With the development of society, some young men and women lack the spirit of suffering.
The frequency of men and women choosing to live alone is very high. It is said that more than half of the total population in France, half in the United States, 40% in Japan and 40% in Taiwan Province Province. This trend is also developing in China in recent years. At present, the solitary rate has reached 16%, and the number of people is about 1 100 million. Then why on earth don't you want to get married Let's analyze it.
As we all know, most marriages in China are men chasing women, which shows that the crux of marriage is more biased towards women. What do women think of marriage? One of my relatives has two daughters. The eldest daughter is 35 years old. 10 years ago, she worked in a beauty shop. Now, she cares about her family, subsidizes her sister to go to school and builds a new house for her family. I have a lot of money in my hand. However, she doesn't have a boyfriend herself now, and the media has also mentioned a lot.
Before she was eight years old, her parents quarreled every day, then her mother ran away, and then her parents divorced for more than ten years. She talks a lot about family happiness. After graduating from junior high school, she went to the city where her mother worked and made a lot of money in the beauty salon. She had two boyfriends. The first time she was cheated by her boyfriend, she finally thought she had found true love, and the second time she was afraid of breaking up with each other, so that her boyfriends frequently derailed and broke up. These experiences made her selfish and indifferent to love.
"I can support myself," she said. She thought that after marriage, she had to deal with many complicated things, such as how to deal with the relationship between the two families, fearing that her children would suffer in the future, fearing that her husband would not respect herself. Now that she is off work alone, she can go wherever she wants, buy whatever she wants, and wait on people without looking at their faces. In her view, loneliness is a kind of enjoyment, and women's independence is dignity and freedom. If they choose to get married, they should be prepared to lose their freedom and dignity.
The reason why men don't want to get married is relatively simple, because there are not many people who can really sit still, and most men choose not to get married, mostly because the family conditions are comprehensive or the quality is too poor, which leads to the lack of competitiveness of marriage between men and women. Once a man is under too much pressure to survive, he can choose not to get married and live a leisurely life because he is worried about his house, car, bride price and supporting his family.
With the development of society, women pursue and cherish economic independence.
I think the main reason why men and women don't want to get married is women's economic independence. For thousands of years, the status of women "marry a Han, dress and eat" has continued. With the development and change of society, women can eat without men. So those consequences of uncertain family life are unwilling to try. They tend to marry cautiously and cherish the freedom they already have.
Do women who achieve economic independence completely reject marriage? The answer is not that the nature of women's obedience to men has not changed, but it has improved to a higher level. Neighbor has a daughter, 16 years old, who goes out to wander the rivers and lakes. Now she has tens of millions of luxury houses and millions of luxury cars. She only loses hundreds of thousands of lottery tickets a year, and has four shops and more than 40 clerks. She is 30 years old and free. The standard of marriage is that the man must be above her, regardless of her age. So those men and women who don't want to get married pay more attention to the economic foundation.
When men and women are old, it is easy to feel numb to marriage. Even a married man, as long as he has a mortgage and a car loan on his back, must work hard all day and make more money. The rest of the poor people have no burden, and they can enjoy themselves by calling the donkey slowly. Women who have children are children and families every day. And those unmarried old girls always have a lot of hate marriage theories about choosing men until they suppress themselves to the point of being outdated and rotten.
In a word, why do many older young people, whether rural or urban, not want to get married now? In my opinion, social development and economic independence of women are the fundamental reasons why men and women don't want to get married. Some young men and women feel that marriage is not a necessary option in life, and the disharmony of some marriage and family also makes young men and women question the beauty of marriage. However, family is the foundation of maintaining social stability, and marriage and family must exist. I sincerely wish older young people find the true love of life as soon as possible and live a happy family life.