Because the mother always reminds the corrected shortcomings, the child will know it himself, but the child with high self-demand will often worry about his own shortcomings, so the mother's direct scolding will often be counterproductive and make him less confident.
The first trick is to let children face up to their shortcomings in an appropriate way.
The second trick is to accuse other children of their mistakes in front of them.
The third measure is to distinguish between shortcomings and personality.
The fourth measure is to change the child's position and let him be self-disciplined.
Fifth, the shortcomings and advantages of children are interchangeable.
The sixth measure indirectly eliminates children's dissatisfaction.
The seventh measure is to use the implied effect of moderate punishment or threat.
The eighth trick is to hint at the child's shortcomings through soliloquy.
Ninth, don't use authority to suppress children's resistance.
The tenth trick encourages children to "do what they can"
Eleventh move, kid, you can do it.
Children with inattention will have other problems besides being active or in a daze. First of all, he will have some psychological problems because of being rejected by his peers. He is too nervous and energetic, which will not only annoy adults, but also make his friends of the same age leave him. He will soon feel inferior and lose his self-esteem. Second, he is likely to have problems in his studies while he is at school. His attention time is very short, so it is difficult to sit in his seat and concentrate on class, so it will affect and interfere with others and even hurt other children.
What is the solution? The following are some useful suggestions from Dr. Du, an American doctor who specializes in treating children with "attention deficit":
1, adhere to the consistent rules and discipline.
2. Keep your voice calm and slow. It is normal for you to be angry when the child has done something wrong, but it can also be controlled.
3. anticipate that the child may get into trouble and be prepared; When trouble comes, try to keep calm.
4. Acknowledge and respond to any positive behavior, even if it is small; If you look for good things in children without prejudice, you will find some.
5. Avoid using negative language frequently, such as "no", "stop" and "no".
6. Distinguish the children's bad habits from the children themselves. For example, you can say to your child, "I like you, but I don't like your disobedience."
7. Make a very clear timetable for your child. Make a timetable for getting up, eating, playing, watching TV and sleeping. Stick to the schedule, but be flexible if the child doesn't. After a period of time, your schedule will become your child's own habit.
When you teach him something new, you should be patient, explain it simply and clearly, and often repeat your requirements.
9. Try to leave space for children in the room, avoid decorating with bright and strong colors, and keep the room simple and tidy. Put the desk under an empty wall without interference, which is good for children to concentrate.
10, only do one thing at a time. Put the toys in a box with a cover. Give him only one toy at a time. If the child is drawing or reading, you should turn off the radio or TV. Multiple stimuli will make him unable to concentrate.
1 1. In the process of children's growth, it is very important to give them certain responsibilities. The task entrusted to him should be within his power. Once he has completed the task, he should admit and praise it even if it is not satisfactory.
12, only one friend is allowed to come home to play at a time. You should be responsible for supervising their activities.
13, don't pity, laugh at or pamper children too much, and don't be intimidated by children. He will learn well eventually.
14. Communicate with children's teachers about educational methods that are beneficial to children.
1. How to make children feel that learning is easy?
(1) First, let the children do the "meeting content"
When the child is not confident, quietly let him (her) do the problems he (she) has done before.
◎ Learn from the courses you love and help you overcome the courses you are not good at.
◎ Focus on one subject and experience the feeling of perfect score.
◎ Feel the successful experience outside of study.
(2) Let children's impression of learning no longer be "pain" and "darkness"
◎ Relieve children's learning pressure through psychological adjustment.
◎ It is best to say "Don't force it!" Instead of saying "learn".
◎ If children are allowed to study 1 hour every day, there must be a requirement of 2 hours at the beginning.
◎ Use propositional rather than imperative.
◎ Don't ask your child, "Are you studying or playing?" Instead, you should ask your child, "When do you want to start studying?"
◎ Let children who watch TV all day choose to run errands or study at home?
A child just doesn't study, so you might as well ask him (her) whether he (she) is resting or studying.
(3) Add "games" to learning.
◎ Eliminate children's resistance to learning.
◎ Introducing fun games into learning.
◎ Finding mistakes for others can make children keen on doing exercises.
◎ "Interesting stationery" can be a "promoter" of children's learning.
◎ Reasonable allocation of study time.
◎ Let children who don't study draw lots to choose learning.
(4) the combination of daily life and study.
Let a child make a family trip plan, which may make him or her fall in love with geography.
Letting a child learn newspaper clippings may make him or her pay attention to politics and news.
