People have never been so keen to get rich, or want to look like rich people. People are no longer satisfied with making money by honesty and diligence, but want to get rich suddenly-whether through speculation, gambling or fraud.
General luxury can be seen everywhere, especially the characteristics of city life. You can see luxury goods everywhere in the streets, parks and churches. The luxury of clothes is only one of the manifestations of luxury, and extravagance and waste are common in social life. People live a high consumption life beyond their capacity, and the consequences can be seen in the closure of enterprises, bankruptcy lists and courts that try criminals. In court, businessmen are often accused of dishonesty and fraud.
Appearance should have style, and people should look rich. It is easy for those who are bent on gaining the trust of others to pretend to be strong. People must now live an elegant life, live in beautiful houses, eat fine food, drink high-grade wine and have gorgeous carriages. Maybe they can only live by living beyond their means or cheating.
Another kind of luxury person, although not living by fraud, is also on the verge of fraud. They have their own means to earn money, but their consumption often exceeds their income. They want to be "respectable people" They are endowed with a harmful motto: "Be sure to live like others." They don't consider whether they can afford their present life, but feel that they have to live like this in order to save face in front of others. The result of this is to sacrifice one's self-esteem. They attach importance to clothes, family facilities, lifestyle and fashion and regard them as symbols of respect. They carefully plan their image in front of the world, although it may be completely hypocritical and false.
These people think, must not appear shabby! They tried to cover up their poverty in various ways. They spend all their money before they make money-they owe a lot of money to grocery store owners, bakery owners, clothing dealers and butchers who sell meat. They must treat their "friends" who also pursue fashion like rich shopkeepers. However, when misfortune arrival, debt can no longer drag on, who is his "friend" They are far away, leaving this helpless person struggling in the debt net, just like a fish trapped in the net and unable to get out of the water!
However, as long as one has the courage to say, "I can't afford it!" " "The threat of poverty has been lifted by more than half. Friends who can enjoy happiness but can't bear pain are of no use except to reveal how a person degenerates into a snob.
What is "connecting feelings through communication"? It can't improve a person's social status at all, or even help in business. Success mainly depends on a person's character and respect. If you want to taste the fruits of success before success, then ambitious people will fall into the greedy mouth of debt without regrets.
There seems to be a universal, though unconscious, conspiracy to suppress everyone's personality and humanity. We don't encourage self-reliance and demand unified obedience. Everyone should look at other people's eyes and think with other people's brains. We are traditional admirers and followers, who only know how to look back, but not how to look forward. Bound by ignorance and weakness, we are afraid of independence and independent thinking and action.
Tradition covers everything. We are afraid to breathe the free air of independent thinking and action. We refuse to restore our nature and defend our spiritual freedom. We are content to pick other people's fruits instead of our own.
In personal affairs, such a mental outlook is equally harmful. I live under the constraints of society and do things according to the standards of our class. We are superstitious about the power of habit. According to the concept of this class, as long as we do this, we are "respected". So many people who open their eyes to the world fall into misfortune because there is no better excuse than stupid fear of "this world" They are worried about what others will say about them; And nine times out of ten, the voice of condemnation is not wise and farsighted, on the contrary, it is often more stupid, vain and short-sighted.
The uneasy idea of wanting to be different from yourself or having something you don't have is the root of all immorality. Paying attention to face is one of the greatest vices in contemporary society. People have a general idea, especially among the middle class and the upper class, that they look more respectable than they really are. They beat up their faces and pretend to be fat, and they have to show style even if their living standards are low. They try to look more advanced than they really are.
Being respected is one of the main goals. In essence, being respected is something worth fighting for. The correct way is to win the respect of others with appropriate behavior. But modern respect lies in appearance. It means wearing high-end clothes, living in an elegant house and living in fashion. It looks at external things-sound, appearance and appearance. It wants to hear the jingle of gold coins in its pocket. Morality and character have no place in the modern concept of decency. A person may be "respected" today, but he may be a complete scumbag.
The bad habits of fraud and moral corruption come from people's overemphasis on two things-rank and wealth. Everyone is trying to enter a higher class, whether it is a lower class or a higher class, and the concept of hierarchy is equally obvious in their work.
It doesn't matter what class you come from or how low your social status is. You will find that there are always people under you. This exclusive hierarchical concept is more obvious among the middle-class people. Everyone in the circle thinks it is a kind of depravity to be with the lower-ranking members of the circle. In small villages and towns, you will find different gangs with far-reaching relationships. They may despise each other. Often attack each other with harsh words. In each big parish, there are usually at least six different grades, and their status is that you have my relationship with me.
For each level, they exclude those who want to join them, but at the same time everyone at this level tries to break the boundaries with higher levels. They are eager to jump over this dividing line and enter a higher circle that still strongly excludes them.
