The first exercise: scan the venue with your eyes. Don't be the most embarrassing person. No one dares to look at you, at least not with provocative eyes. This is the training ground and courage. In addition, you should constantly glance at the speech, almost every sentence or two. This is to attract everyone's attention, but also to prevent you from seeing any eyes that affect your mentality.
The second exercise, practicing speaking alone in private, must be done more, mainly thinking about what tone, eyes and gas field should be used in different sentences to improve speaking skills. For example, sometimes criticism should be kind, sometimes it should be serious, sometimes it should be passionate, sometimes it should be implicit, how to speak can win people's hearts, and pronunciation skills, sometimes it is necessary to relax all over, speak softly, sometimes the voice should be closed, and even use abdominal muscle strength slightly. Over time, there is an unexpected gain, that is, you can easily cope with knotting, mispronouncing, forgetting words and so on. If the aura is strong and calm, you can certainly cope.
In the third exercise, you must summarize your thoughts and topics before speaking, especially prepare a few classic words, and even write what you wrote on the spot. These words can make the finishing point and enhance your aura. Let's talk about the process that I can't say the word 100 all the year round and eventually become a fixed host of the unit.
Let me briefly talk about my personal growth experience. I began to suffer from depression in the second grade, accompanied by autism. Before the college entrance examination, I became seriously depressed and autistic. I can't speak a few words all the year round, and I get nervous when I open my mouth. I don't know what to say. I know what to say. I am tongue-tied and anxious. I speak too fast, and my speech is inarticulate (I can't even notice it myself, but I only feel it when I listen to the recording). Only I can understand the logic of my speech, and others can't understand it at all. I didn't talk to anyone until I got to work. I didn't even say hello when I was doing things with my colleagues or even when I passed the "top leader" of my own unit. People think I'm just blaming him, but I'm used to it, so I've always been like this.
In the second year of work, when I only had eight months of work experience, a speech contest was held in the street where my unit was located, and all units, enterprises and communities in the jurisdiction were invited to participate. I don't know if the leader didn't pay attention to it or if he wanted me to exercise. Obviously, there are people who can talk in my unit, and the leader has to send me.
I never thought I would pass any round of competition. I have denied myself. I think I must have been ridiculed by the judges as soon as I took the stage. I also know that I will be their laughing stock for some time after the speech contest. I'm too insecure to prepare for the tour. It's too bad luck. I also won the second place in the preliminary draw. To tell the truth, once I asked the leader to replace me, but I had to bite the bullet at the insistence of the leader. Anyway, I have been humiliated on various occasions since I was a child.
In the preliminary round, I was shaking all over when I came on stage. I stood up with my head down and walked onto the platform with my head down. I couldn't remember a word when I stood up. The leader of the jury sighed in disgust, and then asked the staff to hand me my manuscript and let me pick it up.
I never looked up from the stage to see my seat. Back in my seat, I was still full of self-denial as always, and I made up my mind. On such a big occasion, I was so timid and incompetent as a big boy, and I also thought that I was laughed at by the company. The more I think about it, the more sad I feel. This is also my inherent reaction on any occasion for more than ten years, even after I only saw 1 person-I fabricated my shameful appearance, felt inferior and completely denied myself.
But later, I found that some of these contestants were very lacking in common sense, some were very unprofessional and went through the motions. Many of them read the manuscript without emotion, listless and intermittent, and even two of them used dialects, and some of them were casually downloaded from the Internet. The place names in the content were actually from other places. But unlike me, they can liven up the atmosphere by joking or laughing at themselves, causing laughter and applause. It can be said that these people's speech content is the worst, but their attitude is better. I can't even tell whether they are cheerful or shameless.
I suddenly feel less inferior, and there are so many people whose performance is worse than mine! I asked the staff if I could leave early if I was in a hurry, and the staff said that as long as you have already given a speech, you can. Actually, I don't have anything urgent! I just want to get back on my feet and prepare for the semi-finals. I can't remember when I was so old, and I was so active and eager to show myself in front of others. I went home, closed the doors and windows, took a deep breath for the first time, and tried to read the manuscript by speech. At the age of 24, I was surprised to find that my voice could be so loud! Then the out-of-control practitioner, after all, hasn't moved his mouth for so many years, always mispronouncing, mispronouncing or even mispronouncing a word, while I have been practicing, thinking about what tone to use sentence by sentence, stressing those words, and so on, practicing repeatedly and lying in bed.
I was a little excited when it entered the semi-finals. For so many years, no matter on what occasions, I have made my parents, relatives and friends feel ashamed because I don't speak or the way I speak. Today, I can finally not be ashamed! I can't compete with the master. I think there is still room for struggle with these people! So, with a violent heartbeat, I went straight to the podium, repeating a sentence in my heart: I can do it! I can do it!
At first, my voice was still shaking. Later, I practiced skillfully in advance. After a decent opening, I got used to it in a minute or two, and the impassioned speech continued. As I expected, my speech won warm applause. When the speech was over, I took a step to the right and bowed. I was so excited that I almost cried-I finally had a shameful occasion!