Take the children to the museum.
◎ The whole family should study together at least once a day.
Pay attention to what you can't learn in class.
When walking, shopping and visiting friends, turn into the bookstore and browse books.
◎ The 45-minute attention needed for study is obtained through daily life training.
◎ Parents may wish to send some books beyond their children's reading ability occasionally.
2. Tips that children want to learn.
(1) Adjust children's learning mentality.
◎ After the new semester comes, replace all school supplies.
◎ Prepare all kinds of writing tools for children.
◎ Change the learning environment of "new feeling".
◎ If you think your child is tired of learning, let him (her) try to change a course.
◎ Try to create a "no school time".
◎ Encourage children through entertainment after major exams.
(2) Cultivate children's favorite classes into good subjects.
Posting cartoons and advertising pictures in the room can also arouse children's interest in learning.
◎ Ask the child to collect newspaper clippings on issues he or she cares about.
◎ "Giving books" to children will stimulate their expert consciousness.
◎ Asking questions about children's favorite things will help children develop the habit of investigation and research.
◎ Cultivate children's good subjects by using good subjects of family education.
◎ Let children have their own pets or flowerpots, which helps to improve their observation ability.
(3) A little thing may make a child willing to sit down and study.
◎ Rooms, desks, lights, encyclopedias and reference books will all become opportunities for children to love learning.
Let the child put his precious collection in the drawer.
◎ When children study, dim the surrounding light and only turn on a desk lamp beside the desk.
◎ Writing big characters on the wall helps to create an atmosphere of memories.
◎ Put books in every room of the house to create a learning atmosphere.
◎ Letting children write a few lines of diary before going to bed can help children develop good study habits.
(4) Let children like schools and teachers.
◎ Eliminate the additional factors that children don't like learning.
◎ Don't force children to take out their report cards.
◎ Even if the score is low, find out what can be praised.
Let the child wear his "fancy" clothes and bring his (her) favorite items to school.
When family members eat together, they quietly praise a teacher.
(5) Help children to cheer up from depression.
◎ Treat children's achievements with a bittersweet mood instead of a happy one.
When the child fails, find a "companion" to comfort him or her.
If a child fails the exam, he or she should be encouraged to look to the future.
◎ Children should be comforted if they are slightly depressed. This is just the charging period for the next leap.
3. Help children find the key to successful learning.
(1) Make children feel that learning is easy.
Books printed in large fonts can improve children's reading speed.
◎ Try to choose thin problem sets or extracurricular exercise books.
◎ Choose reference books and problem sets that can see the answers immediately.
◎ In the room, you should not only make a timetable, but also draw a red circle to make a "completion table".
◎ Stack children's used books and exercise books in a conspicuous position to increase their sense of accomplishment.
(2) Help children adjust their learning order.
◎ If you study for 2 hours, change the learning content every half hour.
◎ Avoid dull and monotonous sea tactics.
When the child is doing exercises, he (she) is deliberately stopped to impress him (her).
After 30 minutes of music, let the children learn.
◎ After the child finishes learning, let him (her) look at the beginning of the next learning content.
It is best not to let children study immediately after meals.
(3) Improve learning efficiency
◎ Let children do a good job of sharpening pencils, sorting out textbooks, preparing manuscript paper, etc. before learning begins.
◎ If you want your child to start learning, clean his or her study with your child.
◎ Don't scold children for playing with pens or biting their fingers on the table.
◎ Let the child learn from the courses he or she likes to study.
(4) Centralized learning method
When children have to study, it is better to set an end time instead of a start time.
◎ Set the time for homework before the TV programs that children like to watch begin.
◎ Set the learning end time with the alarm clock.
◎ Holidays make children play too late to do their homework.
◎ Let children pay attention to the effective time limit when making family study plans.
4. Establish self-confidence that children can learn well.
(1) Let children know that they can do many small things.
Praise children more in small things.
◎ Encourage children to study when they are having fun.
◎ Look for learning-related skills that children are good at and guide children to pay attention to these skills.
◎ Choose the little things that children can learn and experience the taste of success.
If the child is extremely tired of learning, praise his or her personality and hobbies that have nothing to do with learning.
(2) Let others tell their children themselves.
◎ If you are tired of listening, let others say that it is fresh for children.
◎ Let the children's grandparents teach.
Praise children in front of friends and neighbors.
◎ Let a child study with his peers, and he (she) will have to study.
