Mainly caused by the living environment. When I was a child, because my parents and elders depended on me, I basically didn't have to make up my mind, so I didn't have a definite opinion. Then I went out of society. When I meet something that needs to be decided, I will think of what my elders said, don't make trouble, be kind to others, and then, because I am afraid of things, when I do what others give you, I will want to ask others more questions and confirm more, giving some people the feeling that you have no opinion and just want to do well. This situation is called growth. Ask more questions and have more experience, and you will gradually confirm how to do something independently, make some plans independently, and complete your ideas. As you get older, you will find yourself more and more fond of thinking and deciding your own affairs.
Being opinionated in the work is also for the smooth completion of the work, and constantly asking others in the middle is also for the continuous improvement of the work and steady progress in the right direction. With the growth of age, experience and personal character in the work society and family, people will gradually make their own choices about some things and the fork in life.
Wish each other wonderful.
It has a lot to do with family education. Some parents like to do everything when their children are young. Children lack opportunities for trial and error, or parents are strong. They think that children are their own private property, including what to do in the future, who to marry and so on. They must listen to themselves. Let the children make their own choices, and over time, let the children be at a loss and have no own opinions.
Learn less things, there is no ink on your chest.
In Romance of the Three Kingdoms, Cao Cao commented on Yuan Shao's resourcefulness, but he was not arbitrary. "Yuan Shao" himself is a "master", capable of writing and martial arts, and there are many excellent counselors around him. Why is Cao Cao worried that he is indecisive when he says he is "not good at judging"?
"Worry and indecision" is one of the reasons for the lack of autonomy, and the important reason for the lack of autonomy is that you lack a complete and comprehensive understanding and understanding of the problems you face or want to deal with, and the complexity and changing trend of the problems, so you have no opinion, no determination, no determination or decision.
The ancients, we can see. When they can't grasp the problems they face and can't predict the development trend of things, they will help:
First, "astronomical phenomena", such as "Kongming", "Xu Shu" and other ancient counselors, often watch "astronomical phenomena" at night to predict some changes in the future;
The second is to respect God. The worship of heaven and god is one of the most important activities in ancient times. Master and apprentice get "God's help" through "worshipping God" and "worshipping heaven", which means "killing pigs and cattle" at the expense of jade white to get God's help, while westerners worship God and pray for wisdom from him.
Third, divination lottery, according to the divination image to decide their own choices, and pin their fate on the "fatalistic point of view."
In fact, "astronomical phenomena", "worship of gods" and "divination" are not helpful to the problems you have to face. In addition to "psychological comfort" to enhance some spiritual self-confidence, what help is there?
For example, is it useful to look at "astronomical phenomena", "worship of gods" and "divination" in "military action"? None of the thirteen articles in Sun Tzu's Art of War let you see the contents of "astronomical phenomena", "worship of gods" and "divination". Instead, it clearly tells you the simple "dialectical materialism" thought of "know yourself and know yourself" and "the soldiers are cunning and cannot be ignored"
"bosom friend" means knowing your own weight, and "bosom friend" means knowing the "strength" of "enemy" Then take it, fight if you win, and leave if you don't win; You have your style of play, I have my style of play, and I don't play cards according to your routine.
If you want to be independent, you should not only know your own weight, but also know the cause and effect and essence of the problem, so that you can be independent and make the right decision and the most favorable choice or decision.
My own reasons.
I don't know where things are going.