Sure enough, I haven't been eliminated this time. After returning to China, I feel completely transformed. For the first time, I had the courage to go to the window and look out. Before that, I never dared to go near the window. Even if I take the bus train, I will close the curtains. I relived the whole process of the speech over and over again, remembering every word. Although I can still feel that there are many places that need to be improved, the confidence in them makes me linger. I relived it again and again, eating, going to work and lying in bed. This is a key point. We should not deny ourselves because of the shortcomings in our speech. Instead, we should actively understand and improve the problems, better sum up what we have done well in time, practice repeatedly and strive for perfection.
This experience made me deeply understand many things:
In fact, the ability to speak in public is not good in three aspects. The first is that you are stupid, and the key lies in the second and third points: insufficient preparation; Lack of self-confidence and courage. Stupid, you can prepare in advance. The problems of courage and self-confidence are all caused by your own heart, just like the online saying: as long as you are not embarrassed, others will be embarrassed. Similarly, as long as you are not nervous, you can be the "most beautiful boy" under any circumstances, just like those who go through the motions in the preliminary round, but you can smile and even joke with everyone when you walk off the stage. Even if the speech is poor, it has no charm.
After several years of work, I have basically stopped getting stage fright at the sight of many people, and the leaders have assigned me some work related to speech, such as giving two classes to more than 40 people; I once attended a scheme negotiation meeting, 15 people attended, among which 14 people were "big boss" and I was the only young person. My leader only took part in "sitting in the town" because I had to take the lead. There was also a speech in which dozens of enterprises represented dozens of government leaders. There are not many speakers, only five, and I am the fifth finale. I got the warmest applause, and many people took out their mobile phones to pat me, which the other four contestants didn't have when they preached.
I have never made a speech, and I never thought that one day I would stand on the stage and give a speech. Later, I went to the podium again and again, and I found my confidence and myself step by step. I no longer have stage fright, and I am warm and generous with people.
Through repeated speeches, I actually got another unexpected gain, that is, I found the key to pronunciation myself. I can make all kinds of advertising sounds, such as "a drop of Taibai Liquor, ten miles of grass fragrance" with an old and rich voice, or "XXX big broadcast" of youth waves in shopping malls! ...... "This discovery made me make a very nice voice when I gave a speech, so that the unit asked me to be the host of various programs and activities, the biggest one of which was an audience of forty or fifty meters wide, government leaders and corporate executives sitting in four and a half rows, and my partner was from. After the end, my girlfriend told me with joy: the audience under the stage thought I was from the TV station and kept praising the man's voice for being so comfortable! Great! In fact, I heard all these praises from the audience myself. My limelight completely overshadowed my professional partner ... which made my partner say sourly afterwards that you were quite professional. Do you want to consider coming to us?
In fact, from the strength and basis, people are definitely much better than me, but I have prepared for this host for a long time in advance, and even participated in a lot, so I completely compared her at the scene. This makes me more deeply understand the importance of preparation in advance. Therefore, the more stage fright, the more we should take every opportunity seriously, make more preparations and give ourselves more opportunities.
The key content of my advice to you is: practice more when you are alone, and even when you take a shower, you can use the acoustics in the bathroom. No one in the work unit can enjoy it in the corridor or elevator after work, and then think about the satisfactory place over and over again. This will not only further master the skills, but also make you more confident and frank, just like writing. When you first learn, you will become proficient if you write more. Then, look for opportunities to bring your key skills into play and take actual combat as the test. Even if you don't play well, don't think the worst, just think about what you played this time, what you improved, and what you need to consolidate. Then continue to practice and improve in private.
The biggest fear is that I am nervous every time, but if I am too nervous, things will pass and then I will leave it alone. If we go on like this, we will never be promoted, and we will never find confidence, forming a vicious circle.
When you are only confident in your speech, this is the bottleneck of self-study. You need to compare better and more professional people, watch more professional lectures, and even repeat news broadcasts and high-quality advertisements sentence by sentence on the webpage to further improve yourself and improve your own shortcomings. You can even find opportunities to learn their timbre. Bruce Lee, a great master, liked to challenge others in his early days, and he suffered many defeats and battles. But the important thing is that he will sum up carefully every time in the future, absorb the advantages of others and improve his own shortcomings. As long as you succeed, others will not laugh at your efforts. Once I was busy until 2 am, thinking that there was no one at work, I rehearsed the host's speech loudly for more than ten minutes before I got off work. I didn't expect no one to find out. I was embarrassed, but the story I told was how inspirational I was and how serious I was about my work.
After a while, I will go to the city to take part in a speech contest. This contest can be said to be a gathering of experts, both senior Chinese teachers who graduated from prestigious schools and professionals with literary and artistic skills and broadcasting skills. But even so, I have no stage fright. I don't care what I get. I only value what I can see and learn this time.