(3) Make full use of children's rebellious psychology.
◎ Deliberately stimulate the child and say to the child: You can't do this.
◎ Consumption.
5. Four ways to stimulate interest in learning
(1) interest suggestion method
For those subjects that you don't like, you can use the interest suggestion method.
For example, in mathematics, before studying, warm up, rub your hands, smile, look at mathematics and say loudly, "Mathematics, from today on, I want to like you!" " ""lovely math, I will be interested in you. " "Teaching, I will learn from you with great interest! "
Hint at yourself loudly before learning math every time. If you persist for three weeks or more, these languages will go deep into the subconscious. Once you enter the subconscious, your interest in mathematics will really be established.
Many students who are not interested in learning will have unpleasant emotions, even boredom and fear as soon as they pick up books, thus closing their spiritual doors, resulting in low learning efficiency or even ineffectiveness.
When you are rubbing your hands and smiling at yourself, you will have a sense of pleasure, boredom and fear will be washed away, the door of your heart will gradually open, and the knowledge you want to learn will be easily absorbed.
As students, learning is our duty. If we can't change the curriculum, we must change ourselves and our attitude towards learning. Pain is learning, happiness is learning. Why don't we choose to study happily?
When learning Chinese, I hinted to myself: "I am very happy to learn Chinese well. I am full of interest in Chinese."
When I was studying mathematics, I hinted to myself: "I am very happy to learn mathematics well and I am full of interest in mathematics."
This method is suitable for any course. When you study happily, you have become attached to your interest.
(2) Self-confidence enhancement method
People often succeed because of self-confidence and often fail because of lack of self-confidence. /kloc-Emerson, a thinker in the 0/9 th century, said; "If you believe you can, you will be invincible. Napoleon even said,' In my dictionary, there is no such word as' impossible'. "It's not the word that made him go to the north and sweep across the European continent.
In fact, many students lack confidence in learning a certain course well, which leads to fear and loss of interest. Therefore, to cultivate their interest in learning, we can start with enhancing their self-confidence, and the specific steps are as follows:
Imagine what you have achieved and try to remember that sense of accomplishment in order to gain interest in learning.
Pleasant things can always stimulate interest. So try to think of some happy things, such as "I want to learn the word 10 today" and "I learn to understand the equation today", let myself know that today is beyond yesterday, and establish the belief that "doing more every day is the beginning of success".
(C) the method of making the false come true
Dale Carnegie has a famous saying; "If you pretend to be interested in work, then this attitude will make your interest real and eliminate fatigue." This kind of experience can be well applied to the rise and cultivation of learning; If you are not interested in a course or a study, you can train yourself to pretend to be interested in it and stick to it, which will certainly have good results.
First, train yourself to smile. Don't frown when facing a class you don't like. Let yourself smile and be happy from the heart to maintain happiness.
Then, use affirmative sentences and short sentences to announce; I like you very much! ""I am very interested in you! "
Stick to this for a while, and you will get rid of your inner rejection. You'll really be interested. This method does not mean "all your wishes come true", nor does it mean that I can do whatever I want. It requires you to start an in-depth study immediately after you become interested in learning, and turn this interest into the motivation for in-depth study.
(4) interest transfer method
In the face of subjects you don't like, you can also use this interest transfer method to drive those subjects you are not interested in with your interest in other subjects. Follow the following practices when training;
Ask yourself if you want to learn this course well, and answer yourself in positive language, such as "I will learn math well" and "I will recite these words soon". This repeated meditation forms the subconscious.
② Conduct physical and mental relaxation training. Try to sit comfortably. Take three deep breaths slowly, relax and don't feel stressed.
(3) Imagine yourself in your favorite class and make yourself happy.
(4) Imagine yourself in a class you don't like, and then transfer the happy attitude of your favorite class to the class you don't like, so that you can have a relaxed and happy mood when facing the subjects you don't like.
⑤ Start studying at once.
Diligence+correct method+efficiency = success
This is Einstein's famous formula for success. He believes that diligence is the primary factor of success, which shows that to achieve any form of success, you must have the spirit of diligence. To cultivate the spirit of diligence, we must first strengthen the sense of social responsibility, establish a correct outlook on life, clarify the purpose of learning, and aspire to be a successful person in the future society.
The mechanism of market competition determines the survival of the fittest. After entering the 2 1 century, if you don't have excellent skills, you can't make contributions to society, and if you don't study hard, you can't adapt to the needs of the development of new social productive forces.
