Apart from arranged marriages, what other special ways were there to recruit relatives in ancient times?

In ancient times, the marriage of extended families was generally? Parents' orders, matchmaker's words? , that is, parents arranged marriage. Children seldom have their own autonomy. Marriage is a life-long event, so in ancient times, parents were asked to check and get their consent. So apart from arranged marriages, what other special ways were there to recruit relatives in ancient times? There are also three special ways to recruit relatives, namely, competition to recruit relatives, throwing hydrangeas, and meeting in the same year.

We can often see this way on TV, which is generally adopted by Jianghu children or people who know martial arts. In Jin Yong's novel The Legend of the Condor Heroes, Mu Nianci got married in a contest, and Yang Kang won everyone in the ring and became Mu Nianci's husband. Mu Nianci also fell in love with Yang Kang at first sight, and their affection was secretly generated. It's a pity that in Yang Kang's mind, power is more important than Mu Nianci, so he took the thief as his father and gave up this marriage.

This way of throwing hydrangeas is also very common. Throwing hydrangeas, this is actually a bit casual. No matter how many people grab the hydrangea, whether ugly or not, whether they have a family or not, as long as they grab the hydrangea, they can marry unmarried women home. It is also wonderful that the ancients could come up with such a risky way to recruit relatives. We have also seen the scene of throwing hydrangeas in the TV series Princess Zhu Huan. A woman threw hydrangeas in the attic, and a group of people stood below, eagerly grabbing hydrangeas.

The last special way to recruit relatives is the same year meeting. This is actually a bit like the blind date corner in our city now. Different from modern times, men and women can face each other in the same year's congress. It is a more democratic way to choose your favorite object independently.

No matter what kind of marriage, I think it's important to find my Mr. Right. After all, marriage is a matter of a woman's life, so we must be cautious and not allow any mistakes.