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Yesterday, a girl who studied and worked in the United States for more than two years finally returned to China.
Girls were directly recommended by domestic universities to go to the United States for graduate studies in their senior year. After graduation, she was lucky enough to find a job and stay in the United States.
The girl found a good job in America, and the salary was very satisfactory. Among her classmates, her study and work are very smooth, and she is the best among her classmates. It stands to reason that it is quite good to get to this point.
However, people's life has not been smooth sailing. If she wants to stay in the United States for a long time, she must also obtain a work visa.
Applying for a work visa in the United States must be decided by drawing lots. This time, the girl was not so lucky and had no chance to stay in the United States to continue working.
Not getting a work visa in the United States is a "setback", but it is understandable and not artificial.
The girl's mother has been receiving all kinds of negative information from her since she knew that she might not be able to stay and work in the United States.
First of all, girls say it's too lonely in America. She works in a small town in America, surrounded by old people, and has no enthusiasm for her work. There is no one around to talk, and she is almost depressed.
Domestic mothers hear that their daughters have psychological problems, and video chat with their daughters every day, hoping to alleviate their bad emotions. They patiently listened to their daughter's negative language such as unhappiness, discomfort and confusion, and all they got was moaning.
Every time I put down the phone, my mother was exhausted, at a loss and extremely nervous.
The next message my daughter gave me was that I was unwell, sleepless all night, weak, and all kinds of pains all over my body.
Mother had to persuade her daughter to go out to exercise more, go to the hospital to check and adjust, and so on.
As we all know, how did this mother spend this period? She lost a lot of hair, lost sleep all night, was in a trance, and almost had an accident when she went out by bike.
My mother was worried about her daughter's psychological and physical problems outside, so she had to resign and return to China.
The day before my daughter returned to China, she called her mother and said that it was her mother's decision and would ruin her life.
At this time, I no longer care about my mother, but want to vent my disappointment on my mother.
Nowadays, parents of many children are trash cans to vent their emotions, but if life is a little unsatisfactory, it is all the parents' fault, and parents have to find a way to solve it for him.
It is unfilial not to visit and take care of parents. Isn't this kind of mental abuse unfilial?
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Another time, my friends and I went to a noodle restaurant to eat noodles. I met a mother and daughter with a baby and ordered two bowls of minced meat noodles. My mother is about 60 years old and my daughter is almost 30 years old. This baby is hers.
When the noodles didn't come up, my daughter was still mumbling something. She wiped the baby's mouth with the towel in her hand, threw it on the table and said to the child, "Why does it always drool?" It can't be clean. "
My friend and I were attracted by the sound and glanced at our daughter and her mother sitting opposite her. Her mother waited quietly for the waiter without saying a word.
After a while, the waiter brought two bowls of minced meat noodles, which belonged to the mother and daughter. The daughter over there is holding a bowl of noodles and stirring it with chopsticks. Looking at the bowl, she didn't know who to say: "Why is this face ashamed? Where is it? " Then, he turned to the waiter and said, "You said it was a shame. Where is the shame? " Are you kidding? Are you kidding? Ask you, call your manager. "The noise is so loud that people are looking this way. The mother sitting opposite, with her head lower, was silent.
Everything my daughter said was said with emotion and anger. Bitter tone, full of blame and complaints to others.
My mother, who was with me, did not say a word, doing this and that silently.
If I were the mother of that smelly daughter and had such a daughter, even a daughter-in-law, I would slap her in the face and shut her up. I must be depressed to death to have such a daughter.
Living at home makes life like hell. How can people around her be happy? I'm afraid she won't be happy herself.
How must all kinds of unhappy emotions be vented so incisively and vividly?
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A young couple and their mother-in-law live in the neighbor's house. Young couples often quarrel for no reason. Every time she quarrels, her mother-in-law will hide out and go home after the quarrel.
Well, my mother-in-law came out again.
In this cold weather, my mother-in-law sat on the steps outside the building door, clutching her hands. "Mother-in-law, son daughter-in-law quarreled again? Leave them alone and stay in your room. How cold is it outside? " I saw my mother-in-law sitting on the steps for a long time. I was worried that my mother-in-law was ill because of the cold wind, so I kindly went over to persuade her to go home.
My mother-in-law smiled reluctantly and said, "Nothing. They didn't quarrel, but they talked loudly. I don't think it's noisy Look outside. People come and go. "
When a son quarrels with his daughter-in-law, regardless of it, he will say anything when he is angry. Mother-in-law was really upset and had nowhere to go.
It's really pitiful to have worked hard to raise children all your life, but you have to endure the mental abuse of children when you are old.
Children try their best to give their parents a good life. As long as there is no mental torture, it is very filial to let them live in their old age.
We have been saying that we often go home to spend time with our parents. As we all know, the independence of children's life is what parents want, and the spiritual maturity and independence of children will be much comfort to parents.