What do you want?
Do you feel unhappy at work after working for a period of time? Do you feel that you are in the wrong business? Do you think you didn't get the treatment you deserved? Do you feel like a mess at work? Going to work every day is a pain? Do you really want to change jobs? Do you feel that the current company is not as good as you thought? Do you think this job was originally found because of the pressure of survival, and it is really not suitable for you? Did you get what you wanted from your job? Are you happy every day?
In fact, the root of your unhappiness is that you don't know what you want! You don't know what you want, so you don't know what to pursue, so you get nothing.
Your first concern in your career is yourself. What do you want?
Looking for what you want is not to compete with others, to get more and higher than others, and to have greater goals than others. Although the goal of becoming Li Ka-shing is ambitious, you may not be able to get happiness from this goal and the process of pursuing it, and basically you can't do it. You must listen to your inner voice and look for something that really makes you happy. This is what you want.
Whose life do you want to live? A person's life is not the sequel of his parents' life, nor the prequel of his children's life, nor the external story of his friends' life. Only you are responsible for your own life, and others can't and can't afford it.
There are always some lucky people in the world, but for most people, it is more practical to assume that they are unlucky.
We are all ordinary people. Ordinary people mean that the probability is very accurate. Therefore, we won't win 5 million in the lottery, become Bill Gates or Li Ka-shing, fall off by plane, few people succeed in starting a business, 30% will get divorced, and most people will live to be over 65. ...
"I saw the thief eating meat, but I didn't see the thief being beaten." We ordinary people have neither the courage nor the determination to be thieves. Although we envy eating meat, we are more afraid of being beaten. Occasionally seeing a few thieves who have not been beaten, we will be unbearable, or active, or feel unfair. We really want to be thieves, but we dare not.
There is no easy success in the world. Success comes at a price. Please forget all the pressure of survival and think about what you want most in this life. Therefore, the most important thing is to think about what you want.
A good job should be one that suits you. Specifically, it should be a job that can bring you what you want. Maybe you should use this to measure whether your work is good or not, instead of measuring the size, scale, foreign enterprises or state-owned enterprises, whether they are famous or not, and whether they are listed companies. A small company is not necessarily a good company, and a job with more money is not necessarily a good job. You still have to figure out what you want first. If you don't know what you want, you will never find a good job, because you will always see what you can't get and what you get is unwanted.
Perhaps, the best is around you, but you haven't learned to cherish it. People always stare at what they can't get and ignore what they have got.
About occupation
If you want to go further in your career, you must first make yourself happy at work. If a job makes you unhappy or even miserable, then you are the player who can't make it to the finish line. Even if we stick to the finish line, is such a painful life interesting? Secondly, we should plan for the future and try to combine work and rest. You should know that this is a long process. Don't exhaust your strength and patience from the beginning. When your strength and patience are exhausted and you encounter setbacks, most people will fall into depression and pessimism, and job-hopping will become natural. For those who are new to the workplace and can't control their mentality well, master their own rhythm, don't follow others' footsteps and mess up their own rhythm, know what they are doing and know their goals. As for others who can't get on or off, just let them go and ignore them.
Normal people have to work for about 35 years, which is like a marathon. Different from the real marathon, there are no professionals in this competition, and everyone has only one chance. You know, there are a lot of people who can't even reach the finish line, most of them finally reach the finish line, and only a few people have crossed the finish line, so it doesn't make much sense to grab the leading position from the beginning.
A career is like a sports competition, including a preliminary contest, a semi-final contest and a final contest. In the preliminary round, everyone just entered the society, and most of them were people with average strength. At this time, hard work and seriousness will soon make people stand out, so some people became managers in their twenties, and some people finally won the preliminary competition and became managers in their thirties. Then it's the semifinals. Those who can participate in the semi-finals are all winners in the preliminary round. Everyone has some abilities, and intelligence is not a problem. It's not so easy to win again at this time. It is not enough to rely on a little effort and seriousness. We must have strong perseverance, know how to rely on the strength of the team, know how to conquer people's hearts, and have a long-term vision. ...
