Pan Cuiyun recalled that two years ago, his son Jin Chao drafted a family agreement, stipulating that two daughters were not allowed to visit their mothers. Pan Cuiyun thought the contents of the agreement were unreasonable and refused to sign it. Then, at the age when he should have enjoyed happiness, Pan Cuiyun was put under house arrest by his son as a "prisoner" and lost his personal freedom.
Pan Cuiyun said that during the Chinese New Year holidays, including his 60th birthday, his son never came to see him and never gave him a penny. Her son's indifference to her over the years chilled her. It is said that raising children to prevent old age, Pan Cuiyun has long been disappointed with his son. Now, she just wants to break off the mother-child relationship with her son. What happened between mother and son that would make a mother say such a decisive thing?
It turns out that as early as 2009, everyone in the village got 1 0,000 yuan. After receiving the notice, Pan Cuiyun went to the village to get money, but her son hit her on the head with a brick. That time, he had eight stitches. Recalling the scene where her son threw a brick at her ten years ago, Pan Cuiyun still has a lingering fear. She said that her son Jin Chao killed her for 1000 yuan. Since then, my son has never been in charge of her life. Then why did Jin Chao do this to his mother?
Back to the eldest daughter's house, Pan Cuiyun took us to her room. A single bed, a small wooden table and a pile of daily necessities almost occupied the whole room. She said that the living conditions of her two daughters were not good, and she didn't want to drag them down if her son was cornered.
Pan Cuiyun said that their life was very hard in those days. In order to support their three children, she worked as a small business and a dishwasher. She thought that she could enjoy her old age after those hard days, but her son who had worked so hard to raise became unimaginable. When she mentioned her mother, her eldest daughter, Jin Meijun, kept wiping her tears and showed the scars on her mother's hands.
Pan Cuiyun said. She built a five-story house in 2009, but she hasn't contacted her since her son kicked her out of the house. Now that Pan Cuiyun has a home and can't go back, she said that she no longer expects her son to suddenly change his mind and be filial to her. She just wants to get her own house back and spend her old age in her own house.
Son Jin Chao said that the agreement did exist, but it did not bind the mother to see her two daughters, nor did it prevent her from going out. I wrote this agreement because my mother often goes out for a few days without seeing anyone. Considering that my mother is over 60 years old, for her safety, I hope my mother can let me know when she goes out or goes to her daughter's house, so that he can know her whereabouts, but my mother misunderstood herself.
Now, the unsigned agreement has long gone, but the misunderstanding and resentment between mother and son have not disappeared. Pan Cuiyun accused her son of trying to restrict her personal freedom, while Jin Chao claimed that his behavior was out of concern for his mother's personal safety. As for hitting mom on the head, Jin Chao said it did happen because mom was such a failure.
Jin Chao recalled that when he built the house, he borrowed a lot of money from outside, but his mother raised another man outside and wanted to sell the house at the instigation of this man, because the owner was his mother's name. Facing the huge loan, Jin Chao blamed his mother for not giving him timely help when he was in trouble, but made it worse and forced him to hit people. Not only that, mother's behavior is worse.
Jin Chao said that his son was weaned at the age of one and gave the child to his mother for ten days. The mother took her one-year-old son and the man out to play mahjong at night and didn't come home until after one o'clock in the morning. The cold weather directly led to the child suffering from severe pneumonia, and the two sent the child to his father-in-law's house. The reason why she doesn't care about her mother now, Jin Chao revealed another secret.
Jin Chao said that when he was twelve years old, his father hanged himself because of his mother. When talking about his father, Jin Chao was emotional. It turned out that one day in 1997, Jin Chao's father committed suicide in his own kitchen, and his father's death cast a lingering psychological shadow on him.
Pan Cuiyun admitted that his wife slept soundly when she committed suicide and had a quarrel that day. His son always blames his father for his negligence. Since then, my son has always had a bad feeling towards her. Life is very difficult after the family lost its support. Three children left school early before they graduated from junior high school. Seeing the difficult situation of Pan Cuiyun's family, their friends introduced her to an honest boyfriend with a stable job. The arrival of her boyfriend made Jin Chao's resentment against her mother accumulate deeper and deeper.
Pan Cuiyun said that more than a decade ago, his hometown collected it, and * * * got a levy of more than 200,000. Pan Cuiyun used the money to help his son open a cake shop. Later, when the money was spent, my son's career developed greatly, but his attitude towards her changed dramatically. In the eyes of Pan Cuiyun's eldest daughter, her younger brother Jin Chao is a person who has only money but no affection. Because she is afraid that the two sisters will compete for property, she has already broken contact with her sisters. So, is Jin Chao really a person who looks at money?
Jin Chao said that over the years, his relationship with his two sisters was unfamiliar, and his mother didn't reconcile in time. On the contrary, it added fuel to the fire, because the mother's center was wrong, which led to the family being strangers, which also deepened his resentment against his mother. Recalling the hard life at home after your father's death, he silently vowed to treat his mother well, but his mother's behavior made him extremely worried and greatly reduced his filial piety to his mother. Not only that, mother also hid the house.
It turned out that when the village divided the land, her boyfriend encouraged her to draw lots to register her name, but in fact her mother only enjoyed 15 square meters of land area. After building the house, her boyfriend encouraged her to sell it. His mother lived on the second floor before, and all the other floors were rented out. Later, his mother didn't want to go home, so he rented out the second floor. But his mother claimed that he occupied the house and drove her out of the house, which made him angry and helpless.
Jin Chao said that he has not neglected his mother in these years. She wanted to send money to her mother during the holiday, but her mother refused to answer the phone. Speaking of the reason why his mother did this, Jin Chao said that the demolition money at home was managed by his mother. In his view, it is his mother's forgetfulness of the bitter days of the past and her failure to cherish the sweet days of the present that leads him to turn a blind eye to his filial piety, which leads to the increasingly distant relationship between mother and child, including the bad sister relationship, all because her mother cares too much about money. Now as long as his mother can put aside her prejudice against him, he will still support her and be a good son.
During the mediation, Jin Chao said that as long as his mother was willing to come back, he was willing to take back the rented second floor and give it to her, and pay an alimony regularly. Pan Cuiyun was indifferent to his son's crying and commitment. She proposed that her son give her a one-time alimony of 654.38 million yuan, and then cut off the mother-child relationship with her son and stopped seeing each other.
Finally, after mediation, the mother and son are willing to take a step back. Jin Chao provides accommodation for her mother and pays 1500 yuan alimony every month. In the future, Pan Cuiyun's birth, illness, death and burial will also be the responsibility of his son. Under the witness of the community, the two signed a support agreement.
Bian Xiao's point of view is that if Pan Cuiyun, as a mother, can communicate with her son more, give him more understanding and fulfill her responsibilities as a mother, the rift between mother and child will not be so deep. As a son, Jin Chao, regardless of whether his mother is wrong or not, should not start work on his mother, let alone ignore her when she is old. The tree wants to be quiet and the wind will not stop, and the son wants to raise it instead of kissing it. I also hope that everyone will understand that we are all children and will eventually grow old. No parents are born perfect, so don't wait until your parents are gone to regret it.
So, who do you think is right or wrong about the behavior of mother Pan Cuiyun and son Jin Chao?