1. Finish the homework on time
2. Develop a correct reading and writing posture.
3. Be able to read Pinyin short stories.
Living habits
1. Prepare school supplies for the next day every night.
2. Go to bed early and get up early.
3. Eat on time, don't eat snacks, and cherish food.
4. Take good care of books and school supplies.
5. Get dressed and tie your shoelaces.
Making friends habit
1. Students get along well with each other and don't fight or curse.
2. Be willing to help classmates.
Don't associate with strangers.
Healthy habits
1. Brush your teeth in the morning and evening.
Wash your hands before and after meals.
3. Don't buy snacks.
4. Do two exercises on time.
Behavior habit
1. Say hello to teachers and guests.
2. Don't throw paper scraps.
Don't talk loudly in public.
Other habits
1. Appreciate others' help. Among the nodes of young, young, young and young, the ability span required by young cohesion is the largest. In addition to knowledge cohesion, emotion and sociality also need to adapt before development. How to get along with others, how to know yourself, how to express ideas, how to solve contradictions, learn to be considerate of others, and learn to share and cooperate are all important lessons for children at the beginning of their studies.
Some parents think that getting off to a good start in school means grasping grades, urging their children to study every day, and getting angry when they deduct one or two points in the exam, because they don't know that the focus of Grade One is not grades, but adaptation, and good habits are more important than good grades. "Xi" means "birds fly", and birds practice flying again and again; "Get used to it and learn" means getting used to it and accumulating over time. Habit is a fixed behavior pattern formed after repeated practice. Once formed, it is difficult to change.
The first and second grades of primary school are the key period for habit formation. Learning habits include study habits, brain habits, class habits, homework habits, review and inspection habits, and sleep, diet and exercise habits related to learning. For the first-grade children, there are three most important study habits: following the teacher closely, doing it by yourself and not procrastinating.
Grasp the critical period of habit formation
Critical period is a psychological term, also called sensitive period, which means that "people are particularly sensitive to the influence of specific environment and education at a certain period of development, and it is the easiest to acquire certain behaviors and skills". If there is no corresponding environment and education in the critical period, nerve cells will be used and discarded, gradually degenerate and never develop again. During the critical period, children will be particularly sensitive to some things and indifferent to others.
There are several critical periods for children's development, that is, 2-3 years old is the critical period for learning oral English, and 3-4 years old is the critical period for emotional development. Self-control ability begins to form at the age of 5-6, the critical period for learning a foreign language is at the age of 5-6, the critical period for memory development is at the age of 6- 12, and the critical period for developing study habits is at the age of 6-8.
6-8 years old is the first and second grade of children's school, and good habits or bad habits are formed and fixed at this time.
The study also found that from the fourth grade of primary school to the third grade of high school, students' growth and changes in other aspects are obvious, such as the development and changes of understanding and memory ability and abstract thinking ability, but the level of study habits has not changed much. It can be seen that it is much more important to develop good habits in the first grade than to get good grades several times. Develop good habits, get twice the result with half the effort, otherwise get twice the result with half the effort.
Habit is a power of automation. It's natural not to make up your mind and think. Good study habits are the driving force for orderly, efficient and promoting learning. Children have good sleep habits, go to bed early and get up early, and are full of energy; Children have a good habit of doing their homework. If they don't play and write at the same time, it will be fast and good. If children use their brains well and concentrate on their studies, their learning efficiency will be high ... The power of habits is even stronger than we think, and good habits are the guarantee of a virtuous circle of children's learning.
Habits are automatic, good habits can naturally resist bad habits, and bad habits also resist good habits. Moreover, once bad habits are fixed, it is difficult to correct them. Some children's bad study habits developed in primary school have not changed at all in junior high school and senior high school. On one occasion, "an extremely anxious student's parents" wrote for help, saying that the child was in the fifth grade and was not attentive in class. He can't finish his homework for hours. He goes to bed late at night and can't get up in the morning. It turns out that this parent was busy with business when his child first went to school, and he didn't have the habit of cultivating his child. When he earns money and has time to take care of the children, the children's bad habits have been formed, and it is difficult to correct them after many attempts, and their grades have dropped below the average.
Generally speaking, it is never too late to correct bad habits, and the bad habits of fifth-grade children should also be corrected, but it is certainly much more difficult than forming good habits from grade one. Therefore, parents should remember that in the first grade of primary school, it is more important to cultivate good study habits than to get good grades.
Good habits are the guarantee for children to study well.
First-grade children should cultivate the habit of working on time and eating well in life, and form the habit of following the teacher closely, doing it by themselves and doing it quickly (without procrastination) in study.
First of all, we should form the study habit of following the teacher closely. This habit is very important for children's psychological development and learning ability growth, and contains several layers of value. There are dozens of children in a class. Whoever can't keep up with the teacher may not be able to keep up. Parents should tell their children to follow the teacher with their eyes, ears and movements at any time and keep up with the teacher's classes, homework, activities and requirements, so as to meet the requirements of the school and complete the learning task.