At the forefront of the hierarchy, people desperately climb to a higher level, and countless means are just a stopgap measure. There must be social recognition and respect! For this purpose, we must be rich, or at least look like rich people.
Therefore, we strive to pursue fashion, the appearance of wealth, and the life of an upper-middle class, complacent and complacent. Because of this, the colorful world is only boring and disgusting to us. Our minds are atrophied and mentally retarded, leaving only stupidity, boredom and madness.
One of the most corrupt factors in modern civilization is the so-called "big party" system. People crowded into the room in a mess, and many unscrupulous guys did whatever they wanted. This is a ridiculous fashion.
Rousseau said in deviant language: "I would rather have a house that feels small all day than a house that feels big all year." Fashion has just turned its back on this maxim, and depravity and disaster often come from spacious rooms and comfortable lives. Unfortunately, we have never kept up with people at a lower level in our life, but with people at a higher level.
However, the unknown factor lies not so much in maintaining the superficial image as in the means used to maintain the superficial phenomenon. If you have a certain social status, people will keep it even if they take all risks. If he cuts down on luxury consumption, then the world will think that his status has declined. Those who drink champagne in a carriage and look rich will not be able to stand condescending to sit in a light carriage or drink ordinary beer. And those who have a two-wheeled off-road vehicle and have a certain status think it is too fall in price to walk or take a bus from their home in the country to their office in the city. They would rather fall morally than fall in the social hierarchy; They would rather bow to dishonesty than lose false applause and false respect in that big fool-"the world"
One of the precious experiences of mankind is embodied in this prayer: "The Lord will not let us fall into temptation." No man or woman can resist the temptation, as long as facing music, it becomes a temptation. In the usual peripheral war, the resistance was shattered. A woman who hesitates whether to take risks or borrow money has actually lost. As soon as he overcomes the staff or assistants who stare at the boss's money, he will be corrupt sooner or later. Once he overcomes the feeling that it is impossible to get money, he will do so. Therefore, the main part that determines a person's moral behavior is the habit formed by thousands of trivial things.
An important reason for dishonesty is debt. No matter what kind of debt it is, it is owed by losing a bet, playing cards, or by a hat dealer or a cloth dealer on credit. Those who love good education and training, those who earn money by honest labor, often degenerate because of luxury, some for appearance, some for gambling, some for speculation or gambling, and some for debauchery.
As the saying goes, "when you are poor, love escapes from the window." But love doesn't just escape from poor families, it often escapes from rich families, as long as there is no caring and happy heart there. This small home may be comfortable enough, and it seems that there is nothing lacking. The room is well decorated, everywhere is clean, tables and chairs are complete, the fire is burning, but there is no joy. Lack of radiant, beaming and humorous faces. Material comfort is only a small part of family happiness. Mental state determines the happiness or pain of life to a greater extent.
Most young people seldom consider love and married life. They take such an important step in life lightly. They forget that a promise is a promise. Once tied, it's hard to untie. If a rash mistake has already occurred, it will inevitably produce inevitable results.
There is a good saying: "Marriage is a lottery." This may be the case. If we refuse to be cautious, if we don't look back, ask and think, if we choose a wife or husband with less consideration than hiring a servant who can be fired at any time, if we only pay attention to the attractiveness of face, appearance and wallet, and indulge our impulse or greed-then, in these cases, marriage is really like drawing lots, and you may get a good one, but the probability of your drawing is 65,438+000.
If a person wants to be calm and smooth, then he should say "no" at the right time. Many people ruin themselves because they can't say or say "no". It is precisely because we don't have the courage to say "no" that evil prevails. We think we are victims of too many fashions in this world, because we don't have the honest courage to say such a simple word. People who are on official business dare not say "no" because they may be "fired" at any time. When a rich fool reaches out to a beautiful woman, she can hardly say "no" because her future depends on "property". An apple polisher won't say "no" because he has to promise everything with a smile.
When tempted by pleasure, you should have the courage to say "no" immediately. Looking back a little will prove that this decision is correct, and virtue will become more stable with practice. When indulgence tempts you with happiness, say "no" firmly at once. If you don't do this, but acquiesce or yield, then virtue will be far away from you and your autonomy will be hit hard. It takes some effort to say "no" for the first time, but the more you practice, the less effort you need. The only way to deal with laziness, self-indulgence, stupidity and bad habits is to say "no" resolutely and decisively. The real virtue, embodied in the right time, is the word "no".
If a person does not live within his means, he will die in debt until he has nothing, and "society" will continue to control him after he enters the grave. He must be buried according to the requirements of "society" and hold a fashionable funeral. Coffin cloth, side hats, scarves, funeral procession, gold-plated hearse and hired funeral procession are all to please people. However, the performance of the party's heartbreak, as well as the grief pretended by the hired undertaker and her husband who came for money, are worthless and extravagant!