1. Why are there contradictions between lovers?
In fact, there will be contradictions between couples, but for various reasons, contradictions often escalate from the beginning. Cai Xiao and Xiao Xia are both small clerks in the workplace, and it is inevitable that they will encounter some contradictions in their work, while Cai Xiao always avoids talking about his girlfriend and has no emotional output to his girlfriend. Cai Xiao did this largely because he did something wrong. His girlfriend is too busy at work to communicate with him. When Cai Xiao said this, Xiao Xia might feel very reasonable. If my girlfriend doesn't reply to Cai Xiao because she is too busy or tired at work, there may be some problems in this relationship.
2. Causes of contradiction
Cai Xiao's indifference to his girlfriend may be related to his attitude in dealing with emotional problems. After arguing with his girlfriend because of trivial matters in life, Cai Xiao couldn't think rationally. Blind quarrel leads to emotional breakdown of girlfriend, which leads to misunderstanding, so girlfriend appears indifferent and ignores it. After breaking up, Cai Xiao apologized to his girlfriend, but she thought he didn't do anything wrong and didn't care about his behavior, so she stopped responding. This statement is also a denial of this relationship. This behavior is a sign of disrespect for his girlfriend, which leads to his indifference.
3. How to deal with emotional contradictions
In feelings, some people will make irreparable mistakes because of a temporary impulse. The feelings between two people need to be slowly run in, and then the feelings can be sublimated. There will inevitably be some contradictions between lovers. At this time, they will not blindly blame each other, but will be more tolerant of each other and consider the problem from each other's point of view. However, sometimes, because Cai Xiao is usually emotional, after doing something wrong, the other party can't correctly recognize her wrong behavior.
4. How to save feelings?
We must find out the reason for breaking up before we can recover. First of all, find out why you broke up and find the real reason. Understand why the other party needs to recover in order to prescribe the right medicine. Before breaking up, you should constantly guide the other person to become interested in you. For example: "I know how painful it is for you to break up, but I believe that as long as there are feelings between us, we will be very happy!" " "This will make the other party feel valued. And use this time to make the other person emotionally dependent on you, so that you can save her.