I have observed in the first-grade class for many years and found that only children who can keep up with the teacher can keep up with the rhythm of the class. As soon as the teacher's voice fell, they did as the teacher asked, quickly and neatly. About13 children can't keep up with the teacher's reading questions, or their ears can't keep up, or their brains can't keep up. They stared at other places and even sat in a daze. After the teacher finished speaking, when he saw other children start writing, he quickly raised his hand and said, "Teacher, what are you writing?"
To cultivate children's habit of keeping up with teachers, parents need to remind them often and inform them specifically. After a period of persistence, ignorant children can gradually develop a sense of task, realize that going to school is a task, and understand what they should do and how to do it well.
Secondly, if you understand it, you should learn to do it yourself and form good habits in the process of doing it yourself.
All things related to children's learning, such as preparing stationery, packing schoolbags, tidying desks and bookshelves, etc., are irreplaceable, so as to cultivate organized and agile children.
I once observed a first-grade child taking the first final exam, and the teacher began to read the questions. A child's pencil box fell to the ground with a bang, and the child was anxious. The boy next to him quickly helped him with his stationery and test paper. The child picked up the pencil in one breath, but he didn't know what the teacher was reading. He quickly raised his hand and asked the teacher to read it to him alone, but the progress was already behind the whole class.
After class, I asked the boy who went to help, did you pack your schoolbag yourself? The boy said that I cleaned all the tables in my room by myself. It can be seen that the difference between the two children's organizational ability and self-care ability is obvious, and the clumsy children are always a little slower or even a lot. Children who can keep up with the teacher's requirements, move neatly and write quickly and well are basically doing their own thing.
It is much more troublesome for children to do it by themselves than to do it for them. However, children like "I'll do it" from the age of two or three. They don't like their parents to do it for them. They don't want to look stupid in class after school. They are willing to be capable children and get praise from teachers and classmates. The problem is in the classroom, but the reason is at home. A senior child wrote a composition, hoping "Mom, don't spoil me!" " ! I can do things myself. "It can be seen that it is the parents' fault that children can't keep up at school.
The third important habit is not to delay, to go to bed, get up, exercise, complete a task, and do homework independently. In order to adapt to the rhythm of the school.
Some children get up slowly and always can't get out; Some children are on their way to school, and their parents feed them; Some children love to bargain with their parents and want to play at bedtime. How will they do their homework with their brains in the future? When they went swimming, they began to think about why not. If parents really "bargain", argue for a while and make unprincipled concessions, it will not only violate the rules, waste time, but also form the habit of procrastination ... Parents lack decision-making and let their children do it, and the family atmosphere will be lost in the tug-of-war of confrontation and scheming.
Parents' improper parenting style, no rules to follow and unprincipled accommodation have developed the habit of procrastination, and most of the procrastination in learning comes from this. Weekend homework will be put off until Sunday night, and winter and summer homework will be put off until a few days before school starts. Moreover, the habit of procrastination is very stubborn, and I will always follow my children to middle schools, universities and even the workplace, dragging my life and being passive everywhere.
Parents need gentleness and persistence every day.
Habit is a change in the connection of the nervous system. It is an action that can be completed automatically without the effort of will. It can be formed by repeating it thousands of times. After its formation, it is no longer dominated by will, and its driving force is very strong. According to this truth, the way to cultivate children's good habits is to repeat, repeat and persist gently every day until it becomes a natural habit.
Repetition is an important way to make the nervous system form a fixed action pattern. Habit formation mainly depends on "learning" rather than parents' language preaching. Just like birds practice flying repeatedly, children's school life is repetitive, which is repeated every day, every week, every semester and every year, becoming a habit. Parents should gently adhere to the repetition of "every day", and "let nature take its course" will form good habits.
Psychologists emphasize that the formation of habits should be repeated, "before the formation of habits, there should be no exceptions." Except in very special circumstances, don't make an exception, because every exception is like "a mass of wire that you have worked hard to wind falls to the ground and slides to the ground to let the coil relax more than many times." Once the rules are established, don't change them easily, so that the rules can play the role of "automatic repetition"
The formation of habits requires parents' gentle persistence. Get up, sleep, eat three meals a day, do homework, pack stationery, read books and other habits should be developed at home. Children at the age of six or seven still lack self-control and cannot form habits entirely by self-restraint. External requirements from parents and teachers are necessary. However, if parents express their emotions, children will feel scared and have a lot of negative emotions, which will damage the parent-child relationship.
Insist gently, it doesn't make much sense, let alone chatter. Parents' insistence is actually to cultivate children's self-control and let them know that going to school is not just fun, but just doing what they like. Do what you don't like and what is difficult, and try to do it well.
