Please each other with a good image.
Pleasers usually please each other by showing their good image. This kind of self-display is not blind self-promotion, but has a certain purpose and direction, that is, most of the pleasers please according to the expectations of the other party.
Modesty is an important way to please people. Because pretending to be modest or really modest can satisfy each other's vanity, thus achieving the purpose of pleasing others. It is common practice to adjust one's mood in order to please the other party, and almost everyone will do it. For example, when you are unhappy and know that the other person doesn't want to see your sad expression, you deliberately smile on your face; When you are happy and he is unhappy, you should look very melancholy, so as not to cause the other person's disgust. In order to show yourself to please others, you have to adjust and control your emotions.
Be good at echoing other people's views.
The so-called echo refers to keeping consistent with the goal in terms of viewpoint, judgment and behavior, so as to win the love of the other party.
There are two kinds of echo, one is differential echo. That is to say, disagree with the target in some unimportant places, and express concrete agreement with him in some decisive issues or critical moments. This method can get good results. Because when you mix dissent with consent, you can avoid giving the impression that you just like to agree. Otherwise, your recognition will be reduced. There is also obvious echo, which will definitely not achieve the ideal effect.
People who have the ability to get along with others can't show it even when they hate others.
Once upon a time, there was a king who dreamed that all his teeth had fallen out at night. The king called a dream interpreter and asked him what the dream meant. After hearing this, the dream interpreter said, "Your Majesty, this is really unfortunate, which shows that your relatives will encounter disaster, because every tooth lost represents the death of one of your relatives!" "
"What, you talk nonsense!" The king shouted at him angrily, "How dare you say such unlucky things to me? How bold! " The king turned and ordered, "Somebody! Drag this guy out and hit 50 boards. " Soon, the king invited another dream interpreter and asked him about the signs of his dream. Hearing the king's dream, the dream interpreter immediately congratulated the king. He said, "King, you are so lucky. This dream indicates that you will live longer than all your relatives! " Hearing this, the king's gloomy face immediately became cheerful and said with a smile, "You are still a clever dream interpreter. The bodyguard immediately accompanied him to the warehouse to collect 50 gold coins. "The consequences of two different expressions of the same meaning are worlds apart.
Consider the problem from the other side's standpoint.
From the other person's standpoint, you will find that you have become the Monkey King in other people's stomachs, and all his thoughts, likes and dislikes come into your sight. In all kinds of communication, you can take your time. Either extend an understanding hand, or beware of each other's evil moves.
Give kindness to others.
When you help a person, let him feel that you care about him, help him or miss him. You should make him feel that you are really good to him, and you should make him like you.
Being able to give people a favor is actually equivalent to giving yourself a favor. Because, when you give, you will get it. This harvest is not material, but spiritual. Because, when you are giving, you will laugh and feel noble. This kind of thinking is your harvest.