It doesn't seem easy to win the semi-final, but it's not that difficult. Because the law of this world is that while people are complacent, people who have just won the preliminary round often don't know that they have won only the preliminary round. With a little achievement, most people will become complacent and think they know everything and don't need to study hard anymore. They will think it's not their fault that they can't walk. Although they are still difficult to deal with, they have no patience, tolerance and clear long-term vision. Just like an angry bullfight, although fierce, it will eventually lose, while the winner of the rematch is as unhurried as a matador, following his own beat and slowly exhausting his opponent's patience and physical strength.
The final finals are coming. To tell the truth, I haven't won the final myself, so the decisive factor for the final can only rely on my own guess. At this time, winning or losing may be like what is written in martial arts novels. Everyone is an expert and can only wait for each other to make mistakes. It is impossible to beat your opponent easily. Besides doing my best, it takes a little luck and time. The laws of the world are still at work. Those who won the semi-finals are not just complacent. They often go their own way and don't listen to others. Some people become grumpy, impetuous and in poor health. Their biggest enemy is themselves. What they have to do in the final is not to be defeated by themselves, waiting for others to be defeated by themselves. This is the same as a sports competition. The competition among the top players ultimately depends on who makes fewer mistakes and who can win the final.
About job-hopping
First of all, it should be explained that work is a rational thing, so don't play with your personality at work. Some people in the world may applaud your personality, and the telephone company of the gas company will not exempt your bill because you think you have personality. When you fire your boss in Shuai Shuai, and when you are sarcastic in the HR position, you still have to pay the bill, but you have less time to make money, and no one suffers except yourself.
You should show off your personality, either choose not to have a developed career or wait until you have capital. This is not a question of right or wrong, but a question of cost. Success always comes at a price. Earning 1 million a year is success, and earning 1 million in ten years is ordinary. Accepting an acceptable result is often much cheaper than pursuing a perfect result. The same is true of choosing a target. Considering the cost, choosing an acceptable goal is often much lower than choosing an ambitious goal.
Basically, before the age of 35, our survival capital depends on hard work. After the age of 35, our survival capital depends on accumulation, including interpersonal relationships, experience, contacts and word of mouth ... If we change industries frequently, it means that the accumulation for several years will be in vain, and everything must start from scratch. If we change industries twice, at the age of 35, we only have accumulated less than five years. A person who has not changed industries has at least 10. After working for 2-3 years, many people feel that their work is not smooth, as if they have reached a bottleneck and are bored, so they want to quit or even change careers. They think that all their troubles can be put aside and they will be much better. In fact, this can only make you start from scratch. There will still be the same difficulties as the original industry. After getting through it, I took a big step. You know, everyone will go through this process, and everyone will encounter several career bottlenecks. You get through it, others don't, and you're in the lead. Long-distance runners will know it's easy at first, but they will feel uncomfortable for the first time soon, but after this period, they can run for a long time, and then they will encounter discomfort for the second time. After persisting, they can run for another period, and so on, and each discomfort will be aggravated until they can't persist. Most people can't do it the first time. Some people can make it to the second time. Although everyone couldn't come for the third time, not many people came. This capital is enough for you to live a stable life.
The curve of life should be tortuous and upward, occasionally encountering a trough, but the general trend is always tortuous and upward, rather than returning to the starting point like a pulse wave.
You have to believe that 90% of the time, your company is not so bad, and the good company you think is not so good. As Fortress Besieged said, "People in the city desperately want to rush out, while people outside the city desperately want to rush in." Every company has its problems, and there is no company without problems. You don't even know what problems you will encounter in another environment. On the contrary, you might as well solve them now. Many problems may not be so difficult when you really want to solve them. Sometimes you think the problem can't be solved. Actually, it's just "what do you think"
After doing a job for two or three years, most people will be skilled. At this time, they tend to fall into constant repetition. Many people will feel bored, and some people will feel that they know everything and are too lazy to make progress. Many times, job-hopping is because I feel that I have lost interest and that I am finished. In fact, at this time, the competition has just begun. People who have worked for two or three years, whether they are customer relationships, contacts, subordinates or leaders, are not well-known in the industry ... but people who have achieved something will always feel good about themselves. Everyone feels that their relationship with customers is life and death, and they have a good reputation in the industry. In fact, it is safe to say that it is definitely not. At this time, we still have to show the enthusiasm of the previous two years, slowly and steadily, and the accumulation has just begun.
