Therefore, in the past, parents preferred sons to daughters seriously, and girls were abandoned by their parents as soon as they were born, and life and death were left to their fate. With the improvement of people's ideological consciousness, girls are recognized by the society, and the concept of son preference gradually fades from people's minds.
For a long time, two men are more popular than two children, and two children are more popular than two women. A family of two women may be looked down upon by others. But now it's the other way around. Young women born in 1990s said that they hope to have two daughters in the future, instead of Shuang'er. The netizen read this view and responded: Me too.
Lily is the mother of two children. In fact, she and her husband only wanted one child at first, whether it was a boy or a girl, as long as they needed one. Unexpectedly, they were pregnant with twins and gave birth to two sons at a time.
My husband and I are both ordinary working people. My husband works in a factory and works as a cashier in a supermarket. Lily quit her job after giving birth to the baby.
When the two children arrived at the same time, Lili had no job, and the burden of life was all on her husband, who raised three children.
Economic pressure, can only work overtime day and night. The milk powder, clothes and daily necessities of the two children spent a lot of savings at home.
Finally, when the child is young, the child can go to kindergarten, but Lili is worried about the tuition, because the children of other friends around her have gone to the best kindergarten nearby, and she doesn't want her children to lose to other children.
But the tuition of the two children adds up to 15 thousand, and the husband's monthly salary is 6 thousand Lili crustily skin of head sent her children to the best kindergarten, but the living standard at home has dropped to another level.
Now that children are in primary school, the tuition of compulsory education is much cheaper. Lili finally breathed a sigh of relief, but Lili has been worried about the future. The results of the two children are also very average. Lili is worried that their future life will be very difficult. She and her husband have not saved any money in recent years. When two children get married and want to buy a car and a house, it probably won't help. Even if you can, you can only help one.
Lily began to pull a long face at the thought of this. She has to work hard. When someone asks her if her two sons are happy, Lili will jokingly answer: I wish I had two daughters. They are under great pressure.
The Lao Wang family has two lovely daughters. The eldest daughter goes to junior high school, the youngest daughter goes to primary school, and the two daughters are obedient and sensible. When the eldest daughter comes home on holiday, she has to take on all the housework, help her mother wash and cook, and keep the house in good order.
The youngest daughter never lets Lao Wang worry. She will finish her homework on her own initiative when she comes back from school. After finishing her homework, she will watch TV at home without making any noise.
Seeing that the two daughters are so sensible, Lao Wang and his wife said that they don't regret not having a son, and their daughters are no worse than their sons. Other people's little boys are still being chased and beaten by their parents with whips, but their daughters can already wash and cook by themselves, reducing the burden. Lao Wang thinks that his daughter must be a filial child when she grows up, and he is also worried that her daughter will cry when she gets married.
The story of Lili and Lao Wang is just the most ordinary life in an ordinary family. With the development of economy, more and more young people are afraid of having children, because they find it difficult to support themselves. They don't want their children to be born without food and clothing.
Without the ability of parents, young people will choose not to have children. And those young people who have a certain economic foundation also said that they want their daughters more.
Generally speaking, a family with two children is the most enviable, but young people born after 1990s are increasingly convinced that it is better to have two daughters.
Boys have always been called CCB, because a boy means a car, a house and a bride price. My son wants to marry a wife. These are all important to the woman. Even if the girl herself doesn't pay attention to material conditions, the girl's parents won't allow her baby daughter to marry a poor family and suffer hardships.
Many people will make fun of it. A boy is1100,000. In fact, according to the current economic development, one million yuan for a boy may not be enough. At present, the price of a house in a small city 100 square meter is nearly one million, not counting cars and bride price.
Raising a boy is really stressful, but after giving birth to a child, parents will be responsible for the child, scrimp and save, and provide the best material conditions for the child.
Some people may say, why should parents prepare cars and houses for their children? Parents' duty is to bring up their children. Children's future depends on their own hands to create. Why do they rely on their parents?
In fact, parents and children do not want this, but the reality is cruel. Everyone can live hard. Parents don't want to see their children unhappy. If children are unable to create good living conditions for themselves and parents do not help them, they may be unable to get married, which is the last thing parents want to see.
However, in some families with both children, there is a phenomenon that daughters are always wronged. This is also the main reason why these post-90 s mothers want two daughters.
I was born in a family with two children when I was a child, but I was educated at an early age. I have to make way for my brother and leave the delicious food for him. This is actually a kind of "son preference", but it is not as serious as before. In the past, preference for boys meant that girls were not allowed to go to school and did not like girls. Now I prefer boys while accepting girls, so girls are easily wronged.
We are in a society where men and women are equal. Boys and girls are also pregnant mothers in October. With the continuation of life, boys are parents' treasures, and girls are also the apple of their parents' eyes.
Who says women are not as good as men, and women hold up half the sky? Parents of the post-90s generation like double girls, not only because of the pressure of raising boys, but because they see their daughter's intimacy, understanding and intelligence. They like their daughter from the bottom of their hearts and hope that her daughter can become their own intimate little cotton-padded jacket.
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