause psychological trauma in serious cases.
What should I do if I have a second child and two children quarrel?
There are two treasures in the family, and there are joys and sorrows. If Erbao often quarrels or even fights, what should you do as a parent? In fact, it is not a bad thing for children to have conflicts. It is also good to learn the way of interpersonal communication in conflict.
After two children quarrel, we must first find out the reason for the quarrel. Parents can talk to two children separately. What your parents should pay attention to is that you must not help Bao Xiao unprincipled, so Dabao will definitely feel uncomfortable, and then you may bully Bao Xiao while your parents are away, which is caused by your parents' improper handling. There must be a reason for the conflict between children. Parents can try to enlighten them, such as how to divide things between two people, how to divide them half by half, or how to draw lots or take turns to solve conflicts between them. Let children learn the ability to solve problems in contradictions, which is what we want to see.
How old is it to have two children?
After seeking Dabao's consent, if you are going to have a second child, many parents may wonder: How appropriate is it to separate the two children?
The survey found that if the age difference between the two children is too small or too big, it is likely to cause some health and family problems, and the difference between the two children is 2-3 years old. This age gap not only allows parents enough time to prepare for the birth of a second child, but also makes the sense of competition and alienation between the two children not too strong. Of course, the situation of each family is different, and the difference between the two children is not absolute.
How to treat two children fairly when having a second child?
There are two treasures at home, how to balance and coordinate their relationship? In a second-child family, if parents fail to be fair and just, it will inevitably lead to disharmony between the two children in relationship and emotion. So, how to treat two children fairly when giving birth to a second child?
First of all, parents should be psychologically fair. You can't ask Dabao to be patient just because Bao Xiao is young. Secondly, when distributing food and supplies for Dabao and Bao Xiao, parents must adhere to the principle of fairness. They can ask their own opinions more and naturally feel that their emotions have been taken care of. Finally, when two children are in conflict, parents must not criticize a child without asking the reason. They must patiently ask the reasons and guide them, so that the two children can realize their own shortcomings and shake hands.