About expectations
If you lower your expectations, you will find that life will be much better. If your success is based on high expectations, chances are you won't succeed. You must build your future with low expectations of others. For example, when setting the goal for next year, your sales staff said they could do 20 million business. If you really believe it, you will be miserable. You'd better make an abacus first, and they will make 5 million. Find other ways to make up for the rest, and don't report too high a goal. It should be noted that you should lower your expectations of others in your mind, but don't tell others in your mouth. You should still encourage others with positive encouragement.
The expectation for the boss is: if there is merit, there is responsibility. Sometimes he regards the leader as a slave owner and thinks he can boss you around. Sometimes he is simple and rude. Sometimes he can't think of any good methods but suppresses yours ... this is normal expectation.
If you expect your boss to be friendly, modest, patient, good-natured and not abusive, he will always see your efforts and achievements, he will always be persuasive when you fail, he will always give you fair treatment, and he will always understand your difficulties. This is too high an expectation.
If expectations are too high, the consequences can be imagined, and a huge gap will bring great sense of loss. I think this company is really bad. How can you let such a bad person be the leader? It turned out that he was only 20 points bad, and he felt 80 points in strong loss and resentment. If your expectations are low, you expect him to have 40 bad points, but he only has 20 bad points. On the contrary, you will feel that this job is not bad, not as bad as you think.
If you have expected that he will take credit, pass the buck and kiss up to the boss, can't you think of any way to avoid these things? Just like you know someone will rob you on the road, and you are robbed by him, then you have a problem. Doing so, no matter what the outcome, is a surprise.
We also expect too much from our colleagues. When you think he should understand your difficulties, he will put you together. When you thought he would share the responsibility with you, he pretended not to see it. When you expect him to appreciate your help, he says it's all his credit, and you want to take credit for it with ulterior motives.
We even expect too much of ourselves. We said we were awesome and could do whatever we wanted, but we didn't. We thought we had a good relationship with someone, but it turned out that he never helped at the critical moment. We feel that we can stand the temptation. When the temptation is really in front of us, we say, die and forget so much. We think we can control our emotions, but we often act on impulse. If people don't meet their expectations, they will make excuses for themselves. When making excuses becomes a habit, people become useless.
A lot of anger and dissatisfaction with work is actually that your expectations are too high. If your expectations are not so high, you will find that your work is actually not bad. After lowering your expectations, prepare according to the lowered expectations, and you will find that the results are under your control, and there are not so many "accidents". There is a saying that "hope for the best and prepare for the worst."
Keep your word.
Happy jobs don't fall from the sky. You have to create it yourself. You can't just sit back and wait. Doing it is better than not doing it. According to the movie Farewell My Concubine, "One should fulfill himself." It doesn't matter if you don't do well at first. Anyone who can learn from scratch can't. Doing things is not like turning on the light. When you flip the switch, the light will come on and then go out. It's not that simple and easy, just like exercise. A little accumulation takes a lot of time and energy, and a little indulgence will waste it. Therefore, it is impossible to do something suddenly in one day. It must be accumulation, failure, success, failure and success. Without this specific medicine, as long as there is a way, things will be settled, and there will be no such thing. It doesn't matter if the method is stupid at first, as long as you work hard, you can make continuous progress. The earlier you start, the more things you accumulate, and the sooner you encounter failure, the closer you are to success.
When Gong Yu thought it over, he began to do it. If he is a modern internet person, he must have posted a post about the irrationality of a mountain in front of the door, and then someone replied, "Ten reasons to refute the irrationality of a mountain in front of the door." The two sides began to argue and posted a post "Look at how people treat the mountain in front of their house." The man replied at the beginning: "resolutely oppose the erosion of my traditional culture by wisdom and wisdom culture." Finally, all the way to the debate was "seeing the darkness of society and the corruption of immortals from the mountain in front of the door", and I asked the Emperor of Heaven why he didn't ask about it. Is it a free sacrifice from the Emperor of Heaven? Although the mountain in front of the door is a trivial matter, isn't it the duty of a fairy to take care of the people all over the world? Can you not do it because you are kind and small? Everyone feels, yes, yes, I really hope that saints will come out to calm the troubled times and protect me and other poor people. After the feeling is over, everyone should go home to sleep, eat and eat, and pretend that this never happened the next day. -mercilessly satirized those online cynics, hehe.
