Korean family festivals have ancient birthday ceremonies, such as Rujiahui, Jia Zhen and one-year-old banquet. Back to Jia is a family celebration to celebrate the 60th birthday. "Entering Jia" is to celebrate the sixty-first birthday, and it is intended to show respect and filial piety to parents through congratulations. On this day, children, relatives and friends give each other clothes and other gifts. After the banquet, they sing and dance to celebrate. This family celebration is held on the birthday of the elderly and can only be postponed in advance; "Real Armor" is to celebrate the seventieth birthday, and its scale is smaller than Jiahui's. According to Korean tradition, the old couple at the celebration party wore new clothes specially made for them by their children from the inside out, entered the center of the birthday party, and sat down according to the male left and female right. Then the brothers of the same age of the old couple and the old people over 60 in their hometown took their seats in turn, sitting on the left and right sides of the old couple. The mat is filled with traditional Korean foods and drinks such as fruits, fish, sweets, cakes, pastries, dining tables, etc. Children and grandchildren dressed in festive costumes toasted the old man in the order of men, women and children. First of all, the eldest son went to the table and bowed to his father. He stood up and made a toast. After his father finished this cup, he bowed again. Then the eldest daughter-in-law, the second son, the second daughter-in-law, the grandson and so on. , also a toast to salute. After the ceremony, the children began to entertain relatives and friends who came to celebrate their birthdays. During the dinner, everyone sang and danced together, and the scene was very warm and cheerful.
As an important life etiquette, there are also some taboos, which are embodied in "not doing" and "not attending". Mainly used for:
Widowed people don't hold banquets, which shows the success of parents in raising their children. Widowed people who don't hold banquets can't save their parents for their children, so they are not qualified to hold banquets. In fact, it is more difficult for single parents to raise their children. When the children grow up, it is even more important to hold a banquet for such parents. Due to various historical reasons, in the past, Koreans lost their fathers and mothers raised their children alone. When children in these families grow up, they know best how hard it is for their mothers to raise themselves, so instead of thinking that their mothers are not qualified to hold banquets, they are more grateful to their mothers. Therefore, the traditional songs of the banquet are all about their mothers, such as "Long live mom" and "When mom laughs". This does not mean that children bless their mothers more than their fathers. After singing for a long time, I took "I wish my mother a long life" as the theme song of the banquet to express my blessing to my parents.
The seriously ill people don't hold the seriously ill people don't hold the home banquet, first of all, because it is inconvenient for them to participate in the celebration activities; In addition, the homecoming banquet is a happy life festival. No one can be happy in the face of illness, and children are unhappy because of their parents' health concerns, so the significance of holding a home party is lost.
If there is a funeral at home, no funeral banquet is allowed during the mourning period (three years). But now it's the anniversary of the birthday girl's parents, and there will be no banquet in the month when her parents-in-law die. When the children's uncles and aunts die, the home-coming banquet will be postponed, while the death of the aunt's consorts will not affect the home-coming banquet in principle. The origin of this custom is based on the concept that Koreans regard "big brother as father and big sister as mother".
If the child is seriously ill or unhappy, it is a celebration dinner held by the child for his parents. Of course, if the child is seriously ill or encounters other misfortunes, he can't hold it.
If your home is close to one of the four etiquette activities of "three joys and one sorrow", especially if you want to hold a wedding or wedding banquet within one month, don't attend other people's wedding banquets and other important etiquette activities. After attending the funeral, don't attend other people's home party, even if you are very close, you can't go to the home party by the way.
Nowadays, the folk activities of the Korean people's family banquet have been included in the first batch of intangible cultural heritage list published by Shenyang Municipal Government for protection.