When you have cancer, doctors usually tell your family first. Family members are often the first to face life and death and choices. In most cases, the pressure of family members is far greater than that of patients. Most family members will experience periods of tension, anxiety, fear and helplessness. It is believed that taking care of patients will affect study and work and pay higher fees for the best treatment in the future. Family members are often under great mental stress. I have a feeling that I can't speak. Even today, I can't discuss my father's illness with any acquaintances. I am autistic, unwilling to go out, and don't know how to integrate into other people's happiness. Poor sleep, acne, hair loss. I was at a loss at first, and I couldn't react at all. Slowly, I try to keep myself calm in front of people. Every time I walk in front of my dad, I laugh. Many times, I try to keep myself in a rational, restrained and forbearing state to face every uncertain result.
We should adjust our mentality, face up to reality and cheer up. Only in this way can we face complicated diagnosis and treatment information and treatment plans. I believe that advanced tumor does not mean death, and I believe in miracles. Your mood and mentality will directly affect the patient, so the first requirement for your family is to control your mood and adjust your mentality, at least in front of the patient.
Should patients be told that this is the first choice faced by almost all cancer patients' families? Honestly. Will it hit him too hard? Keep it from me? How long can you keep this from me? I don't have time to do important things until I say what I should say. A friend said, "I didn't tell my dad that I had cancer, which is the most regrettable thing in my life." I will never forget that before he died, his confused eyes seemed to say that I was just an ordinary disease. Why is this? "Think from another angle. If you have cancer, do you want to hide it from everyone?
Many times, we underestimate the tolerance of the people we love. They are not as fragile as we thought. It is respect for patients to tell them about their illness properly. Patients have enough right to know and choice. Patients should directly participate in treatment, how to treat, and where to treat. There are always accidents on the road to cancer prevention. As a patient, it is impossible to cooperate with long, complicated and painful treatment without adequate psychological preparation. Emotional out of control does not mean that patients can't face it rationally.