Such a game, of course, will not have any problems among children, but among adults, or among a group of college students we are familiar with, it has gradually evolved into a torture of the soul and a test of emotional intelligence and willpower.
Some friends want to refute me when they see this, thinking that there won't be so many doorways in the game. Then, I assume a few scenes, please review what I said above after reading it.
A dormitory ate and played this game during the dinner. The object of this question is a person who usually intersects with you but is not close. This time, you got the right to ask questions. You asked calmly, "If you leave this world tomorrow and go to another beautiful and rich planet, it is stipulated that you can take one person out of our dormitory except your parents and relatives.". Who are you taking? "
A discerning person knows at a glance that you want to know who is the most important person in her mind in your dormitory. But for people who are questioned, it's like "mom and wife fall into the water at the same time, who will you save first?" Such an eternal question. Because the other party will often become a sinner no matter whether they answer or not, and then the atmosphere will become extremely embarrassing. Even if the questioner can resist the pressure to answer, he must give an answer after careful consideration and weighing the consequences.
This is the problem in this game. At the same time, it has also become an emotional intelligence test for questioners. At the same time, the questioner's low emotional intelligence characteristics have already appeared at the moment when her voice fell. This game also violates the original intention of the sponsors of the dinner game.
The question was asked above, so let's talk about the answer. Questioning the truth is a skill. Answer, of course.
You caught such a problem.
Please tell me what you can't tolerate most when you get along with a person!
? What would you say if it were you? It is obviously inappropriate not to answer. If it involves an answer, how to answer it? Answer what? This series of questions. It is obviously more inappropriate to answer irrelevant questions.
You listed in your mind more than 20 things about that person that you can't tolerate the most, but you deleted the negative items one by one, and then chose a "shortcoming" that can't be called the client's shortcoming and is the least painful for the client as the answer.
So, is this answer true? Obviously not. But you know your friends can't stand your over-directness at all. She won't appreciate you pointing it out. On the contrary, she will point out her embarrassing situation to you bluntly and hate it.
Let's assume another scenario.
Friends have dinner, among which Xiao has secretly loved Xiao B for more than two years, and you are the only insider. You want to help Xiao break this window through this game. In order to avoid embarrassment, Xiao A skipped the truth and chose the big adventure directly. You put forward a proposition to let Xiao A express Xiao B. After being surprised and shy, and after a long period of contradictions, Xiao A expressed Xiao B generously and seriously, and then gently added, "Don't take it seriously. This is a game! " Then sit aside solemnly.
God knows how many alpacas ran into the little heart at this time. "Don't take it seriously!" How many sentences did you say in your heart? "Don't take it seriously!" This huge inner shock is simply a war between yourself and yourself without smoke.
Of course, you may not have experienced all my hypothetical situations, but they must have happened to you or your friends or their friends. As you get older, you will gradually find that people who skip the truth and directly ask for big risks must have stories. Before they are brave, there must be times when they are not brave enough.
Sometimes, game life and life games are so closely linked that it is a mistake for us to separate them.
You can't and shouldn't let your guard down. You should always understand that friends can't accept you who are too straightforward, and they can't accept you who have low emotional quotient, because they don't like being with people who make them uncomfortable. You must have the ability to see the essence through phenomena. When friends get together, happiness is the purpose. Don't take it too seriously. It doesn't matter whether you are sincere or not. Of course, so do others. Don't be too serious and don't poke it.
The people around him are all kinds of people, except Lao Tie, who has been working for more than ten years. Are real and hypocritical human beings. It is necessary to have fun with them, be flexible in mind and not be too bad in emotional intelligence. Otherwise, the outcome can only be others, you are you, others play other people's games, you watch others play games or worse, you disturb everyone's interest in games.
Of course, I'm not teaching you hypocrisy, let alone letting you abandon honesty. I just want to tell you that the rules set by the game can frame people's behavior but can't control everyone's mind and mood. Of course, so is life. You need to accept some ideas so that you can integrate into the group and protect yourself better.