Since ancient times, there are many people in the world who praise and admire love. They hope that love can make lovers get married. Romantic and beautiful love stories have made many people cry, such as butterfly lovers in China, Romeo and Juliet in the west and so on. But from what angle does Buddhism explain it?
From the Buddhist point of view, love is essentially a combination of' wish' and' karma'. The so-called' willingness' is an active force, which comes from the inner' will'; The so-called "karma" is a passive and involuntary force, but also from the heart, just "unwilling." These two forces will promote the occurrence of love. Of course, there are various reasons in the world, such as tenderness, thoughtfulness, beauty and generosity, understanding, rich family and so on.
As far as "wish" is concerned, if a couple is very loving and wants to continue to be husband and wife in the afterlife, they will make a wish before the Buddha, hoping to be husband and wife again in the afterlife, or even be husband and wife forever. This will appear when the time is right in the future (no matter what people become). Or men and women lovers who love each other deeply in this life, because of war or family opposition, there is no chance to become husband and wife in this life. The two agreed with each other, hoping to become husband and wife again in the next life. Because both of them care about this agreement, when they meet again in reincarnation, they will have a feeling of deja vu and even decide to spend their lives soon.
There is another situation, because of the kindness of the other party, there is no return, such as saving lives, or helping to pay debts, or saving parents' loved ones, so I am willing to be a cow and a horse in the afterlife as a return. Therefore, because of the desire to be grateful, I may become a wife in the afterlife, willingly and without complaint. This' willingness' will still happen after many generations.
As far as karma is concerned, if a person owes a huge debt, he can't pay it back, although he hasn't paid off the debt until his death (some people deliberately don't pay it back), and then a force will work in the future. In the case of becoming husband and wife, the husband (wife) has a kind of helplessness. Why does his wife (husband) always torture him? He could do nothing but submit to humiliation and bear such pressure, and the two became bitter couples.
And if in the past, originally a husband and wife, the husband abandoned his wife (for example, a new love, or malicious abandonment, or seclusion), causing his wife's disgust, then he may be abandoned by the other half (or tortured to pay off debts) in this life. This kind of "karma" will happen regardless of the ends of the earth, regardless of the changes in time and space, no matter what it becomes.
Because of the interaction between will and karma, the differences in habits, family, education and ideas between them, and the intervention of others, love in the world is complicated.
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We don't deny or affirm Feng Shui Feng Shui, because although they have some truth, they are not absolute truth, credible but not superstitious, so we can't believe them, and there will be no great danger if we don't believe them.
People's good fortune and bad fortune are all due to the good and evil of previous lives, so it is innate to feel the fruits of this life; If you add the acquired efforts or slackness, it will change or affect the fate of this life. This is the acquired factor plus the innate condition, which constitutes the so-called fate.
Because the karma created in previous lives is different, I feel that the environment in this life is different. The so-called environment, including parents' inheritance, cultural and civilized background, upbringing and education, and even brothers and other relatives, teachers, friends, colleagues and classmates, will affect the fate of a lifetime. If the karma in the last life is not good, the environment in this life is not good, and it may not be a bad decision; As long as we pay attention to inner cultivation, physical health, knowledge growth and wisdom development, we will change our original destiny. Therefore, it is not unreasonable for the middle and lower classes to judge a person's fortune only according to the numerology of birth date, but it is impossible for the upper and middle classes, especially the upper and middle classes.
Numerology and physiognomy should be separated: numerology is the so-called birth until birth, which belongs to congenital. Physiognomy is to accept the body images inherited by parents after birth, including face, petrography, acoustics and palm prints; On the other hand, due to acquired exercise or abuse, regardless of health, disability and normal psychological balance, the body shape at birth will change to varying degrees with the progress of life, which is the sum of the reasons. Therefore, numerology cannot be changed, and the face can be changed at any time. So there is no phasing and no destiny. Sure, believe it or not.
China's general fortune-telling originated from the Book of Changes, which is profound mathematics and philosophy. It is effective to use mathematics to calculate good and bad luck, honor and disgrace. Reasoning is a comparison, and sometimes it is wrong. The most correct thing is the present quantity, which is produced by meditation. In deep meditation, the boundary between time and space has disappeared, but before it is integrated, what you see with your own eyes can't be wrong.