Some parents say that children are disobedient and have a big temper, which is too difficult to persist.
Children aged six or seven have a big temper. There must be something wrong with family education itself. Parents must have educational authority, insist on letting their children have rules, and don't lose their temper. Education needs authority. Without authority, there is no education. Insisting gently means giving full play to the role of educational authority.
(The author Zhao Shiping is a professor at Chongqing Normal University and the chairman of the Family Education Committee of Chongqing Education Association)
China Education News, 9th edition, July 5th, 20 18. As the saying goes, "it takes 2 1 day to form a habit", and it is even more difficult for us to change it after the habit is finalized. If it is a bad habit, it will be a way to affect our growth. If it is a good habit, it will add luster to our growth path.
So we must cultivate good habits, so when can we cultivate good habits?
After years of teaching practice, Xiao Xie believes that these six habits should be cultivated in the first grade, and children's life and study will be active in the senior grade.
Grade?One
First, classroom habits
There will be a lot of discomfort in the first grade of kindergarten. During kindergarten, children have no fixed seats and can play games anytime and anywhere.
Therefore, in the eyes of many children, in the first grade, children can also study and play games with their classmates, so they may look around and chat with each other in class.
However, some parents beat their children on this ground, and they don't explain clearly why they can't talk in class. This will make them feel wronged. Even if you admit your mistake on the surface, you will not be persuaded, or even secretly resent your parents. Over time, they will become rebellious and deliberately make more noise in the next class.
Therefore, when children have such doubts, parents should patiently tell them that we can't talk in class like the first grade in kindergarten. Parents should also tell their children that they can only play games with their partners after school, so teachers should listen carefully when giving lessons to their classmates, so that they can learn a lot of new knowledge without disturbing other students who listen carefully. Only children who respect teachers and classmates are good children.
Second, work habits.
In the first grade, after school, children will start to do homework. This is because children write slowly and there are still many things they don't understand.
Some children have difficulty in doing their homework, so they go to their parents for help without serious thinking. At this time, parents should not give help easily. If children are given help when they are slightly in trouble, they will become dependent and even develop the habit of making fakes. And if a child can't learn by himself, can't think by himself, and it is difficult to make progress in learning. This kind of "help" from parents is tantamount to hindering children's learning.
Therefore, parents should let their children finish their homework independently from the first grade, which is definitely one of the study habits.
Grade?One
Third, reading habits.
In the third year of high school, many parents asked Xiao Xie, "Children don't like reading. Is there any way to improve it? " In fact, children should not be forced at this time, because they have formed a habit. Therefore, Xiao Xie can only say that reading is a class assignment. Therefore, if the teacher arranges it, the children will read it. If they don't arrange it, the children will stop reading.
Therefore, in the first grade, parents should lead by example, not by example. Only parents who love reading can cultivate children who love reading.
Parents should first like reading, know how to read and understand the contents of books, so as to guide their children to read and subtly drive them to read with their own actions. In the early stage of cultivating children's reading habits, the most important thing is that parents should read more articles to their children, which can not only prolong their time of intentional attention, stimulate their imagination and promote their emotional development, but also cultivate their reading interest and make them consciously and voluntarily want to learn.
Fourth, work and rest habits
Children's schedule is very important. According to Xiao Xie, many children stay up late to watch their mobile phones, which will not only affect their development, but also lead to lack of sleep and affect the quality of class the next day. Therefore, parents should control their children's work habits from an early age.
Observe how long the child needs to sleep, and then calculate from the time of getting up in the morning to determine the sleep time of the night before. For example, if a child sleeps 10 hours and needs to get up at 7: 00 in the morning, then he must go to bed at 9: 00 the night before, preferably at 8: 30. In this way, it is easier for children to open their eyes the next morning. Parents must let their children sleep and get up regularly to form a habit.
Grade?One
Five, the habit of parents to encourage
Xiao Xie always thinks that encouragement is better than comparison, criticism and blame, because encouragement is still a person's internal motivation, and his whole body seems to be full of energy, so parents should change their thinking and encourage their children more.
Commonly used words of encouragement can be: "Well done this time", "I'm glad to make progress", "Well done, it would be better to work harder", "You are really great", "Just celebrate", "Just correct your mistakes", "Don't be discouraged, failure is the mother of success" and "Try to find a way together when you have difficulties" ...
Sixth, cooperative habits
In daily life, there are many behaviors that need the cooperation of two or more people, and one person can't do it. Parents can take this opportunity to let their children feel the frustration that individuals can't accomplish, so as to understand the importance of cooperation with others.
Children in Grade One have not formally developed various habits. Therefore, at this time, parents must be patient and give careful guidance. When the children are in senior grades, these good habits will lead the children to study better and parents will be more relaxed. Moreover, children can repay their parents with the best results.