On the other hand, they are afraid of work and socializing.
In fact, people who have been looking forward to being in the ivory tower for a long time are used to the days of being otherwise, and suddenly want to join the fierce competition in society. There is indeed a psychology that they can't adapt at once.
But we don't have to be too afraid. To overcome their fear of going to work, try to work hard in the following aspects:
First, do you want to think about whether you have social phobia?
The main manifestations of social phobia are fear of communicating with people, fear that they can't handle the relationship with people well, and then want to close themselves and minimize contact with people.
If you have this kind of mentality, I recommend you to watch a movie "The King's Speech", which tells the story of a stuttering king who finally overcame psychological obstacles and became an excellent speaker through psychological training.
This story has two meanings.
Chief, it's important to get professional help. They have their own set of theories and methods. You can try to get in touch with them and listen to the advice of professionals, which will be much more useful than the cynicism of others.
Secondly, clearly know that this is your own psychological obstacle, consciously and actively overcome it, give yourself positive guidance, consciously restrain yourself when you don't want to communicate with others, and let yourself integrate into the crowd. You can talk to people around you and slowly find confidence from them.
After all, this kind of situation is rare, mainly among some young people who stay at home for a long time after graduation.
But a few don't mean they don't exist. If you really have this kind of psychology, you must inform your relatives in time and actively seek professional help. I also want to try to go out and overcome my demons.
Second, we should think about whether our ignorance of society leads to fear.
Many college students or young people who have just entered the society are afraid of employment. They think that enterprises are a scourge, and public examinations are guarded by officials, so they have no power and no potential to compete with others in society.
Most of this idea comes from some novel plots or misleading TV dramas and media. Enterprises must aim at profit, and recruiters must be able to create profits for enterprises. This is the need of enterprise development and the inevitable result of social development. Instead of complaining, it is better to cultivate your skills and make yourself valuable, so that someone will be willing to pay you.
As a big brother who has been in the public examination for many years, there may be black-box operation in the civil service examination before, but it is basically impossible after the 18 th National Congress.
First of all, the written test paper is sealed in advance and unsealed on the spot. Until then, they have been kept by the social department. How important do you think it is to know the topic in advance?
Secondly, interviews are all about selecting examiners from all over the country, usually seven. Examiners and examination rooms will draw lots at random after the examination. Even if someone knows the examiner in the examination room, they should also buy off the examiners at or above the division level in seven different departments at the same time and think about the possibility for themselves.
Third, the media is so developed now that once someone reports it, the media news will be searched casually, and a group of people who have worked hard for decades to become leaders will collectively fall. Do you want to be a leader or not?
So there will never be absolute justice in society, only relative justice. Just like people don't have absolute freedom.
What you can do is go out boldly and don't listen to other people's attacks on the enterprise. You haven't seen him fishing for three days and drying his net for two days. Don't listen to others expose the inside story of civil servants, most of which are his personal fantasies. In today's society, opportunities and pressures coexist. You never know how good you are until you go out.
Although all enterprises aim at profit and the assessment mechanism for employees is relatively strict, they are also in a relatively fair state. Many enterprises are humanized, and the welfare of employees is better than that of civil servants.
Have you ever heard of Alibaba's staff meal? Alibaba Group, headquartered in Hangzhou, has a 24-hour free restaurant with all kinds of self-help drinks, fruits and desserts, which is comparable to a five-star buffet.
There was a joke before: Ann Ali talked with her partner about business and wanted to invite him to a famous restaurant in Hangzhou at lunch time. The other party refused and made it clear that she must eat in Alibaba's staff restaurant.
Therefore, enterprises are not a scourge. As long as you have enough ability, you can also choose a company with relatively humanized and generous welfare benefits.
The premise is that you have the ability to enter such a company!
Third, don't make excuses for fear because of laziness.
This may hurt a little, but if you taste it carefully, there are many examples around us.
Nowadays, many neets play computer games at home, watch live broadcasts and brush WeChat, but they just refuse to go out to work. Either find an excuse to take the postgraduate entrance examination for civil servants, or simply say that the real economy is not good and study at home for a few years.
I have always opposed naked exams, no matter what they take. On the one hand, the pressure of naked exams will be very great, on the other hand, naked exams often have the worst review effect.
Anyway, if you really want to take the exam and stay at home, you can be forgiven. What you are most afraid of is using exams as an excuse to waste your youth. There are games under the criticism book!
Let me add here that it is not discrimination against playing games. I admire and envy many people who play games to make money. I only said that playing games aimlessly and wasting youth is purely the Lord.
No matter what kind of excuse it is, it is a deceptive lie after all. Life is always your own, and the road is always your own.
Fourth, never waste your youth, or you will regret it.
When I was in my twenties, I lamented that time was infinitely good. I was still young and I could play freely for a few years. Until I was in my twenties, I suddenly found that I had accomplished nothing, had no job, got married and had children, bought a house and bought a car, and so on. I woke up from my sleep and felt that I had wasted a good time.
Many years ago, I was superstitious about that sentence: if you are young, you will toss around and society will tolerate you.