There are many teachers. People must be compared, so they are compared;
Teacher means many things, and
There are many teachers. People must be compared, so they are compared;
Teacher means many things, and many things need to be compared, so divination is the second.
Distant friends bring distant land closer.
8. Contrast? Land-water ratio "ratio" (Xia Kun first issue)? eighth
The restless party should go up and down, and the water on the ground is poor;
With Fu Ying and Ji Ji behind, Ji Zhen will be determined in 25 years.
It is sad to be friends with bandits, and it is better to be honest than to be honest;
Give up adversity and make use of it. The former is built and the latter is fierce.
Original contrast: Ji. The original, Yuan Yongzhen, blameless; If you are restless, your husband will be fierce. The translation of divination symbolizes closeness and attachment, and mutual combination and cooperation can be auspicious. When choosing close people carefully, we should explore their true feelings and determine their sincere intentions. If you have moral respect and can persist in the right path, you will be close to them without blame. However, when it comes to pro-competition, people are restless everywhere and rush to join, while those who are late or pro-competition are difficult to achieve and suffer disaster.
Preface legend: "There are more teachers than many people, so compare them;" Compared with others. " Comparison is pro-comparison. "Miscellaneous hexagrams" said: "More worried than musicians." It means that you are happier than hexagrams, but it is hard for you to learn hexagrams. Bi's original meaning is to be close to each other, and the glyph is that two people are close together.
Than, that is, than auxiliary intimacy. Zhouyi believes that intimacy is a good thing, but "intimacy" should follow certain principles, such as being honest and caring for others; If honest and frank is submissive, it is far better than not losing, and nearly better than respect. At the same time, we should pay attention to carefully choosing the object of comparison and consider it again and again. We should not compare ourselves blindly, but with others. On the contrary, kissing someone who misbehaves is very sad. Of course, once you meet a virtuous person, don't be unwilling to lag behind, so as not to fall behind. In a word, whether compared with others, with others, or with others, we should be righteous but not evil, obedient but not adverse, bright but not unlucky.
"Original divination" is an ancient divination method, which has different interpretations such as the first divination or the second divination. "Yuan" means beginning and goodness. The principle that blind date brings out the best in each other is to verify it with divination, and there has been a virtue of loyalty since the beginning of the Yuan Dynasty, and there will be no disaster. I felt uneasy when I saw that everyone else had to attach themselves, and then I went. People who are late like this can be dangerous. So, don't hesitate to choose a good attachment.
I ching? Bi said, "Bi, Ji Ye. Yuan Yongzhen. If you are restless, your husband will leave. " It means that people who are close to caution, kindness and can stick to the right path for a long time will not make mistakes. When the disobedient prince approaches, those who fall behind will be in danger.
A person's isolation is often caused by himself. There are always some people who don't like the way of the world and like to go it alone, thinking that they can solve all problems, and getting along with others is a waste of time. Such people can only enjoy themselves when they are rich, and few people can help them when they are in trouble.
Look at such a short story:
A vulture is dying. It said to its mother, "mom, don't be sad." Pray to the gods quickly, I believe they will bless me. "
Mother vulture cried, "Son! Which fairy can pity you? Every time you go out, you steal sacrifices from their altars. These immortals are offended by you ... "
Life can't be smooth sailing, there will always be obstacles that you can't cross, which requires the help of others. Unfortunately, people usually offend others, but in times of crisis, they want others to help them. Others naturally don't want to. Therefore, if you want others' help, you must accumulate more popularity and make more friends. So, how to make friends with others and avoid being isolated?
I ching? Than "gives us the answer:
First, be sincere and confident, and know how to get close to others.
I ching? "Bi" said: "On the sixth day of the sixth lunar month, you are blessed and blameless. There is a blessing, and there is a blessing in the end. " It means sincere and confident, and there is nothing wrong with being close to each other. Honesty is like wine overflowing a bottle, and there will be unexpected good luck in the end.
Be a sincere person at ordinary times, help others, and help others when they are in trouble. Then if you are in trouble and don't need help, someone will come to help.
Second, don't treat others falsely.
I ching? Bi said, "Sixty-two: From the inside." It means making friends with others, coming out of your heart, and persisting in positive pressure can make you lucky.
Nowadays, many people make friends with others, mostly because this person is "beneficial" to himself and climbs on the other side with utilitarian heart. Attitude, naturally with flattery, is also cautious first, for fear that others are unwilling to make friends with themselves. As a result, when you regard the other person as a "utilitarian", the other person is ostensibly dealing with you. When you are in trouble, he will naturally stand by.
Remember, making friends with others, without sincerity, can't get sincerity naturally.
Third, don't go near the villain.
I ching? "Bi" said: "Sixty-three: compared with bandits, it is fierce." It means it's dangerous to make friends with close little people.
A friendship between gentlemen is as light as water, but a friendship between villains is as sweet as cucumber. Little people can never be friends with others. Even if you are sincere, he will "treat the belly of a gentleman with the heart of a villain" because he doesn't believe that you will treat him sincerely, and naturally, he won't treat you sincerely. Little people only think about how to get benefits from you.
So, when you meet a villain, just smile and don't overdo it.
Fourth, you don't have to insist on making friends with others.
I ching? Comparison says: "Ninth Five-Year Plan: Show Comparison. The king used three drives to drive the former birds, but the people in the city did not retreat, Ji. "Mean, aboveboard close to people. The king hunted, surrounded on three sides, and let the oncoming animals go. He doesn't force people around him, so he can get good luck.
The Book of Changes says "three in one", but it just corresponds to "be lenient with others", and so does making friends with people. You need to be aboveboard. Don't force others to make friends with yourself. If you leave others in your circle of friends, they will be dissatisfied.
During the Three Kingdoms period, Ji Kang had outstanding literary talent, superb piano skills and great fame. All the friends he makes are arrogant and natural. One day, Zhong Hui, the son of teacher Zhong You, led a group of literati to see Ji Kang. I didn't expect Ji Kang to see Zhong Hui strike while the iron is hot. Zhong Hui was embarrassed and waited for a long time before leaving.
Ji Kang asked, "Why do you come and go?" Zhong Hui replied, "I heard it, saw it and left."
When people make friends with each other, most of them are in different ways and have no common goal. So, even if you like each other's talents, don't impose them on others. Otherwise, forcing others will only make you embarrassed.
Of course, when you meet someone who wants to make friends with you, don't be selfish because of different objects. Today, many people make friends with others and ask about their positions and salaries in order to adopt different attitudes towards different people. Divide friends into three grades according to salary positions, and then adopt different attitudes.
In this way, people who give others a good attitude think that they are interested in their own money, not sincere communication; Giving others a bad attitude will offend others and make people bear a grudge.
Therefore, it is important to make friends with others on an equal footing, not to be partial.
When we make friends from the above aspects, friends will inevitably come uninvited and meet difficulties in life, and friends will not run away and leave themselves alone.