Dreams are wishes and expectations.
Features: Dreams are hierarchical and directional.
Hierarchical: four or five-year-old children are the first period of independent thinking. At this stage, children's dreams are hierarchical. Because he accepts the stimulation of information, he will have a dream. Give the child more information to stimulate him and make him want, and he will have a dream.
Directionality: through what kind of person the child wants to be, find the direction of his advantages and let the advantages of the child come into play. . The primary school stage is the stage of discovering children's potential, developing people and increasing self-cultivation, not the stage of taking a professional route. It's not just the beginning of discovering that children love playing the piano, so they should be cultivated into Lang Lang immediately. The key point of this stage is to let children travel around the world more, read more books with long mental constitution, and let children have a long world outlook. Only when we really find the dominant direction can we locate which direction to take, that is, when a child 123 years old graduates from primary school, we must establish his dominant field, and the talent direction focuses on fostering strengths and avoiding weaknesses.
Behavioral characteristics of dreams: clear goals. Second, try to move.
A study by Harvard University shows that.
At the bottom, 27% people belong to people who have no goals at all. These people are full of complaints about society, suffering from loss, making the least contribution to society and being the bottom of society.
The second level is 60% people, who are sometimes clear and sometimes unclear about their goals. These people are the majority of society. Not too many goals, not too many achievements.
At the third level, 65,438+00% people have clear short-term goals. These people can be called people who have made great contributions to society and belong to the social elite.
At the top, accounting for 3%, they have clear long-term goals, make great contributions to society, and are leaders who lead society.
Second, the role of dreams.
1. The role of power. When people are alive, they must have motivation and a desire for a better future.
2. The role of navigation marks and lighthouses.
Take children to casinos to travel around the world, so that children can have a long world view. Learning is the only way. Before graduating from primary school, it is time to discover people, develop people, discover children's potential and improve their self-cultivation, not to take a professional route. It is not that children like playing the piano. They should train their children from the beginning, but let them find their own advantages and then decide which direction to take.
Let children travel to the local humanities and nature from an early age, and then travel around the world in groups when they are older. Only by looking at the world can we have a world view. I have never seen the world, and I don't know how to make good interpersonal relationships, choices and dreams. 90% of our children in China have no dreams, and 80% become neets after going to college. ...
Third, the consequences and causes of the lack of dreams.
What are the consequences? Procrastination, inattention, poor grades, weariness of learning, rebellion, internet addiction, puppy love, interpersonal communication disorder, running away from home, suicide or crime.
Reason: The mismatch between school education and family education. The educational function of the school is knowledge education oriented to further studies, and the teachers are professionals who have been trained for more than four to seven years. Family education is a success-oriented life education. However, as far as how to train children to be human beings is concerned, parents are lacking in their studies and majors. Family education has an unshirkable and irreplaceable responsibility in cultivating children's morality, responsibility, belief and interpersonal skills.
Look at the old at three, and look at the old at seven. Do a good job in moral education, responsibility education, faith education, dream education and interpersonal relationship education, and school study will be easy. The most important thing in family education is educating people. To cultivate a person with both ability and political integrity, we need to develop our strengths, bring out our shortcomings, and let children feel more and more fulfilled in his strengths. When he has more and more confidence in himself, he can naturally drive his weaknesses and grow up in an all-round way.
To cultivate children's sense of responsibility from an early age, we should start with the simplest and most effective method-doing housework. Studies have shown that children who do housework have 15 times more employment opportunities than children who don't do housework. In fact, doing housework is the simplest, most comprehensive and most scientific way to develop children's brains. Nowadays, many children are out of step in perception. That's because they do less housework. Do more housework and exercise, and your perception will naturally not be out of tune. ...
There are ten reasons why children have no dreams:
1, parents' ignorance of the law of life
Parents know little about education.
3. Parents don't study classics.
4. Parents lack knowledge.
Parents don't take their children to do social practice.
6. Parents' life is a great event.
7. Parents are materially satisfied.
8. Parents replaced them ideologically.
9. Parents don't trust
10, negative role model of parents
Big arrangement in life will destroy children's responsibilities, material super-satisfaction will destroy children's morality, and big arrangement will destroy children's intelligence. In a word, doting destroys children. There is a WeChat article which is very popular. "How can we fly if you cut off our wings?"
Fourth, how to cultivate children's dreams?
First of all, we must find the child's dominant direction as soon as possible, and foster strengths and avoid weaknesses. By cultivating her strengths, she will have a strong sense of accomplishment, self-esteem and self-confidence, which will make her more eager to learn and dare to think beyond her own will. Through all-round education, children will learn it as soon as they learn.
With 36 subjects of holistic education, we can discover children's academic advantages, cultivate children's morality, responsibility, dreams, beliefs and interpersonal skills, and work hard on moral education. Children will naturally show the results of loving learning, getting high marks in exams, going to prestigious schools and succeeding early.
Today, you may not be a descendant of the nobility, but you may become a predecessor of the nobility.
How to be the predecessor of the nobility? The training program is as follows:
1.
2. Learn Mao's poems, aim high and tell good stories.
3. Travel and see the world
Step 4 do social welfare
5. Do social and professional cognition.
6. Team sports
7. Music and art edification
8. Example influence
9. Parents' concept and systematic learning ability
10. Tutor's guide, workshop, personal tailor
In short, children's starting line is their parents' shoulders. Parents should study hard to make their children progress every day.