1. supercilious: you will not be too humble because of inferiority, nor too arrogant because of arrogance.
2. Not kitsch: I won't lose my personality in order to cater to others, and I won't be too arrogant.
3. Not rude: know how to show proper manners and behaviors in appropriate occasions, not too ostentatious or formal.
4. Understanding: Being able to understand and understand other people's thoughts and feelings, and being sensitive to others' hints and needs.
5. Unique charm: It usually has attractive temperament and charm, which can make people feel happy and appreciate.