1, it is not advisable to be close to the villain and far from the gentleman or close to the gentleman and far from the villain. Colleagues should get along with each other in moderation. Don't be too intimate and reveal your privacy, lest the villain hurt you for personal gain.
2. If you offend a villain, be careful of the villain's frame-up;
If things are directly or indirectly related to the interests of villains, be careful not to be framed by villains. Especially the vicious villain, he will implicate the frame-up in important things around you. The villain is good at using important people around you to get back at you and even kill you. So be careful of the tricks of the villain. Because in the face of self-interest, the villain has no concept of being a man at all.
Your password (such as computer password) should be kept absolutely confidential.
5. If you are "harmed", you should seize the opportunity to prove your innocence, not just tolerate it, in case you are framed by a villain again.
6. Observe the people and things around you and try to prevent problems before they happen.
7. Don't tell others about your privacy, lest the villain seize your "handle" and use it to threaten you.
How to deal with people who hide knives in their smiles?
It is not difficult to deal with colleagues like a dagger in the heart. On the surface, we should keep friendly relations with him, but behind his back, we should guard against him. All business decision-making reports related to him should hold a meeting and invite relevant people to attend. Other business information is always avoided, and communication with him is limited to business, personal privacy and even other colleagues. As long as everything is reserved, he can't do it to you!
How to love people who sow discord?
As for those who love to sow discord, the best way is to keep a distance from them outside working hours, and remember to be careful in words and deeds to avoid giving him any "pain". If possible, you can isolate him from other colleagues and leave him helpless.
What about colleagues who are in trouble?
This kind of person is very troublesome and often gets angry because of something. Small things should become big things. When they encounter something or talk about something that has nothing to do with you, don't comment or jump to conclusions. If the incident concerns you, you just need to keep a low profile, and all official documents must follow complete procedures. If you want to make a report, you must report the incident to your superior in black and white and let him decide right and wrong. Of course, don't forget to keep your manners and keep silent afterwards.
Beware of narrow-minded people who love to hold grudges.
Narrow-minded people can't hold anything, they will keep small things in their hearts and even hold grudges for a long time, until one day he finally has a chance to get back at you, and you still don't know what offended him. Narrow-minded people are very jealous, and they can't see that others are better than themselves. Moreover, the more good friends they have, the more colleagues they contact, and the less they want you to get along well and do things well. Narrow-minded people like to haggle over every ounce or argue with you about everything.
The following is a book I read, which was painstakingly summarized. I hope it helps you.
14 several people who have to be guarded against.
Bilateral fall
Such people are snobbish, bully the weak and fear the hard, snobbish for profit, and treat people with one word: profit. They can sell their conscience for the benefit. They are kind to you today, and they may kill you tomorrow for "profit".
This kind of unscrupulous behavior of winning "profits", flattery, selfishness, using others, lack of credibility and sowing discord (especially by belittling others) is the most hateful. ) and so on. . .
You can't have interests and human relations with this kind of person, lest he come to you when he has nothing to do.
When you are framed, deal with a man as he deals with you, expose the villain's face and actions to him, and make him lose face and dare not harm others again.
Remember, you can hate the behavior of villains, but never hate others. When you object to their evil style, never hurt their self-esteem.
Boasting artist
It is the nature of a braggart to brag and lie. But in real life, they are far from what he said. They like vanity and luxury, but they are often teased by smart people.
To judge a liar's tricks, you can observe his mouth shape. When people lie, most of them feel their lips and throat dry, so they often add their lips with their tongues and swallow hard. You can also observe his hands and feet. When people feel uneasy when they lie down, they will tap their fingers on the desktop or chair armrest. The same is true of tapping the ground with your feet. You can also observe your eyes. When your friend tells a lie, his eyes often dare not look at you. This is the strongest hint. In addition, swindlers often inadvertently pull up wrinkles that don't exist on clothes or bounce up dust that doesn't exist. This can avoid eye contact with each other, and scammers will constantly arrange ties or necklaces. This action can only explain the other person's psychological anxiety. In addition, it is also important to observe the legs. When people are lying down, their legs are constantly tilted to separate, separate and tilt, so as to relieve their anxiety.
We only listen to stories of such people. Don't believe it, lest you be cheated.
There is no lock on the mouth.
A person with an unlocked mouth is like a small broadcast, and he likes to broadcast the so-called gossip, secrets and privacy at the same time, or he will always be a gossip. You should have some reservations about this kind of person, because even if he is not a "bad guy", he will screw up a lot of things because of one mouth.
People who don't keep their mouths shut like to make trouble, slander, spread privacy, report, gossip, slander others behind their backs and betray friends. . . . . .
We shouldn't tell such people our privacy or psychological words. Don't leave anything.
When such a person judges others in front of you, never nod in agreement, otherwise it may involve right and wrong. It is best to smile and watch calmly.
Don't socialize too much, or you will hear your own right and wrong from such people and sow discord. At this time, you should calm down and suppress your anger. You can answer, "Oh, really? Thank you for telling me this information. Please rest assured that I won't care. " Let the other side have no holes to drill. Never listen to such people.