Diligence can't be achieved overnight, it should be persistent and never stop. Of course, with the development of the times today, we don't need to "hang the beam and stab the stock", let alone "learn from the snow at night", but the diligence of our predecessors is always worth learning.
A diligent student, even if his mind is not very clever, may still get better grades.
A diligent student will go out to the society in the future, and even without background and backing, he may still achieve greater success.
Look at all the outstanding successful people in the society. They are hardworking people. When the society selects talents, a person with diligent spirit is also the most popular person.
As children get older, there are more and more contradictions between parents and children. I think most of the conflicts come from parents always judging their children according to their own wishes and standards, but they have not found that the world of children is obviously different from that of adults. At this time, parents should put themselves in their own shoes, be patient with their children's slow pace, and don't get angry easily. This will not only break children's hearts, but also make them learn from you.
When the child is playing pranks again, and you urge him 10 times, but he still doesn't move, it is often difficult for you to control your emotions and yell at the child after a hard day. Losing your temper with children will really scare them. In fear, the behavior that children make you uneasy is temporarily invisible. But what will happen to him? There are several possibilities:
Obediently listen to your command and do anything you ask;
He was stunned and stood there motionless;
Cry, don't do what you don't want him to do, don't do what you want him to do;
Like you, throw your favorite vase on the floor when you get angry.
Children are very sensitive to people's emotions. So if you lose your temper, it will definitely affect his behavior and mood. However, he still can't figure out why you lost your temper. In other words, when you lost your temper, he stopped your unexpected behavior, but he didn't know what he had done wrong.
Sometimes, the situation is more complicated. What the child did wrong may not be enough to make you lose your temper at ordinary times. But at this moment, maybe you just quarreled with others, maybe you are confused at work, maybe you have just been scolded by your parents and have nowhere to vent ... So, the child's minor problems have become the fuse.
Obviously, some fires are unfair to children, and many times, getting angry can't solve the fundamental problem. If we can always analyze problems so clearly, we can certainly follow the advice of many educational experts and psychologists: calm down! Don't lose your temper with the children!
However, in real life, it is difficult for us to do this. Emotions are sometimes not controlled by our subjective will. So what should we do?
Think about it from another angle.
1. Is it useful for children to be angry?
Useful. It prevents children from persistent bad behavior. In an emergency, your roar may help children avoid danger.
Did the child learn anything besides being afraid?
(1) There are others besides yourself, and others have a temper. He should learn to respect others.
(2) If you are anxious, everyone will get angry.
(3) This kind of emotional expression may bring tension to each other's relationship. Afterwards, parents often take certain actions to eliminate the tension and repair the relationship.
Is it useful to be angry?
Also useful. Let your accumulated emotions vent quickly, and then your mind will be rational soon. Many parents already know that they have gone too far just by yelling.
Jump out of the trap 1. Don't deliberately suppress yourself, let your children know the real you. Otherwise, you will accumulate too many negative emotions, leaving your child at a loss when it breaks out.
In any case, you should set a limit for yourself: don't hit the child.
3. After losing your temper, it is best to explain clearly to your child what the child's problem is and what to do; Are there any other factors that make you uncomfortable, and so on. Let your children feel your care and love through actions.
4. If possible, it is best to give an early warning. For example, "I can't help being angry, can you hurry up ..." "I'm in a bad mood today, you'd better not ..."
Don't relax your requirements for your child because of the guilt after losing your temper. You must stick to what you insist on, and at the same time you can find other gentle strategies.
Seek support. Talk to a good friend who has a similar experience to help you calm down.
skill
Anger sometimes goes both ways. In anger, people's access to information will become narrow and their understanding of information will become paranoid. Facing children and restraining each other's anger requires more efforts than arguing with adults. Because you should not only deal with your own emotions, but also adjust your children's emotions. Of course, it is precisely because you have this responsibility and the initiative that the relationship between you is easier to mediate.
We all know that "choice is greater than effort", but the choice is divided into four aspects, namely, choosing the right direction (it must be the general trend, Internet+education); Choose the right company (accurate product positioning, moderate price and superior system) and the right team (only a good team can grow, be stable, harmonious and healthy); Choosing the right recommending teacher (good attitude, willingness to pay, selflessness, organization and management coordination ability) is difficult to succeed.
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1. Sleeping naked in a clean bed
2. Don't eat chocolate during the physiological period, because it will aggravate dysmenorrhea.
3. Get into the habit of recording the physiological cycle
4. Shape curves by exercising rather than adjusting underwear
Don't cross your legs, so as not to oppress your nerves.
