Many parents are so busy taking care of their babies after they are born that it is easy to ignore the feelings of the boss. Although many children seem sensible on the surface and help adults take care of their babies together, in fact, children may not be really happy. The mother of Tingting, a passer-by, told reporters that she thought she had infiltrated her boss Tingting a lot for the arrival of Bao Xiao, but the reality was much more complicated than expected. Tingting started by fighting for her mother not to let her hold her brother. Later, I went to the battlefield and looked at my father. As long as my mother asks my father for help, Tingting will jump on my father at once. Often lose your temper and cry for no reason. In fact, children are children, and their hearts are sometimes very sensitive. They all need their mothers' hugs and promises of love. After the second child is born, parents should never ignore the boss. For example, feeding the little ones and hugging the big ones will not make them feel different, and then feel that their parents are eccentric. When the child is rejected, he should show understanding; When children can't fully accept it, they should properly accept their bad temper.
Parents should try their best to be fair in everything and treat their children realistically.
In normal upbringing, parents must keep a bowl of water level and treat their two children equally as much as possible. For example, if you buy new clothes for the boss, you will buy new toys for the second child. Even if one of the children always makes mistakes, we should seize the opportunity to praise and affirm him; Even if the other child is perfect, we should seize the opportunity to criticize him, ensure the psychological balance of the two children and let them feel the same love. There must be no preference or emotional tendency, which will cause the psychological shadow of the child. When children are in conflict, if parents interfere and help the little ones unprincipled, the boss will definitely not accept it. When parents leave, they will retaliate and bully the younger ones. For some second-born children who are brave, parents should not blindly protect them, which will not only make the boss have psychological imbalance, but also develop the second-born personality and deepen the contradiction between the two children.
Experts suggest that parents' educational guidance is very important. Parents should try to inspire their children to find better solutions: for example, how to divide things between two people, how to divide them half by half, or how to draw lots or take turns between two people, learn to solve contradictions, and let children learn the ability to solve problems in contradictions. In addition, if the boss does do something wrong in life, parents should communicate with their children alone and try not to reprimand the boss in front of the second child; Some parents always compare two children, "you are not good, or your brother is obedient" and "you are more sensible than your sister", so try not to say anything; Or think that the great humility of younger brothers and sisters is taken for granted, which will also lead to the intensification of contradictions among compatriots.