If you are framed by such a person and can't clarify the facts, you should clarify the facts with a third party as soon as possible, confront the perpetrator in public, and make the whole story public and expose his true colors.
It's best not to associate with such people. Ignore them and don't trust them.
Free commitment
People who make random promises can take the initiative to promise to do anything for you, but they never realize it. This kind of person can't do anything, but will spoil the broth.
The obvious characteristics of this kind of person are inconsistency in words and deeds, treachery, forgetting profits and lack of sense of responsibility.
Be wary of this kind of person, don't believe his promise, and don't expect too much from him to avoid disappointment. Especially not to entrust him with important things.
As cruel as a wolf
Ruthless people are treacherous, cynical, ungrateful, heartless, unfaithful and unjust, and mercenary. This kind of person is impersonal. On the surface, he is very kind to you. I wonder if it is possible to suddenly fall out with you for the benefit. In their eyes, it doesn't matter to lose conscience, but they can't stand losing money. Such people are full of tricks, so we should be on guard everywhere.
No friends in the mall, no brothers in the workplace. Even friends, if they don't know each other very well, are cheated.
This kind of person is mercenary, jealous, unscrupulous, scheming, unfaithful, dishonest and cunning.
For such people, we should be clever in showing weakness and hiding our edge, especially when there are good things, don't get carried away, be modest and prudent, and don't be arrogant; Take it easy and be generous.
masked man
Masked men are very sophisticated people. They always hide themselves deeply, not letting him know their past, family, classmates, and their views on certain things.
Such people are dull, unsociable, sometimes insidious and difficult to get along with.
cheat
A duplicitous mouth is sweet, and being good at flattery will make you numb and defenseless, but it is often when you are intoxicated that you are taken in by him.
Such people are good at flattery, bullying the weak and fearing the hard, and sowing dissension.
You must be alert to such a person, keep a proper distance from him and reduce contact, so as to have a good observation.
Good goat
Good goats can't pull their legs when they see beautiful women forget who they are. It is understandable to be lascivious when you are young, but it is still lascivious when you are married when you are old. Such people are doomed to be unable to concentrate on their careers and often screw things up because of their color.
For this kind of person, keep a distance from him and avoid unnecessary involvement.
Smiling tiger
This kind of person seems to have no temper and is very nice. If he doesn't fight back or scold back, then smile. But this kind of person is probably a man with a sword in his mouth and a knife in his smile.
You should be careful of this kind of person, don't tell him the secrets revealed in your heart, let alone talk to him about private affairs.
drunkard
The human shortcomings of alcoholics are uncontrollable and often make things worse.
Treat such a person, stay away, even if his ability is no matter how good, it will hurt you one day.
Rebellious son
Rebellious behavior is bad and perverse, without affection and morality. Such people are extremely selfish, and they are used to kicking down the ladder by hook or by crook in order to achieve their goals.
You should make a clean break with such a person, because he can't even give up his parents, and even abuse them, let alone treat others.
air stewardess
Housewives are nosy, bossy and picky. They have things to take care of and nothing to take care of.
Keep your distance from such people, because it is difficult to make friends with such people.
Three unreasonable discriminations
The characteristic of a person who is unreasonable is that his mouth is hard, not that he usually speaks hard, but that he refuses to admit his mistake when the facts are in front of him, and he has to argue and be unreasonable. Look at the problem one-sidedly. Moreover, such people will not dare to make mistakes. It is very painful to get along with such people.
With such unreasonable people, we don't need to conflict with them, and we can't treat each other rudely. Otherwise it will cause great trouble. Never object to others easily, even a small one.
If it's someone around you, you can gently ask him to calm down and show that you feel his hurt. If he continues to embarrass you, you can further show him that you will lose trust in him, but you still have to be calm and don't go too far, lest he won't listen, and the result will be counterproductive.
If it's your boss, you must gently give him suggestions, not opinions, or give him inspiration and encouragement.
If it is someone else, you'd better not argue with him. Stay away.
A seasoned/professional gambler
Gamblers just like to go to the poker table. It was dark when playing cards, and I didn't know how to get off the table.
You should have some reservations about people who are called gamblers, otherwise, one day he will borrow money from you and miss your important event.
I'm tired of dealing with office thugs. Honestly, it's hard.
Just be yourself and don't be too nice to someone!
You have done your own thing well, and everyone can see it, but the villain can't start if he wants to be shady.
My opinion is also far from her. Psychologically speaking, people who love right and wrong are actually most afraid of being ignored, because they will say right and wrong just to attract attention. So the way to deal with her is to ignore her and treat her as transparent!
Let me tell you another secret. In fact, people who listen to her talk about right and wrong on the surface are secretly laughing at her vulgarity and lack of cultivation.
In daily life and work, you will meet people of different shapes. Similarly, you can't avoid meeting small people. I remember Yu Xiansheng wrote an article called Little People in his Notes on Mountain Living. In this article, Mr. Yu summed up several characteristics of the villain and concluded that "the villain is not only a deformity of personal moral quality, but also a unique psychological and ecological way." I think this article by Mr. Yu Qiu is very wonderful. With this idea, I'm going to talk about villains today, as if I were asking for advice from the Fang family.
