Men and women who have experienced emotional breakdown are often filled with emotion, looking at other people's emotional happiness, but there is no good result all the way. At that time, congestion was normal, and psychological changes before and after divorce also caused many physical and mental injuries according to individuals. Most people have just divorced, and they will fall into the pessimism of depression and loss, and they will be extremely negative and desperate about life and work. But this is not the right way to get out of the shadow of divorce. If divorce has become an established reality, then only by self-healing emotional scars can we get rid of the past and get a new life.
First of all, you have to accept the reality that has become a tragedy. Although knowing the reality is a serious blow, avoiding and deceiving yourself will not reduce your burden. It is no exaggeration to say that when they get married, all kinds of ritual processes are like a behavior contract, and then they are arguing about divorce. The impact of divorce on people is immediate. Some people cry all day long and abuse themselves, while others are resentful and preoccupied with each other's hard life.
If you meet that kind of impulsive person, you will commit suicide or perish together under the influence of lovelorn, which will be even more troublesome. Therefore, your state of mind determines your future. The failure of marriage does not reflect the sadness of life. It is rational to face the dead feelings frankly. Therefore, even if you are not calm inside, you must exercise self-restraint, keep calm and correct your attitude towards the fact of divorce.
Secondly, you should learn to stand in the position of others to face broken feelings. If you divorce because of your partner's betrayal, it is normal to be angry and wronged afterwards. But you shouldn't cling to this injustice. Even if the other party wronged you first, you should learn to comfort yourself: even if they barely maintain their marriage, will they really be as happy as ever? Even if you can't let go of each other's mistakes, you should be considerate of your own suffering, so as to control your emotions and get rid of your body and mind. At the same time, you need to seize the opportunity to master a survival skill, that is, learn to stand on your own feet through divorce and cultivate anti-dependence psychology.