The real Buddhism mainly talks about people clinging to too many things, but often things are not satisfactory. Therefore, life is a painful body, and it needs to achieve the bodhi realm psychologically through cultivation and get rid of the troubles in the world. Life is like a game, and most people are addicted to game characters like children. Only the Awakening Buddha told the world not to take it too seriously. In the end, everyone will return to the dust, return to the earth, and become one with everything in the world after death.
Later, in order to spread, Buddhism came up with many tricks, and many things became mere formality, forgetting the original intention of the Buddha. There was even an enlightened old monk who told his disciples to burn the Buddha statue to enlighten them, and his disciples did the same. Why do you realize the Tao is because that disciple walked out of the form of Buddhism and felt the true meaning of Buddhism-that is, seeing nature with a clear mind, and being born without being born.
Having said so much, I want to tell you that the Buddha felt by the world is often out of shape, mixed with many superstitious elements and even confusing. You broke up with your boyfriend, which has nothing to do with seeing this respected man. This venerable person is just an imaginary image created by people who believe in Buddhism in order to spread Buddhism. Why do you take it too seriously?
You should calmly analyze the situation since you got along with your boyfriend, what kind of person he is, how he has been treating you, and objectively consider various factors from both positive and negative aspects. If he has always had reservations about you, or you have always had objective difficulties that you can't resolve, maybe you have already buried hidden dangers when you broke up, but when you saw this xenophobic person, this shadow in your heart was aroused, which led to association.
Relax, if you can, fight for it, if not, let go early, because life is a journey, the old will not go, the new will not come, find someone who really belongs to you! It is very important for people to have fun in the game, so why should they be too obsessed with the details of the process? Isn't it?