Some time ago, Langya List 2 ushered in its third premiere, and Cecilia Cheung and Na Ying successfully teamed up, which became the biggest attraction of this premiere.
Na Ying is Faye Wong's friend for 20 years, and Cecilia Cheung is the ex-wife of Faye Wong's predecessor and current Nicholas Tse.
In this circle, the interaction between Cecilia Cheung and Na Ying in the program is enough to arouse the interest of the people who eat melons.
When they first met, Na Ying greeted Cecilia Cheung with open arms: "Is it Zhi Bo or white?"
"I'm glad you like it." The scene was once very harmonious.
When the sisters voted for each other, Cecilia Cheung won the support of 27 sisters and was moved to tears.
Back backstage, many sisters came forward to comfort, but Cecilia Cheung and Na Ying burst into tears.
While hugging, the English language was amazing: "Don't cry, I didn't even vote for you."
Cecilia Cheung, who woke up, broke free from Na Ying's arms and replied, "So I didn't thank you.".
In just a few seconds, it contributed to a big and high-energy scene.
This clip was once talked about by netizens on the Internet.
After two performances, Cecilia Cheung proposed to Na Ying, but Na Ying refused.
In the picture, the embarrassment visible to the naked eye.
For the third performance, Cecilia Cheung said that he still wanted to choose Na Ying. But because of the previous two rejections, he is now somewhat entangled and hesitant.
When she was struggling, Na Ying waved to Cecilia Cheung directly and invited him to join her team.
As can be seen from Cecilia Cheung's reaction, she didn't expect such a scene, even a little caught off guard.
In this way, the two people most talked about became a team.
The two naturally spent more time together because of the competition practice, and Na Ying got a brand-new understanding of Cecilia Cheung in a personal incident.
When I happened to eat a delicious biscuit, Cecilia Cheung immediately thought of wrapping it up and taking it back to the children.
Na Ying, who is also a mother, may feel more empathy: "I surrendered immediately."
Later, Na Ying persuades Cecilia Cheung bluntly, hoping that she can put down the responsibility and anxiety brought by the role of mother properly and really release herself.
Na Ying bluntly said that Cecilia Cheung also has a fragile side, but she has always been strong in the face of unfriendly public opinion.
She said, "It's not easy for you, white matter. I really want you to be yourself. You must show this thing. You are an amazing mother. "
Cecilia Cheung listened, smiling, but her eyes were red.
There are many things that others can't understand, let alone understand, unless they are expressed.
Sometimes you can gain strength in interpersonal communication by letting your guard down and expressing your true self.
02
Last month, the "Great Reconciliation of the Century" between Ni Ping and Song Dandan, who cried after 20 years, went on a hot search.
Let many people have a "mixed life".
Who would have expected that just because of Ni Ping's words, Song Dandan and her would be in contact with each other for 20 years until she was 60 years old.
Twenty years ago, Song Dandan and Ying Da divorced, and many friends who once knew Ying Da left her.
During a party, in front of many people, Ni Ping just introduced "Sister Ni Ping is my best friend and a good friend for many years" and made a joke for the lively atmosphere: "Do I know you?"
Song Dandan, who is in a fragile and sensitive period, was suddenly stung by this sentence, thinking that good sisters should draw a line with themselves, not only losing face, but also being completely chilling.
In Song Dandan's eyes, Ni Ping is smart and talkative, but sometimes his jokes hurt his self-esteem.
Ni Ping just didn't think, always thought it was a joke, naturally unaware of each other's injuries.
So, Ni Ping is also very wronged. As a good sister who knows Yu Wei, she and Song Dandan have been together for so long. How can she not understand that this is a joke?
In the program, Ni Ping, who was deeply wronged, couldn't help crying at the moment she saw Song Dandan.
She took Song Dandan's hand and said:
"I think either you wronged me specially or I wronged you. I think we are the best friends in the world. But you always ignored me, and then you said that I provoked you, and you' died' me. "
Song Dandan replied, "What you have provoked me is actually a very small matter."
Two people finally untied the knot in their hearts, but those years that they missed are gone forever.
Just because of a misunderstanding, I missed 20 years of friendship.
If we put down our pride and spread it out, then the regret left by our arrogance in our prime may not happen.
03
There is a concept in psychology called "cognitive bias".
Our understanding of the world and the real world often varies from person to person.
Especially in interpersonal communication, it is easy to lead to misunderstanding and being misunderstood.
The small ones are slightly different, and the big ones are day by day.
Therefore, in daily interpersonal communication, we should be clear about the following two points in order to express ourselves better and avoid misunderstanding.
(1) Learn to reveal yourself.
In nonviolent communication, Marshall Luxembourg told a story.
He attended a seminar where some women talked about their fear of expressing their personal needs.
His mother was there, too, but suddenly stood up and left the room, never coming back for a long time.
She came back pale. Marshall asked, "Mom, are you okay?"
"Never mind," she answered. "I just remembered something, and my heart was very uncomfortable."
"What is it?"
"For 36 years, I have been angry with your father. I don't think he cares about my feelings. I finally realized that I never told him what I wanted. "
Without expression, others will not realize that the state of two people will naturally not change when they get along.
As the intensive reading dictionary entry "6 16: self-disclosure" says, "the degree of self-disclosure is an effective predictor of the satisfaction and quality of intimate relationships."
A considerable part of the gap between people is an obstacle to self-disclosure.
Therefore, when we communicate with others, we should learn to truly express our inner feelings and information.
② Beware of the illusion of transparency.
A person listens to a song with headphones and beats to the rhythm. He knows exactly which song this beat represents, but to the onlookers, what he typed is just a series of incoherent and strange rhythms.
This is the illusion of transparency.
We tend to overestimate others' understanding of our real thoughts, think that others know what they are thinking, and think that we have shown enough information for others to notice.
In fact, the understanding between the two sides is very different, sometimes even completely opposite.
Therefore, in the name of testing the tacit understanding, we can't set a riddle for the other party to guess our psychology.
This kind of test often falls short of expectations. On the contrary, it is easy to cause misunderstanding between both sides and hurt feelings.
If you want to know each other better, you should express your intentions directly, clearly and clearly, instead of releasing ambiguous signals.
Some people say that the combination of "straightness", "truth" and "sincerity" is magical.
Say "I'm sorry" if you do something wrong, say "I don't know" if you don't know, and say "I want it" if necessary. ...
Be straightforward, and you may be enlightened.