Is it a good way to reward children for getting high marks in exams?
In the piano final, draw lots to decide the playing order of two people. Do you want the first one or the last one?
TV won the grand prize and reached the final level. Do you want to continue?
Think about it, have you decided your choice and reason?
Come on, please follow me to see the factors behind the decision-perception and coordination, memory and situation, context and wording. Let's talk about how they affect our decision.
Perception: selective seeing
Friends had a good time, climbing mountains, watching the sea, eating delicious food and shopping.
After the end, Xiao Zhao said that this is his first time to see the sea, and the feeling of the handover between the sea and the sky in the sunset is too shocking; Xiao Gan said that he liked the special snacks there, but when he remembered it, his mouth watered again. Sun Xiao said he would never go again. He was exhausted from climbing the mountain and remembered nothing for the next few days except pain in his feet. Xiao Li said that the play is still pretty good, but you need to change to a better hotel, otherwise you won't sleep well and feel uncomfortable.
The same journey is different in their eyes. What you can see and feel is different because of your imagination and expectation. You choose what you see, and what you see is the truth processed by your feelings.
Then how can we see more beauty?
You can ask yourself, what is my motivation for doing this? Is my behavior mixed with my own expectations? You can also discuss your different motives and expectations with others.
Coordination: consistency of motivation and behavior
For a child who gets high marks, if you reward him with a favorite toy. The motivation for children to get high marks is to get what they want. Doing well in the exam itself has become a means and a meaningless process in the eyes of children.
So when you use material as a reward, you actually deprive your child of the inner motivation to learn knowledge. Learning and solving problems can no longer attract children.
For children who get high marks, if you express your true feelings to your children, for example, you have recently tried to read many related books and found a more suitable learning method for you, and it is really good to see you studying.
At this time, the motivation is learning itself. This is an internal motivation, and children work hard because they are eager to learn. When encountering difficulties, it is easier to stick to it.
We tend to keep the consistency of motivation and behavior. The classic psychological reading "Decision and Judgment" says: "If you want a person to form a positive attitude towards something, then guide him and let him devote himself to it." ?
Memory and situation
Memory is the source of information when we make decisions, and it will only be extracted and reconstructed when necessary. And our reconstruction process depends on the situation at that time.
Whether the final is played first or later depends on whether the selection results are judged immediately after the performance or a few days later.
If you judge on the spot, you should choose to talk about it later. Because of recency effect, the latter information will have a greater impact. The judges are now more impressed by the people who spoke later, but they don't remember the previous performance.
If you choose late, you should choose to speak first. Because of the initial effect, the first impression will be deeper and more influential. The judges can't remember everyone's specific performance, but they will be impressed by the first one.
These are all situational dependencies at work. Similar effects include contrast effect and halo effect.
Contrast effect is similar to the size, length, temperature, color and price of a thing, depending on who it is compared with. For example, is a chair with a price of 100 yuan expensive? It depends on whether 50 yuan's chair or 200 yuan's chair is next to it.
Halo effect is similar to that when you accept a certain quality of a person, it will affect your judgment of other qualities. For example, you agree that Xiao Zhao has a good temper. Then you will think that he is easy to communicate and not stubborn. Although this is not necessarily the case.
Context and wording
Take away the winning prizes after entering the stadium, continue to successfully take away one more car, and continue to fail to clear all prizes. Based on the same rule, the last level is not broken, which may be related to the question you heard.
If the host says, "Don't worry, give up a grand prize car." Can't you rush? "In the face of losses, you are more likely to take risks and gamble.
If the host says, "Don't worry, take the old household appliances home. Can't you rush? " When faced with benefits, you are more likely to avoid taking risks and leave with immediate rewards.
How to express the questions and their options, how to phrase them, whether they are neutral, how many words are sorted, what scope they involve, etc. , may affect our answer. The less you know about the problem itself, the more easily you are influenced.
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Each of us is observing the world with our own filter, collecting more memory clues, discovering the beauty that belongs to you and respecting the beauty of others. Look at, think about and guide the behavior of yourself and others with a positive attitude and good motivation. At the same time, we should also be alert to our dependence on the situation and the influence of the way of asking questions in communication.
Understanding is the first step of progress. We can all better understand memory, break down clues, eliminate interference and make more desirable decisions.