How to make children learn to suffer properly?

But in the long run, children become more and more dependent on their families, and their ability to live and think independently becomes weaker and weaker. After entering the society, their ability to resist setbacks is not strong and they become victims of the law of survival of the fittest. In the game of "rich and poor" in American kindergartens, kindergarten teachers regularly organize children to play a "special" game: randomly draw lots to play the roles of "rich" and "poor", so that the children who win the game can live a luxurious life within the time allowed by the game, while the children who win the "poor" can only eat chaff or wear clothes during this time. Different from the usual lottery, the number of lottery here is uneven. Only less than 10% of children can get the "rich" lots, so most children can only play the role of "poor". According to common sense, painting a "rich man" should be very happy, but children feel happier being a "poor man" because they can experience a unique life. Besides this kind of games, kindergarten teachers often educate children, celebrate birthdays or hold parties. Even if it is simpler and more economical, it can still be unforgettable and meaningful. It is good for children to eat a little bitter. For the new education method, some worried parents don't buy it: children are still growing, how can they stand such a toss? If it affects the healthy growth of children, who will bear this responsibility? However, some parents who agree with you believe that on weekdays, family members love their only children and try their best to satisfy their children with food, clothing and use. They don't want their children to be wronged, but as time goes on, they find that their children are getting more and more unruly. Therefore, instead of going to the society to suffer big losses in the future, it is better to let the children eat some "bitterness" appropriately! In fact, it is not necessarily a bad thing to give children some "bitterness" appropriately. After all, children who live a life of "there is not enough to eat, and there is not enough to eat" will know more about the importance of thrift. There is an old saying that "from extravagance to frugality, from frugality to extravagance, it is even more difficult." Let children realize the value of labor and cultivate a sense of social obligation and responsibility. In addition, children can better understand how to survive strongly and independently when they encounter difficulties. After all, everyone's life is not smooth sailing. If you want to enjoy in prosperity, you must first learn to grow up in adversity. Moreover, proper "hardship" helps to cultivate children into caring people. In this way, the advantages of eating a little bitterness outweigh the disadvantages. In the past, the most common parental education methods were "strict" and "doting", and few families tried this kind of education method. But it turns out that this method is more effective and convincing than simple theoretical preaching and violent discipline, because it is to let children experience it themselves and understand some truth from their own feelings, rather than passively accepting parents' preaching. Although it is "hard" to be "poor", the children are scrambling to play this role and are proud of winning it. This is a strong expression of children's need for empathy. The traditional way of education only looks at discipline itself from the perspective of parents, but does not think about whether he can accept this way from the perspective of children and what impact it will have on children's personality shaping. The new educational methods not only make up for the shortcomings of traditional educational methods, but also put forward new educational ideas by changing the old perspective, providing new educational methods for every parent. Parents should not only put their children in the greenhouse, but also dare to put their children in the natural environment, so that it is good for their children to suffer moderately.