Last night, Liu Xiang won the championship. What about the ninth fairway? Someone always proves to us that in the eyes of successful people, the objective conditions are not good, and you can rely on yourself.
China men's football team has never won the championship. Every time you lose, it's not the weather, the venue, the referee, or the lottery ... It always proves to us that there are only objective reasons in the eyes of losers.
About waiting
Not every red light will be hit by a car, not every criminal will be caught, not every mistake will be punished, not every corrupt official will be shot, not every effort will be rewarded, not every insistence will be seen, not every effort will be fairly rewarded, not every kindness will be understood ... This is the world. Well, the world is not good enough, but do you have the courage to overthrow it? If not, do you have a better solution? Many times, people need a little patience and confidence. Everyone will turn around unfairly several times. Usually, waiting with peace of mind is the best way.
There are many times when we need to wait, endure loneliness and wait for the moment that belongs to you.
For a while, I didn't understand why some people were sitting on my head without being more capable than me. Do they have to be my leaders when they are older than me? Why do some bad guys make money without hard work? It suddenly occurred to me one day that when I was still at school, they were struggling in society. They have struggled in society for more than ten or twenty years. When our newcomers come, I want everything they have. I don't want to be fair, I want to rob. Because I want it too fast, because I can't help being lonely. Men in their twenties have no money and no career, but they have strong desires.
People will always encounter setbacks, people will always have low tides, people will always be incomprehensible, and people will always feel inferior. This is the most critical time in life, because everyone will encounter setbacks, and most people can't step through this threshold. If you can, you will succeed. At such a moment, we need to wait patiently and confidently, believing that life will not give up on you and opportunities will always come. At least, you are young, you are not in jail, you are not sick, and you are not in debt. There are far more unfortunate people than you. What are you afraid of? The road has to go step by step. Although the last step is exciting, most of the steps are ordinary, even boring, but without these steps, or you can't stand these ordinary boring, you can't usher in the final excitement.
Adversity is where God helps you eliminate your competitors. You know, if you feel uncomfortable, others feel uncomfortable, and you can't persist, so can others. Don't tell anyone that you can't go on. That will only give others confidence to keep going, and make competitors look at your smiling face, lose confidence and quit the competition. Victory belongs to those who have patience.
Others-I don't know how to classify them.
Everyone wants to be unique and special.
Of course, it is best to be born with a golden spoon and reborn in a good family. The monthly salary of the Power Bureau is1w.
The Red Army's 25,000-mile long March, the right-wing counter-revolution, and the struggle at the expense of dignity are best left to ancestors, parents and others.
Naturally, not everyone who has suffered will be rewarded.
However, at any time, behind every vested interest, there are figures of his ancestors and fathers struggling and even bleeding.
There is nothing wrong with enviing others for having a good father.
The question is, will your next generation have a good father?
As for the question, why can't there be the same winning probability? I can only ask: why can't people and monkeys have the same winning probability in species competition?
Natural selection. The monkey's soul is not necessarily humbler than yours, but there are hundreds of thousands of years of ape evolution behind you.
All the tricky ways may succeed for a while, but one day people will pay the price, and you can't control the time and size of the price.
I don't know how many times we will fail in our life. We are constantly maturing in repeated failures. If you want to succeed, you can only dry your tears, bite your teeth and continue on your way.
The success of employees in foreign companies is largely the success of the company, not the success of individuals. Siemens is indeed bigger than Gome, but it doesn't mean that the manager of Siemens China is better than Gome's boss, or even worse. But people who enter foreign companies often can't understand this very early, and their success is 90% due to their own ability. In fact, replacing the general manager of a foreign company in China will not have any significant impact on its performance.
For thousands of years, the truth has been these truths, but it often takes people a lifetime to understand. When we really understand them, they are old, and the next generation still has to understand them from the beginning. Every generation wants to explain these truths clearly, so we will naturally be a little tired and rebellious when we grow up watching people say the unchanging truths for thousands of years. This is understandable, but don't rebel for the sake of rebellion. There is no need to do experiments by yourself to prove the mistakes of predecessors.