6. Tight clothes can't be dry cleaned
7. Stylish thongs are not suitable for everyday wear.
8. Last year's clothes can only be worn after exposure.
9. Don't use sanitary napkins unless necessary.
10. Check the shelf life of cosmetics regularly.
1 1. Make up one hour after bathing.
12. Even if you love beauty, don't make ear holes in the outer cartilage of the upper part of your ear.
13. Know your family history, especially the history of your mother and grandmother.
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1. Step into the office every day, open the window to get some air, and then sit down to work.
2. If you have to answer the phone for five hours a day, use wireless headphones.
Please keep a distance of at least one meter from the copier when copying documents.
4. Use eye drops only when it is very necessary.
5. Don't take a nap at your desk.
6. Prepare a small cushion for yourself in the office and wrap it around your waist.
7. Don't use a laptop on your lap.
8. Put a cactus on your desk to help absorb radiation.
9. Remember to wash the ink off your hands after reading the newspaper.
10. Stretch every 30 minutes.
1 1. Carpets in the office are cleaned regularly to eliminate insects.
12. After using the computer, clean your face and hands and remove radioactive dust.
13. One-shoulder short shoulder bag will aggravate the symptoms of scapulohumeral periarthritis.
14. The lipstick and the pen in the briefcase are stored separately.
15. Make sure to free your feet from high heels for more than 2 hours every day.
16. Do not work overtime more than once every night after 22: 00.
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1. Keep the bathroom dry to prevent mold growth.
2. Take a bath for no more than 10 minutes.
3. Brush your teeth with warm water and brush your tongue at the same time
Wash your face alternately with hot water and cold water
5. Don't put hot water in plastic containers.
6. Clean the refrigerator regularly
Please leave the kitchen when the microwave oven is working.
8. Use range hoods
9. Turn off the TV while eating.
10. Try to avoid using heavy flannel curtains.
1 1. Insecticides and detergents should be kept in storage rooms far away from the place of residence.
12. Use natural floral or fruity fragrance instead of spices.
13. In winter, the humidifier in the living room uses pure water.
14. Don't bring the computer into the bedroom for convenience.
15. Don't put your mobile phone on the pillow as an alarm clock.
16. Don't fall asleep when your hair is not dry.
17. The bedroom should use soft colors.
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1. Between milk and soybean milk, choose the latter.
When you think you can eat another half bowl of rice, leave the table.
If you don't feel thirsty, you only need to drink 4 glasses of water every day.
4. Drink more yogurt
Don't smoke for any reason.
6. Add miscellaneous grains and vegetables to the recipe.
7. Drinking green tea is better than drinking black tea
8. Pay more attention to breakfast than dinner
9. Control the amount of salt
10. Brush your teeth before drinking water after getting up.
1 1. Chew gum often.
12. Two apples in the morning and two apples in the evening can effectively improve constipation.
13. Vegetarian diet may lead to abnormal hormone secretion, leading to infertility.
14. Eat fish at least once a week.
15. Stay away from carbonated drinks such as cola.
16. Don't drink hot pot soup that has been cooked for a long time.
17. There is no such thing as juice and milk. They are natural enemies.
18. Eating fruit before meals is better than after meals.
19. You can have a glass of red wine before going to bed.
20. Drinking coffee may lead to osteoporosis in women.
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1. Enjoy the sunshine at 8-9 am.
2. Running, cycling and other sports can maintain beautiful leg lines.
Soaking feet with hot water can effectively prevent varicose veins.
4. Extreme fatigue is not suitable for exercise decompression, and rest is more important.
5. Do less outdoor sports in winter
6. Don't take the elevator below10 floor.
7. Change the fitness menu every three months.
8. Exercise for half an hour every day instead of three hours on weekends.
9. Do aerobics while watching TV.
10. Take a long walk
1 1. Lunch break is also a good time to keep fit, so you don't have to wait until evening.
12. It is comfortable to wear sports shoes barefoot, but it is not good for your health.
13. Sleeping in a semi-hard bed is more beneficial to cervical health.
14. Go to a regular hospital instead of a beauty salon for massage.
15. Don't drink functional drinks when you are not exercising.
16. Rest for half an hour after exercise, and then take a bath.
17. Don't exercise in a noisy gym.
18. Correct posture is more effective than going to the gym.