As Mr. Wang said, it is difficult to define a villain. "They are a group of corrosive gases that cannot dissipate without a trace. They are a bunch of erratic voices and eyebrows. " Little people seem to be such a group. They can't see, touch, float away and haunt. They are a group of dirty mice hiding in dark corners. From the appearance, the villain has no obvious characteristics. The villain's "smallness" is mainly hidden in his heart, hidden in the darkness of behavior, hidden in his heart, but his face is very calm. The villain is both yin and dangerous, yin is outside and danger is inside. The villain has complex psychology and secretive behavior. Because the villain is "small", it often attracts people's attention, but the lethality of the villain is huge, and the harm he causes is far-reaching. At all times and in all countries, many people can serve as military commanders and sages, and die tragically at the hands of villains. The villain is insidious and vicious. They are more terrible than wolves, tigers and leopards. So how did the villain come into being?
In fact, with a little observation, it is not difficult to find that the real villains often have no practical skills, and even have many insurmountable congenital defects. They are inferior at heart. It is because of my inferiority that I am jealous and can't see others. The villain is cunning and treacherous. No matter where the villain is, he has no intention of specializing in a certain job. On the contrary, he thinks and calculates people all day. Maybe your ability is stronger than his, maybe your work performance is bigger than his, maybe you have obvious advantages in some way. In his view, all these may pose a threat to him, even if you have no contradiction with him. When you are absorbed in your work, the villain's eyes are fixed on you, and it is in the dark. You don't know. You don't even know when he will suddenly come out and plot against you. Villains have two characteristics: one is afraid of the sun, and the other is that they can't see the good side. The villain's "smallness" is rooted in the filth of the soul and the meanness of behavior. In a word, the reason of villains lies in the inherent inferiority of human nature.
Speaking of villains, people often show a kind of helplessness. When Confucius summed up the reasons for his failure in politics, he attributed it to the frame-up of villains, so he said, "Only women are difficult to support." Even an ancient philosopher like Zhuge Liang did not have a good prescription for villains. His advice to the monarch was nothing more than: "Choose villains by loving sages." In the 1930s and 1940s, Mr. Ba Jin, a great literary master, was also attacked by villain rumors. At that time, Mr. Ba Jin's attitude was very firm: "My only attitude is to ignore it!" In reality, I don't know how many people have been planted in the hands of small people, and I don't know how many people have suffered from small people.
I don't know if you have noticed, but a gentleman can never beat a villain. Why? Because, a gentleman stresses morality and a villain stresses snobbery. A gentleman does what he says, but a villain does what he says. Gentlemen pursue harmony, while villains deliberately make trouble. A gentleman is strict with himself, but a villain seeks harm. A gentleman is always in the light, and a villain is always in the dark. A gentleman doesn't remember people, but a villain makes friends with others. Gentlemen are rational, while villains are factional. A gentleman takes care of the overall situation, while a villain only cares about his own interests. A gentleman cares about face, but a villain doesn't care about influence. An upright man is open and poised, I am timid. A gentleman is enough, but a villain holds it. In a word, a gentleman seeks things, while a villain seeks people.
Walking in the world, no matter how careful you are, you will inevitably meet a villain. So how should we deal with villains? My advice is to avoid villains as much as possible. As I said before, the villain feels inferior and pathetic. In that case, we might as well make way for the villain. When necessary, you can appropriately lower yourself or defile yourself to reduce the hatred and jealousy of the villain. Didn't the ancients also say that "being afraid of villains is not incompetent"? Therefore, we'd better take a step back first, endure it, make way for the villain, and even if it is inevitable, don't be tit for tat with the villain. In the face of all kinds of despicable acts of villains, you should be calm and never impulsive. Never, like a bee, "devote your whole life to stinging your opponent", let alone treat a villain like a villain. I once said that the best way to treat a self-righteous beauty is to turn a blind eye, turn a deaf ear and ignore her. In fact, this also applies to villains. I think the best way to treat villains is to let villains clean up villains. If you really can't, let God punish the villain. Because "many lines of injustice will be hanged!"
Be quiet. Of course, the workplace is not as good as home, there will always be all kinds of people, there is no need! There are many places to suffer indignities in the future! As long as it's not a matter of principle, let it be.
Never be soft-hearted, waiting for others to bully you.
If it is best to deal with it in reality, or get a bunch of horizontal ones.
Or get a bunch of things. Mom will cure them.
You must deal with a man as he deals with you.
You should take the villain seriously, but you must let him see it.
Of course, there is a kind heart, but it doesn't mean that villains are good to good people.
It's silly to repay evil with good, unless you can control him and make him turn over a new leaf, but if it can't be solved, deal with him as he deals with you, at least you can't infringe on us.
Help you succeed in the end.
How to deal with such a villain as the office? Tell more in silence than they tell in voice. Ignore her, only have a working relationship with them, and don't participate in her discussion, or you will be like them in the near future.