A girl who is deeply in unrequited love says that she has never dreamed of the person she likes, which is a very confusing thing for her. It is obvious that the man is troubled by her dream, and she thinks about it day and night. Her whole world is him, and he fills it all the time. However, she never saw him in her dream. Why?
She said, is this person so disgusted with her that he doesn't even want to visit in a dream? Don't miss him so much that he can't even dream, okay?
I asked her, have you confessed to this person?
How dare she confess? How can people have a crush on me I have a pure secret love.
I said, aren't you going to repent?
She said, absolutely impossible things, don't bring shame to yourself, embarrass others, but also be mean to yourself, just think about it and never express yourself.
Are you in pain?
She said that it goes without saying that every second is suffering and there is a heart that wants to die.
I asked her what do you usually dream?
She said it was just some messy daily chores, and there were some irrelevant people who had nothing to do with her, but they dreamed from time to time.
After listening to her words, I suddenly understood.
Why has she never dreamed of that obsessed man? Something deep in her heart-deep defense and escape under great sad thinking.
This girl has two characteristics:
First, excessive rationality and caution.
She firmly said that she would not confess, which showed that she was sensible enough emotionally and had strong self-control. She firmly believes that people will not like her, which shows that she is very inferior inside. She is afraid to confess, but the thought that she will bring shame to herself shows that she has strong self-esteem. She said that this unrequited love made her miserable and wanted to die, which showed that she was very devoted to this relationship. She lamented that perhaps because he didn't like him, she didn't even dream of visiting him. This paranoia shows that her mind is delicate and sentimental.
A delicate and sentimental girl, faced with a feeling that she has no self-confidence, is too rational and cautious, too sure of the impossibility of this feeling, ashamed to say that she likes others and has a sense of inferiority and shame, so she will intentionally or unintentionally suppress her feelings. She thinks she is ordinary, people will not like her, subjectively assume that others don't like her, and constantly hint that it is impossible, which shows that she is psychologically defensive, and this strong self-denial makes her self-disciplined even in her dreams.
Second, excessive pessimism and disheartening.
The girl felt that people didn't like her, so she was disheartened, and because she cared too much about it, she almost filled her whole world, so she exaggerated it. Maybe people just don't like her a little, but it has caused her 10 thousand damage, so she feels that people don't like her very much. Exaggerated frustration and strong sense of inferiority aggravated her negative emotions. This strong negative energy made her subconsciously avoid this matter, which was reflected in her dream. She avoided facing him, so her dream echoed her will and avoided him.
And those people and things that she doesn't usually care about, those passers-by, those daily chores, those people and things that she knows or hates or doesn't feel, often appear in her dreams because she doesn't care about them. These people and things didn't leave a deep impression on her heart. It has nothing to do with her joys and sorrows, and it has not caused her much confusion. She doesn't need to guard against and avoid them, so these irrelevant things can be unimpeded.
Dreams are chasing, dreams are escaping.
People who can't dream are too deep inside. Dreaming of someone you miss is an instinctive self-defense and escape after being deeply frustrated.