At present, the single population in China has exceeded 240 million, which is equivalent to twice the Japanese population!
Marriage is a matter for two people. According to the survey, 80% of single men are passive singles!
Men bear the main responsibility in marriage, but in the face of high housing prices and living costs, many male compatriots? The heart is willing, but the strength is not enough? .
Most women want their Prince Charming to be a hero and shelter themselves from the wind and rain.
20 19 the latest survey in the United States (involving the matching study between single women and truly marriageable men in the United States) confirms this point: women don't marry because there are fewer men who match in their eyes.
We can further draw the conclusion that men with ideals often have high incomes, are self-motivated and have their own life goals. Therefore, women refuse marriage because men lack ideals.
Ideals and money
In recent years, gold diggers? This word has become popular.
Would you rather cry in a BMW than laugh on a bike? 20 10, Mano's words in If You Are the One pushed her to the forefront of public opinion.
Countless abuse poured in, and then many women would be put on as long as they married rich people or even female stars? Worship gold? Hat.
Do single women really only care about money? Is it because men are poor that they can't find a marriage partner?
Money is only explicit. The root cause of a person's lack of money is his lack of ability and ideal.
According to psychoanalytic theory, a person's lack of money can sometimes be traced back to childhood.
The origin of attitude towards money
According to Freud's theory of personality development, children will enter the period of anal desire when they are 1~2 years old.
According to psychoanalytic theory, the excrement in the subconscious is money. If we see feces in Love Love, we usually associate them with money when we interpret dreams.
In the period of anal desire, the child first discovers what he has created, and as his first creation, his attitude towards shit also affects his attitude towards his own creation in the future.
Money is also a kind of creation.
Ma Bao may meet children who are interested in shit and invite their parents to watch it together.
At this time, parents should pay attention to it and don't criticize their children severely, otherwise the children will feel that their creations are dirty and poor.
This theory sounds ridiculous, but human nature is so magical.
Money and happiness
Numerous psychological studies have proved a result:
Under the condition of ensuring basic life, the influence of money on happiness will become weaker and weaker.
Not only that, psychologists also investigated those who had amputated their limbs because of accidents.
It is found that at the beginning, patients will be sad because of their disabilities.
But as long as half a year or so, the amputee's happiness will return to normal.
Not only did they lose, but this study also investigated people who won the lottery and were admitted to prestigious schools.
No matter how much money you get, whether you are admitted to Harvard or Yale, you may be excited and happy in the first few months.
In about half a year, your happiness will return to normal.
This is determined by the structure of the human brain. People are very adaptable. No matter how the environment changes, as long as they form inertia, they will take everything for granted.
What do women want?
Money is only a manifestation, and it is a person's attitude and efforts towards life that determine it. And too much money will not increase people's happiness.
Therefore, the reason why a woman refuses to marry is not money worship, but a man who is positive, enthusiastic, ambitious and kind to himself.
I have many single female friends around me. I'm just a working class, and my family is average. But in the face of the pursuit of many rich second generation, they are unmoved and ask why. They always say: I want to find someone who can get along in all aspects.
Many single men are not motivated. They earn thousands of dollars a month and occasionally go out to play with friends. Live in the moment? .
Marriage is a major event in life. Compared with men, women will be more affected by a failed marriage.
So it is reasonable to find an ideal partner.
For men, fighting for the ideal of life is the best way to solve singles!