My best friend's child is a school scum. There are 56 students in one class. Her baby has been wandering in the middle and lower reaches every time she takes an exam of 40. She does her homework like "killing pigs" every day. Before the third grade of primary school, she didn't sleep until 10. There is not much homework at all, but she keeps writing and can't finish it. It takes five or six hours to write a 300-word composition.
Some people say that cleaning the desktop can improve work efficiency. My best friend does. Her child is a little guy with rich associations. Sometimes she likes to scribble on books, but she writes down everything else, and children are still like this. Without books, children will start their own "creation" on the table or even in the palm of their hands.
She also encourages children, but there are many words of encouragement. Children don't take it seriously at all. Once, the children looked at his mother like fools. My best friend speaks softly to children, too, but she finds it better to yell at them.
In the third semester, my best friend completely collapsed. After a war at home, her husband turned to help the children with their homework. Her husband took a completely different approach.
1, specify the sleep time.
Her husband said that the child must go to bed before 9: 30, or he will have no energy in class the next day. Besides, children always go to bed late, which is not good for their health. Learning well is a temporary thing, but their health is a lifelong thing.
Anyway, I will go to bed after finishing my homework, and the consequences of the teacher will be borne by the children themselves.
2. Encourage and reward.
My best friend's husband says my son is not stupid. What's the use of a few words of encouragement? Just like the leader praises your hard work and serious responsibility every day, it is all empty talk.
Husbands do spend a lot of money on encouraging their children. Within a year, he spent nearly 10000 yuan on the blind box. The real reward made the children taste the sweetness. He feels that his efforts have immediate benefits and he is willing to work hard.
However, personally, we should pay attention to the frequency of use. Regular rewards and encouragement will also lead to more and more appetite and requirements for children.
3. Accompany reading without accompanying homework
My best friend is always staring at her children's homework, while her husband is doing it with them. The competition is to see who can do it quickly. There is no guidance in the middle of the homework. Correct each other after writing, and sometimes ask your girlfriends to help you time. The enthusiasm of the children is particularly high.
He will "consult" his children on individual topics and ask them to give him lectures. My best friend's husband is a graduate student. It's really funny to listen to his children's lectures carefully. However, this method can make children clear their minds. For a slightly more difficult topic, children may give up directly in the past, but now in order to make it clear to their father, they don't hesitate to spend time studying it.
4. Never interrupt
When girlfriends help children with their homework, they put their mobile phones in their pockets and sometimes take them out to look at the time. If someone calls, he will come out of the child's room. In fact, this practice will also affect children.
Besides, her husband doesn't bring his mobile phone to help the children with their homework. Both he and the children have watches, and others don't answer the phone. On one occasion, the child's grandmother sent a WeChat video to her girlfriend, and the girlfriend took the mobile phone into her son's room to let the child and grandmother video. Her husband was very angry and strongly disagreed.
5. Take out all your homework.
My best friend helps children make plans when they do their homework, and writes down the time on a piece of paper, but the plans never change quickly. The unfinished homework in front will affect the later process, and my husband doesn't plan at all.
Just before the children do their homework, he will ask them to take out all the homework of the day and put it aside, which can be classified by subject and piled up one by one, or in the order of homework, teaching materials and reference books. After writing, put it on the other side, and the child has a sense of accomplishment and urgency.
6. Family participation
Although my best friend no longer helps her children with their homework, her husband makes rules for her. When children are studying, they are not allowed to watch mobile phones in the living room or room where children can't see them. They must read a book.
At first, my best friend didn't quite understand this practice. Later, a child took a break to go to the toilet and saw his mother sitting in the living room reading. The child was surprised and said, Mom, you are reading, too. I thought you were looking at your mobile phone! In that case, I'm not unbalanced.
My best friend wants to go into the children's room to study with the father and son, but her husband said it would put pressure on the children, so my best friend has been watching it in the living room.
My best friend's husband used these methods to turn his children from scum into bullies. Now the children are in the first grade, and they can take every exam 10. His work efficiency is particularly high, he has a lot of spare time, and he doesn't feel tired when he studies. Personally, I think the last method is particularly good, at least it can create a good family atmosphere.
Do you have a good way to urge children to do their homework? Welcome to write it below and share it with you.