The basis for distinguishing between beneficial and useless pursuit of superiority is whether it is in line with social interests. A noble and noble behavior should be beneficial to oneself and society. Therefore, educating a child is to cultivate his social feelings.
Four main lifestyles. Dominance-dominance; Application type; Avoidance type; Good for society.
The pursuit of superiority inspired by inferiority complex will go in the wrong direction. These people will distort the pursuit of superiority into the pursuit of power, control others, be selfish, or indulge in the world of self-imagination and lack the courage to face the real world. And these mistakes are exactly what education should pay attention to.
Improve social interest, face reality and make new life choices.
There are three ways to understand a person's lifestyle: look at his birth order; Early memories; Interpretation of dreams.
Individual psychology is to formulate corresponding educational methods around the fundamental principles of social emotion.
Three basic problems: social relations; How can individuals dedicate and use their lives and play their role in the general social division of labor? Gender issues
The premise of understanding the meaning of individual behavior is that we should have a way to understand his overall personality.
We can prove that some characteristics of children are the result of environmental forces. Children will feel inferior, fragile and insecure in a certain environment, which in turn stimulates their psychology. Children are determined to get rid of this state and strive to reach a better level in order to gain a sense of equality and even superiority. The stronger the child's upward desire, the more he will raise his goal, thus proving his strength. However, these goals often exceed the limits of human ability. Because children can get support and help from different aspects when they are young, these stimulate children to imagine that they will become gods in the future. We find that children themselves are controlled by the idea of becoming gods. This usually happens to children who feel particularly vulnerable.
Therefore, it is no good to cultivate children's ambition. On the contrary, it is more important to cultivate children's courage, tenacity and self-confidence, so that they can realize that they should not be discouraged or lose courage in the face of setbacks, but should treat setbacks as a new problem to solve.
The basic idea of individual psychology is that individual personality (including adults and children) is a unity, and the behavior of this personality is consistent with the behavior pattern gradually formed by individuals.
Schools always try to educate and shape individuals according to the social ideals of each era. Today's ideal is that people should be independent, self-controlled and brave.
Children should be taught not to regard their life as a series of unrelated events, but as a clue that runs through all related relationships.
In each of us, inferiority complex is closely related to the pursuit of superiority. Only when the inferiority complex hinders our pursuit of superiority, or is aggravated to an unbearable degree by the response to organ defects, will it be a psychological problem. At this time, we will feel inferior. Inferiority is an excessive and excessive sense of inferiority, which inevitably urges people to seek easy compensation and deceptive satisfaction, such as laziness and stuttering.
Personal pursuit of superiority and desire for social feelings are based on human nature. Both of them are the fundamental manifestations of longing for recognition and affirmation, and their forms of expression are different. The human nature assumption involved in the individual's pursuit of superiority is that the individual does not have to rely on the group, while the human nature assumption that the individual longs for social feelings is that the individual depends on the group and society to a certain extent.
The child's behavior is not an objective response, but is subject to his unconscious understanding of his early experiences. If he has a wrong understanding of a situation or the ability to cope with a situation, then this wrong understanding and judgment will determine his behavior. As long as this primitive, childhood-formed view is not corrected, no amount of logic and common sense can change his later adult behavior.
It is foolish to evaluate and judge children only by their academic achievements (scores). We should regard the school report as a reflection of the children's current psychological situation.