"Deep feelings, shallow feelings a stuffy, add a tian. A Qian Shan Wanshui has been in love, can you give some face? " This toast sounds very rhyming, but when you think about it carefully, you will always feel bitter. Assuming that the other party really loses face, both parties are embarrassed. In fact, persuading wine is also a university question. Only by persuading it skillfully can you drink well.
Sincere compliments are usually the weakest resistance to compliments, especially on the wine table. People's vanity in a prosperous atmosphere is very easy to soar, and it is inevitable that there will be some "heroic behaviors" beyond the basic. In addition, praise each other's drinking strength, academic performance and work performance on the wine table. If the other party insists on not drinking, it will involve a face problem. Many people's eyes on the wine table will exert an invisible work pressure on them: even if you can drink, you will be proud of your work and won't even drink a glass of wine. Do you look down on everyone? This kind of work pressure is easy for the other person to feel, so he has to take out the goblet even if he has to work under pressure. Suppose my friend Xiao Zhao got a master's degree. At the farewell party held for him by the enterprise, you, as a leading cadre, can persuade him to drink like this: "Many things are grinded, and sweat pours out fruitful results. I mean, friends, I wish you success in your studies. Come on, let's take the goblet and drink it immediately. " Praised and encouraged by leading cadres, Xiao Zhao, who is in a good mood, has no reason not to drink.
Persuade the other person to drink, grasp his advantages first, and end the drink with praise and admiration. Everyone likes to listen to good words, which can not only successfully persuade wine, but also bring each other closer and enhance their feelings.
Challenging each other with irony. As the saying goes, "trees are afraid of peeling, and people are afraid of stimulation." Encouraging others means that everyone has a psychological state of maintaining self-esteem, grasping each other's faults, shortcomings or certain interests, and giving incentives to hurt self-esteem. Confucius once said, "Heaven and earth will be decided in anger." This kind of anger is caused by stimulation, and courage comes from bravery. With this inspiration, a lot of work can be done. Same on the wine table. If you can properly stimulate the other person's self-esteem through challenges and make the other person realize that not drinking this glass of wine may lose face, then the other person will fight to the death and strive to become a hero.
For example, at an enterprise employee gathering, Xiao Zhao would not pour wine after drinking a glass. At this time, you can irritate him like this: "Xiao Zhao, look around, but everyone has a bottle of wine except women." You can't drink this bottle of wine if you are not a villain. Or, I'll call you a bottle of Lulu. You see, female friend, but everyone must have a bottle. "Xiao Zhao was stimulated and said," why did you say I can't drink? I don't believe we are competing. With that, he poured a glass of wine and gulped it down. This incentive method has achieved remarkable results here.
But when using this method to persuade wine, we must pay attention to the discretion. If we don't stop easily, so as not to really hurt each other's self-esteem, two people are happier, and even hurt their easygoing, then we will lose a lot because of a penny.
Playing hard to get is aimed at some people with limited alcohol consumption, especially women and boys. Too much accommodation will not only fail to achieve their goal, but will cause hatred of the other side. At this time, why not choose the strategy of playing hard to get and make some compromises on the intake, that is, drink one for yourself, others, or change to drink. For example, a man suggested a woman to drink water and said, "Xiao Zhao, I'm thirsty. Would you rather not drink? " How's it going? I'll have a drink and you take a sip. If you refuse again, I can feel that I have no face and can only find a sinkhole to get into. "Say that finish, the man lifted his neck and drank it off. At first glance, Ms. Zhang didn't want to shirk it. She can only take a sip.
Playing hard to get is often successful, because the other party insists on not drinking under your hard advice, which is not good for your face. At this time, if you compromise, the other party will get into trouble again.
However, this method is not used by everyone. People who don't know how to persuade them to get drunk after only one drink. So if you want to play hard to get, the premise is that you have a very good drinking ability, even if you suffer a little loss when trying to persuade, it will not damage your performance. On the wine table, learning to be patient is a kind of working ability. Tolerance is the true way of honesty and behavior.
On the wine table, dealing with other people's persuasion, using these three tricks will not hurt the harmony, but also save face.